Distance and Online in D/s or M/s? It can work.
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Posted:Apr 29, 2023 5:09 pm
Last Updated:May 19, 2024 3:21 am 2112 Views
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I spent a lot of time on Fet during covid and learned that many D/s and M/s relationships continued and flourished while the partners were apart. That led me to muse about distance and online in such dynamics.
First off - there are some people for whom touch and physical intimacy are essential to any relationship and who are only interested in someone local and a relationship that at worst mixes person and online.
That said, unless you are in a 24/7 relationship, or one where you can conveniently see one another every day, some amount of time tending to your relationship will have to be accomplished online by using email, chat, video chat, etc. There tend to be daily assignments, tasks, responsibilities that have to be accomplished and acknowledged and assessed, right? Well, that is true for me.
So, if online is already a part of the dynamic, then what about distance and frequency of in person?
I try to look for partners who are within an hour's drive of where I live and will pledge to see them at least once a week. There might be some other equation that works depending on your situation.
But, if physical intimacy is not essential, if the critical component is serving, obeying, and pleasing and these carry their own psychological and emotional rewards, then purely online can be quite rewarding and considered a viable option.
Again, I must own up and say that I have not had much success in finding local Subs and am therefore biased to find reasons or rationalizations for online and at a distance.
I don't think I explained this as well as I would like. Maybe this is just stream of consciousness. But it seems that in any potential D/s or M/s the option to engage with some not local using online tools should available.
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Music Videos on Profile
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Posted:Apr 28, 2023 5:18 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 5:44 am 2132 Views
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I am an enthusiastic amateur musician - violin and viola - and I occasionally post videos of me playing (yes, I like the attention).
4/28/24 - This was true when I first posted and is true now. I have 6 videos available to view; or not; like my writing, these are primarily for me.
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Reading - it is a Good Thing
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Posted:Apr 26, 2023 4:30 pm
Last Updated:May 19, 2024 3:21 am 1796 Views
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My expectations on the site are so low they are below sea level. And that extends to whether people read the profiles we take time to write for ourselves. These may not be a window into our souls, but they are certainly a window into why we are here - on ALT - and what we are and are not looking for.
I can now tell as soon as I receive a message if someone has read my profile. How? Because I have specified that they must include the Question of the Day when they write to me. If I get a message and it doesn't include the question I reply so long, farewell, goodbye.
But there is more. Sometimes a member will post a long and intelligent post and invite a response to it. And sometimes I will reply. And usually, not always, but most of the time, there is no follow-up. Why bother then, right?
And I have heard it all about the large, huge, epic number of messages people get. I am not sympathetic. I worked for too many years in a world where I got several hundred messages a day and managed to read and control my inbox.
In any event, I will continue to read carefully and reply and respond courteously and, who knows, maybe this will be reciprocated in a way that leads to a connection. I doubt it, but it could happen.
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Does the Story make Sense?
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Posted:Apr 26, 2023 11:47 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 5:38 am 1804 Views
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All of us tell a story about ourselves. The best of us tell a story that is deep rooted in truth and honesty.
But others don't and what those stories have in common is that they don't make sense. There is some flaw in narrative that is easy to detect. A simple example: a woman in her late 40s who asserts she wants to have . Or there is an obvious disconnect between the picture posted and the age given. Or they are looking for love, romance, and their soul mate on a BDSM dating site. It could happen but that is not the way to bet.
And, of course, there is tortured English and horrible spelling. Other examples?
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On Viewing Posted Pictures
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Posted:Apr 26, 2023 11:28 am
Last Updated:May 19, 2024 3:21 am 1689 Views
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You (ladies who post) do know that we (men and maybe other women) check your photos against any number of image databases and report you to the site manager as soon as we see that you are not who you claim to be. It would be nice if that check happened earlier, like when you first upload the picture, but it eventually does happen.
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