Online humiliation
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Posted:Dec 28, 2018 3:37 pm
Last Updated:Dec 30, 2018 12:07 pm 1339 Views
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Online humiliation
Online humiliation is the desire to be seen in a sexually embarrassing context on the Internet. This practice allows the submissive to seek fetish partners from across the world. As the Internet has grown and continues to grow, so does online humiliation. Anecdotal reports indicate that the proportion of men being dominated by women on the Internet, through some type of personal service provided for a fee by the woman, vastly exceeds the instances of a woman being dominated online by a man, or another woman.
Common methods of online humiliation:
Public **pillory.
Embarrassing photographic or video assignments for submissives, who must publicly post pictures or videos of their humiliation. The dominant may require public acts or exposure. Sometimes humiliating words are written on the submissive's body before photographing.
Requiring the submissive to post publicly their name, address, phone number, employer, or other personal information.
The requirement for submissives to keep online journals detailing personal information, such as masturbation frequency, thoughts or fantasies, technique or aid(s) used, and disposal of semen (if the submissive is allowed to masturbate).
The requirement for the submissive to place themselves in chastity, and to publicly post a picture showing their status.
Verbal abuse.
Publicly bidding for items that reveal their fetishes.
Money slavery, in which the submissive must buy the dominant gifts and pay the dominant's bills and taxes, or give the dominant direct access to their bank accounts and credit cards.
Homework slavery, in which the submissive must do the dominant's homework or occupational work.
Repetitive assignments, such as copying the phone book.
Humiliating the submissive by changing information on social sites.
Controlling the submissive's computer remotely, through remote desktop software the submissive is required to install.
**pil·lo·ry
1. a wooden framework with holes for the head and hands, in which an offender was imprisoned and exposed to public abuse.
verb
1. put (someone) in the pillory.
2. attack or ridicule publicly.
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Ways to Entertain Yourself and Your Sub in a Hotel Room Without Your Toy
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Posted:Dec 28, 2018 2:53 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 3:15 am 1426 Views
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Techniques And Scene Ideas
How we do what it is that we do
Ways to Entertain Yourself and Your Sub in a Hotel Room Without Your Toys
by Mistress Jet
Scenario: You are away with your SO for a period of time, be it a day or a week or more on vacation. Perhaps you are traveling with family or Vanilla friends and don't dare bring your toys, perhaps the airline "misplaced" your luggage with all your toys in it. Whatever the case you find yourself in a hotel room to so badly but nothing to with? Think again. There are myriads of things to be found in a hotel room or through room service to incorporate in your .
Just think: No whip? How about a wet towel flung across the back of a sub for flogging, or roll up the same wet towel and (remember the locker room) cracking it across the ass of said sub, with the right precision you can make it just like a single tail.
No cane? How about the lucite rod from the window blinds. (Careful not to break it though)
No nipple clamps? In the closet should be at least one pants hanger with the clips on it that slide along a bar.
No blindfold or gag? Pillow cases work wonders as hoods, blindfolds, gags etc.
Want some rubber type mummification? Take down the shower curtain and wrap your sub in it snugly.
Bondage? Take the top sheet and put it under the mattress, pull up the corners and tie to subs ankles and wrists, mattress and weight of the sub will keep them from going far. Or use sheets and lay your sub across the inevitable small table in the room and tie them to the base.
Getting hungry? Order some steaks from room service, request candles for romance. (You know what to do with the candles don't you?) The steak *hardware* should be nice for some *hardware* . Plenty of free ice from the ice machine.
Had to edit a word out and replace it with *hardware*
Want to force your male sub to wank for you but a bit painfully? Try some salt from your dinner tray and mix it with the little free conditioners in the bathroom as a lubricant. (Note: Conditioner also acts very well as a substitute for shaving gel for shaving those oh so delicate places, moisturizes the skin too). And if you want your sub to save his cum for his dessert, there is usually a very clean and disposable shower cap in most hotel rooms, or you can get one from room service.
A lot of hotels have a leather bound folder of some sort in the room for menus or wine lists or what have you. Might make a decent paddle for spanking.
Does your male sub like to have his cock squeezed and crushed a bit? (Who I kidding, it's what the Domme wants right?) How about between the pages of those huge phone books with a little added pressure from the Domme. (Try to keep the book clean though, the shower cap would work here too).
Ask room service for a shoehorn, they are usually plastic and disposable. Might make a nifty speculum or anal probe, hmm?
