Time flies...
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Posted:Nov 13, 2008 7:05 am
Last Updated:May 28, 2024 6:18 pm 16265 Views
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As I was doing my less-than-frequent walk through the halls of Alt this morning, I noticed something that caught me a little by surprise.
I've been on Alt for 5 years as of this week! Has it really been that long?
I'd say time flies when you're having fun - but really, the "fun" moments have been few and far between. Still - I've met a lot of very interesting souls in my time here, as well as a few very close friends.
Of course, five years on Alt means I've been actively studying the BDSM lifestyle for almost 15 years, and have been actively involved for about 10 now. When I think back twenty years and remember how I felt like maybe I was the only one who had my particular cravings... and look out here now and see so many like-minded profiles, it's very encouraging. We often criticize Alt for having too many posers or newbies - but we were all new once, and really this isn't a bad place to dip your toes in the proverbial water. It has served a purpose.
To all the real-time friends (and playmates) - thank you for coming into my life through this space!!! To those I may have only talked to online, I raise a glass to you as well. When we're free from drama (as much as we can be), these chat rooms are a great way for like-minded (and open-minded) souls to realize that we're all in this together - so let's make the most of it!!!
Cheers!!
Nox
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...like the corners of My mind...
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Posted:Sep 1, 2008 9:55 pm
Last Updated:Nov 13, 2008 7:05 am 16744 Views
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I had an interesting day today. I went biking with a friend between Lambertville and Washington's Crossing - naturally (for those who know the area), we parked and met in New Hope and then walked across the bridge.
It's been a long time since I've made it up to New Hope - but walking down Mechanic St. reminded Me of some very good times from 2007, and some wonderful souls I met along the way.
I've been peeking My head out here from time to time, catching up with those I see - but to those I've lost touch with, know that you were in My thoughts today - and that those thoughts certainly brought a smile or two!!
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We can...
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Posted:Jun 29, 2007 9:48 pm
Last Updated:Sep 3, 2008 8:22 pm 16421 Views
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Sitting here tonight, I found myself in a deeply introspective frame of mind - when I suddenly realized that we can dance if we want to, and we can leave your friends behind. Because your friends don't dance, and if they don't dance - well, they're no friends of mine.
And you know what else? We can go where we want to, to a place they will never find. And we can act like we come from out of this world; leave the real one far behind.
And we can dance
Non sequitur? Maybe... but we can dance.
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The Pitcher
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Posted:Jun 15, 2007 10:02 pm
Last Updated:Jun 21, 2007 10:03 pm 16547 Views
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We've all seen these novelties in gift stores - the perpetual pitcher, suspended above a bowl, constantly allowing its contents to fill the bowl; yet remaining suspended above it seemingly braced by the fluid it's pouring.
Compare this to a relationship dynamic of Dominance and submission. The Dominant hovers above the submissive... filling her with strength and joy... nourishing her soul. But what happens when the pitcher is empty, when it is no longer able to be suspended by that which it gives so freely? In some cases, like the novelty fountain, the bowl refreshes and renews the fluid and simultaneously channels it back to the pitcher. In others, the pitcher fights against the forces of gravity as long as it can; expending strength it no longer has, until crashing and shattering.
The secret seems to be finding the right balance point between the pitcher and the bowl - and maybe the balance isn't in what's being transferred after all - but is part of the fabric of space where the pitcher and bowl exist?
More points to ponder in the fluid dynamics of relationships.
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Who would you be? (tagged by mystic)
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Posted:May 4, 2007 5:18 pm
Last Updated:May 4, 2007 7:06 pm 16624 Views
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So mystic tagged me with this question:
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Tag Question:
If you were a literary character; who would you be?
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Answer:
Alobar (Jitterbug Perfume/Bantam Books 1984)
"A lout splashing about in the pools of wisdom will dirty those waters for everyone else."
Alobar was a King, but one for whom kingship held no ceremony... he understood what he didn't know, and knew that the true wonder of life was to learn and experience as much as he could. I always liked his impulsiveness, his sometimes -like wonder at the world, the overall (despite standard human frailties) honorable way he led his life, and the karma that just seemed to envelop him.
For a critical analysis, check out this article from the Illinois Philological Association by Googling 'alobar cass'
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I won't tag anyone else... but if you read this and are inclined to share, please do!
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Appetites
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Posted:Mar 14, 2007 3:01 pm
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2007 10:29 pm 16733 Views
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I had a conversation with a close friend this week about what it is I want and why it seems so hard to find. I explained it this way - it's is like standing outside restaurant and being hungry... all the food on the menu posted by the door looks good enough - but it's not quite right. I want seared ahi on a bed of baby bok choy drizzled with a wasabi/walnut oil and I'm standing in front of Wendy's.
Thing is, I believe there are people in Wendy's who want the ahi too... and there are people who can make the ahi... but, well... we're stuck at Wendy's. The trick is finding the ahi people while not being mistaken for looking for a bacon cheeseburger.
Of course, then there are people who are just baked potatoes - only defined by the topping of the day.
I'm often not sure if this kind of philosophy isn't just nutrition for the soul.
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A rediscovered country
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Posted:Feb 21, 2007 7:03 am
Last Updated:Feb 21, 2007 8:37 am 16550 Views
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I shook the profile up a little today. When I came back a month or so ago, I was incredibly jaded... a series of experiences last year made me really question what role BDSM really had in my life. In essence, my core was shaken.
Those of you who have been around for a while already know what I re-discovered... this lifestyle isn't a choice. It isn't a fad... and while it may be affectionately be called kinky - it's far more than a kink. It is who we are. Doms and subs, friends and playmates, brothers and sisters - we don't choose this, it's part of the fabric of who we are. Walking away, or staying away, was tantamount to cutting off a limb. This isn't what I do, it is who I am.
In my last post I mentioned I'd returned to the chat rooms after a long absence - I'd like to thank everyone I've met or re-met for reminding me that we are a community; filled with diverse and wonderful souls, all of whom have something amazing to offer. Whether it's a deep discourse on existential philosophers at 4am, or a litany of hellos and welcome backs - we all contribute and we all are threads in the tapestry.
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Familiar places, familiar faces
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Posted:Feb 11, 2007 8:16 am
Last Updated:May 28, 2024 6:18 pm 16512 Views
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I've been popping back into chat rooms again - first time in months that I've had the opportunity to spend time there. It's strange how some places can feel comfortable the moment you walk in, and others are just alien anymore. I suppose it's true too that common geography brings a common sensibility as well.
That's it for today - nothing revolutionary, just some random musings.
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One last time
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Posted:Jan 25, 2007 8:28 pm
Last Updated:May 5, 2007 7:36 am 17048 Views
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It's a new year friends, and I'm tired already. Last year had more ups and downs than I counted on, or in the end was able to manage.
Three years ago I joined Alt for the first time - and shortly thereafter met (real-time) someone wonderful - a relationship that was able to combine the best of all worlds - BDSM, vanilla, with a spirit of humor to bridge the gap. That relationship didn't work out, but it left me hopeful that I could truly find what and who I'm looking for here.
Now I'm not so sure. I've met some beautiful souls and some people who are just more intense than anyone should be.
So now, I'm ready to close the book; but not before I give Alt one last chance. If anyone's been able to find real love - and a relationship is well rounded - love, affection, and BDSM - please feel free to post a reply. I'd be interesting in any suggestions you might have.
For now... let the search begin...
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