These were just some thoughts of what one might find in a boring hotel room, as always make sure you always safely, sanely and consensually and when you are done have your sub at least try to make the room look normal again : )
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The Deer Exercise
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Posted:Dec 28, 2018 11:52 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 3:15 am 1658 Views
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The Deer Exercise achieves four important objectives. First, it builds up the tissues of the sexual organs. Second, it draws energy up through six of the Seven Glands of the body into the pineal gland to elevate spirituality. (There is a hormone pathway that leads from the prostate, connects with the adrenal glands, and continues on to the other glands.) Concurrently, blood circulation in the abdominal area is increased. This rush of blood helps transport the nutrients and energy of the semen to the rest of the body.
When energy is brought up into the pineal gland, a chill or tingling sensation is felt to ascend through the spine to reach the head. It feels a little like an orgasm. If you feel a sensation in the area of the pineal gland, but do not feel the tingling sensation in the middle of the back, do not worry. Your sensitivity will increase with experience. If after some time you still cannot sense the progress of energy, certain problems must be taken care of first.
Self-determination is the third benefit derived from the Deer Exercise. If one gland in the Seven Gland system is functioning below par, the energy shooting up the spine will stop there. A weakness is indicated, and special attention should be given to that area. For example, if the thymus gland is functioning poorly, the energy will stop there. The energy will continue to stop there until the thymus gland is healed. When the thymus is again functioning normally, the energy will then move further up along the spine towrad the pineal gland. If the energy moves all the way up to your head during the Deer Exercise, it indicates that all the Seven Glands are functioning well and that there is no energy blockage in the body,. If you do not feel anything during the Deer Exercise, a blockage is indicated. The movement of energy can be felt by everyone if no dysfunctions are encountered.
The fourth benefit of the Deer Exercise is that it builds up sexual ability and enables the man to prolong sexual intercourse. During "ordinary" intercourse the prostate swells with semen to maximum size before ejaculating. During ejaculation, the prostate shoots out its contents in a series of contractions. Then, sexual intercourse ends. With nothing left to ejaculate, induce contractions, or maintain an erection (energy is lost during ejaculation), the man cannot continue to make love. But, if he uses the Deer Exercise to pump semen out of the prostate in small doses, pumping it in the other direction into the other glands and blood vessels, he can prolong intercourse.
Under ordinary circumstances, when the Deer Exercise is not used during intercourse, it will be harmful to interrupt orgasm or prolong intercourse by ordinary means. Under ordinary means, the prostate remains expanded for a long time, unrelieved by the pumping action of the ejaculation, until the semen is carried away by the blood stream. But the prostate is somewhat like a rubber band: it must be allowed to back to its original form, otherwise continuous extension will bring about a loss of elasticity. When the prostate loses its elasticity, its function is impaired and it is damaged. The Deer Exercise prolongs orgasm and intercourse, but it protects the prostate by relieving it.
The Deer Exercise is a physical exercise as well as a mental and spiritual exercise. It improves one's sexual abilities as it builds up the energy reserves within the body. Over time, the mental processes are heightened as well, and the outcome is often a glowing feeling of inner tranquility, which is a necessary prerequisite for the unfolding of the golden flower.
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"BDSM" is the contraction of "B&D", "D&S" and "S&M".
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Posted:Dec 27, 2018 7:10 am
Last Updated:Dec 30, 2018 12:01 pm 1898 Views
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What is BDSM?
Literally, "BDSM" is the contraction of "B&D", "D&S" and "S&M". In practice the term is often used in a a more general sense to cover the range of interests common in the BDSM Scene, such as fetishes, body modification and alternative sexualities, and it implies activities done Safely, Sanely and Consensually (SSC).
Briefly, SSC means respecting your partner's body, mind and free will.
"SM" -Doesn't cover D&S
"bondage" -Doesn't cover S&M
"kinky" -Has negative connotations in some areas
"pervy" -Has negative connotations in most areas
"Wiitwd" -Not used off the Net. (means: What it is that we do)
"BDSM" is widely understood within the Scene, is not offensive to vanillas, and is sufficiently specific to be useful while being inclusive enough not to leave large group within the Scene feeling rejected.
"B&D" stand for "Bondage and Discipline".
"Controller" - one who wants to control someone's physical actions
"controlee" - one who wants thier physical actions controlled
Control can be physical (via bondage) or psychological (via discipline)
"bondage" -any form of physical restraint or hindrance.
"discipline" -the use of rules and punishment to control overt behavior.
Playing safely does not mean giving up all dangerous activities. It means taking reasonable care that you know what risks of physical harm are associated with any activities you consider trying; and, if you decide to go ahead, planning those activities with due thought to optimizing the balance between risk and reward for everybody involved..
Pay attention to what you are doing and use common sense and you'll likely be fine. In general, start out slow and PRACTICE!
What is D&S?
"D&S" stands for "Domination and Submission"
It can also be written "Ds". "D/s", "D&s" or "D/S"
"Dominant" -one who wants to dominate someone (also "dom" or "Dom")
"submissive" -one who want to submit to someone (also called sub)
Domination is the gain and use of control over a sub's emotional reactions by the manipulation of thier mind and body. This may or may not be then used to discipline their physical actions; it can be sufficient to own their soul, but tangible proof of ownership is often found enjoyable.
The difference between Discipline and Dominance is that the Disciplinarian cares that the bottom (or sub) does obey, while not mingling whether they wanted to or not. The Dominate cares that the bottom (or sub) wants to obey, and only minds whether they do actually obey in as much as it proves that they wanted to, of course someone who is into both D&S and B&D would care about both things.
What is S&M?
"S&M" stands for "Sadism and Masochism" or "Sadomasochism".
"sadist" -one who wants to inflict physical pain
"masochist" -one who wants to receive physical pain
"physical mods" -a deliberate and ornamental change in the body's structure that does not risk impairing needed functionality (eg. and ear piercing)
"physical hurt" -a painful insult to the body, causing only repairable physical damage. Any impairment must be limited to less than a finite planned maximum in magnitude and duration.
"physical harm" -physical damage that risks unacceptable or indeterminate impairment of needed functionality.
In S&M the aim is to inflict sensations (such as physical hurt) without causing physical harm.
Not everyone responds to sensations the same way.
There is NO right or wrong amount of pain to be able to withstand, nor is there a correct way it should feel to YOU.
"slave" -This may be defined several ways (the one I find most appropriate for this information is as following: someone into D&S where the relationship consists of using welded (non-removable) collars, powers of attorney and a 24/7 no safeword agreement to make it as permanent as possible.
"top" -someone who is a controller, dominant and/or sadist
"bottom" -someone who is the controlee, submissive and/or masochist
By Definition:
All Masters are Dominants
All Dominants are Tops
All slaves are submissive
All submissives are bottoms
But not necessarily vice versa, and nothing is implied about whether the player has any interest in S&M or B&D. To confuse matters further, some men will describe themselves as Masters, without being Dominant, in hope of getting to play with submissives.(I will get into the further at the bottom of the page).
"Vanilla" -something not part of the Scene. Often used to describe parts of your life, as well as people or activities. *How we (Master and i) refer to those not into the BDSM lifestyle or not into alternative sexual practices such as our).
"edge play" -There is disagreement on what this means. Some people use it to refer to play on the edge of consensual (eg pushing limits). Others mean on the edge of safety (eg play that has a significant risk of causing death or permanent damage) It can therefore be of vital importance to know which definition your potential Top is using.
*****Safe***** *****Safe***** *****Safe***** *****Safe*****
Playing safely does not mean giving up all dangerous activities. It means taking reasonable care that you know what risks of physical harm are associated with any activities you consider trying; and, if you decide to go ahead, planning those activities with due thought to optimizing the balance between risk and reward.
Pay attention to what you're doing and use common sense and you'll likely be fine. In general, start out slow and PRACTICE!
BDSM can be sexual, exciting, humorous, artistic, healing, calming or magical. Or it can be none of these things; for some people sex is intrinsically part of BDSM, while for other it is totally unconnected.
Once you actually look at people who are involved in BDSM, and at what they do, you realize that what is actually happening is a powerful expression of love, which expands into sensual realms outside the ordinary. True BDSM is consensual, strengthening, and sustaining; true degradation is NOT. Therein lies the difference, and it is truly an all important difference.
Occasional debates here revolve around the (relatively few) people who practice full-time Dominate/submissive relationships. Such relationships require lots of self-inquiry and self-examination to see that both partners are benefiting and growing. Sometimes the claim is made that such BDSM relationships are just ways for the Dominant to break down their submissive's will and to accept abuse because the submissive (according to the Dominant, and perhaps in submissive's own opinion) deserves no better. (This essentially what a wife-battering husband does: he takes control of his wife self-perception and convinces her that the abuse is the necessary price to be paid for her to remain with him; it is no more than her due. And more however, she is NOT to complain.)
This kind of relationship is NOT a consensual BDSM relationship; the Dominant in a consensual relationship listens to and respects the limits of their bottom, and does not seek to break down the bottom;s personality, but rather to build it up through the kind of relationship that both enjoy and desire.
Feminism
Some people wonder how women into BDSM can consider themselves feminists. Isn't feminism about controlling your sexuality, about not submitting to anyone else, ever? Personally, I believe (and many women in the lifestyle do agree) that feminism is about empowering women to make their OWN choices, to live life their own way, without being limited by ideas about what women "Should" do or how they "ought" to behave.
Negotiation
The negotiation concept in the BDSM community simply means open, honest communication about what you fo and don't want. Negotiation in this sense is not a bargaining process, where one person is trying to get something at the expense of someone else; it's a win-win technique where you're both talking about what you've done and what excites and doesn't excite you, so you can feel more comfortable and turned on together.
Be communicative. Let your partner know what you want and don't want. Keep the dialogue going; watch your partner, be aware of what she or he is feeling and thinking.
Don't let yourself be pressured into anything, Be HONEST.
Consensual
The simple rules:
1. Don't play with people who can't be held legally responsible for thier own actions.
2. Know what your partner's limits are (what they do and do not consent to)
3. Make sure your partner has a way to indicate that they withdraw thier consent, if they change their mind during the scene. (safeword or safe actions)
5. If you are about to do an action to them which they would have no chance to indicate their lack of consent to before it happened, and there is any doubt that they might not consent, ask them beforehand to indicate their consent explicitly.
6. If at any time you partner, while in a fit state of mind, indicates that they do not consent to your doing an action to them, or that they have withdrawn consent they previously gave, then don't do it.
7. If your partner is not in a fit state of mind to choose whether to consent or not, which can happen on occasions such as when drunk, asleep, or drugged, then it is your responsibility to take that choice for them. In general you should know not to play with them, unless you gained their explicit consent beforehand to play with them in this condition.
One exception to that would be when a masochist is so high on endorphins that they are in not fit state to judge whether to continue or not. (sub-space)
Safeword
Using a safeword can be hard to do sometimes. It's important to realize that no one is perfect, and if you as a Top do something that squicks your bottom (i.e. pushes beyond your bottoms limits) it doesn't mean you're a bad lover or a bad person. It only means that you ran into a limit you didn't know what there, or you were tired or disconnected and not in tune with your bottom. It happens to everyone from time to time. If you as a top feel burned out and want to stop the scene suddenly, or you get a powerful reaction you weren't expecting and aren't sure how to continue, you can use a safeword too.
A safeword is just a communication tool, nothing more, nothing less. If you're playing intensely, it may feel hard to stop the scene, to come back from the edge via safeword... but if you need to, that's what they're for. Some Top deliberately push their bottoms until their bottoms call safeword; this way, the bottom gets the experience of using it.
**My Note: I have pushed people to say red or even cry,however,it was discussed before hand that they wanted to be pushed.If at any time they change their mind...its not worth it to continue. Not only does the bottom type person feel lousy,you might find yourself feelin the same exact way.Regretting actions taken IS NOT better than not doin them at all. The chance to do them may come about later,take your time.**
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Housework -Or How To Truly Serve Your Domme by Macavity
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Posted:Dec 26, 2018 6:34 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 3:15 am 1270 Views
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Housework- Or How To Truly Serve Your Domme by Macavity
If you are truly interested in submission and service you need to know how to clean a house and keep it that way. You probably don’t like housework. You may even hate it. Well, guess what? So does your Domme, and if you really want to please Her and show your devotion there are few better ways to do it than keeping Her place clean so She doesn’t have to. Furthermore, the less time She has to spend on housework, the more potential playtime there is. And if you have a happy Domme, who isn’t tired from housework, and has time and energy to play, you are going to be in subbie heaven.
Now it doesn’t sound like housework is very difficult to do. But if you are going to do it right it requires time, effort, and technique. Time isn’t usually a problem; at least not once you’ve got the place mostly clean. Effort is up to you, but I hope the first paragraph will sufficiently motivate you. Technique is what this article is about. Most people, women as well as men, don’t do any more than they have to to keep the place neat. If you are going to serve a lifestyle Domme, you are going to have to do a lot better. You are also going to have to learn the basics of cooking, but that’s another article.
So, you’re motivated and ready to learn, right? Ok, the first things you are going to need are cleaning supplies. There aren’t really that many that you need. Tub and tile cleaner, glass cleaner, general purpose cleaner (like 409), toilet cleaner, cleanser or softscrub, ammonia, oven cleaner, and furniture polish. You will also need a toilet bowl brush, mop, duster, vacuum cleaner, broom, dustpan, some cleaning rags, nylon scrubbers, rubber gloves, a bucket and a toothbrush. Wear some ratty clothes for cleaning, even if you dress fem. A French Maid’s costume may be a turn on in some circumstances, but you’ll only ruin it if you wear if for serious cleaning. Once you have the house in a condition where it only takes a few minutes of maintenance a day you can dress up. But a first time cleaning is almost as messy as painting, if not more so.
You should start at one end of the house or the other. Whatever room you start in, start at the ceiling and work your way down. Work from one end of the room to the other and whatever you pick up put it where it goes immediately. Never move things around more than once. Take your duster and knock down any cobwebs from the walls and ceilings. Dust whatever is on the shelves or other horizontal surfaces. Throw away any trash. Put away anything that is out of place. Use furniture polish on any appropriate wooden surfaces. Use glass cleaner on any windows, computer monitors, or television screens. Use your general purpose cleaner for anything that doesn’t wipe up by itself on non-glass surfaces.
Make sure you dust all electronic equipment; they are magnets for dust. After you clean the top of something, clean the underside. Use the toothbrush for any hard to reach areas that you can’t get to with your rag. Sweep or vacuum the floor carefully; a quick once-over will not do the trick. If you are vacuuming, move the vacuum cleaner slowly over the carpet and cover each area three times. If you are sweeping, sweep each area three times and make sure to pull any dust bunnies off the end of the broom so you don’t merely move the dirt around.
Take a cleaning rag and some cleaner and make sure the floorboards are clean. If you have a tile or wood floor you are going to have to mop it. When you mop, use a combination of ammonia and hot water. Start at the far end of the room and work your way out backwards. Mop a 3-foot by 3-foot section and wring out the mop before doing the next one. Use a scrubby pad under your shoe for anything that doesn’t come right out with the ammonia and water. When you finish mopping, dump out the dirty water and refill the bucket with pure hot water. Repeat the mopping process to clean up the ammonia and any residual dirt. When the floor dries, it’s time to apply wax. Some people prefer liquid wax, but if you are going to use it, you need to use a separate mop from your cleaning mop; otherwise the wax will interfere with your next cleaning. You can also use spray furniture wax and buff it out by hand. It makes a very nice shine. If you are really lucky and have a buffer you can use soft wax and buff it out. Buffers also can be used to loosen dirt and grime before mopping if you use the right pad. Supposedly, you can buff out soft wax by hand, but I’ve tried it many times and it just doesn’t come out very well, no matter how much elbow grease you use. When you finish one room, give yourself a quick break and some sort of reward coffee, cigarette, chocolate, etc.
This procedure should cover most of your house. But there are two rooms that require special attention: the kitchen and the bathroom. Most of the house has to be clean; these rooms need to be sanitary. Clean isn’t good enough. If your bathroom has ventilation problems like mine, you are going to need to start by mopping the ceiling with hot water and ammonia. Next, clean the tub and tile with the cleaner of your choice. For many of these cleaners you are going to need the rubber gloves. If the cleaner doesn’t get rid of all the soap scum, it’s time to break out with the cleanser and a scrubby pad. Apply a little water to the pad, sprinkle cleanser around the tub and scrub. Don’t use the ammonia water to rinse it off with. Most cleansers contain some form of chlorine bleach and the combination of bleach and ammonia produces very toxic gas. Spray the toilet bowl cleaner liberally under the rim and use the toilet brush to spread the cleaner evenly around. Use the tub and tile cleaner and clean the top of the toilet, the toilet seat, and the outside of the toilet while the bowl cleaner has a chance to work. When you are done with the outside, vigorously clean the inside of the bowl. Rinse your rubber gloves off with hot water and remove them. Clean the sink and the walls the same way you cleaned the tub and tile. Remember, start at the top and work your way down. Mop the floor as described earlier and replace any carpeting and toilet lid covers. Oh, and make sure the soap dish is clean.
The kitchen is a little easier.You won’t need rubber gloves unless you have to clean the oven. Get another bucket of ammonia and hot water. Dust the ceiling, wash the walls, open the refrigerator, get rid of anything that is moving under its own power. Remove items from shelves. Wash shelves, scrubbing where necessary, rinse shelves, replace shelves, and replace items. Clean the outside of the refrigerator. Scrub the counters. Clean the stove (this involves cleaning the drip pans under the burners), don’t ignore the sides of the stove. If the inside of the oven is dirty, clean it. If you are lucky it will be a self-cleaning model. If not, you are going to have to use oven cleaner. You will need rubber gloves for this because oven cleaner will take the skin right off you. Follow the directions on the can exactly. Clean the microwave using general purpose cleaner. Dump and refill the bucket of hot water and ammonia. Sweep the floor thoroughly and mop, rinse, and wax it. Change into some decent looking clothing and wait for your Domme to arrive or to inspect it. Remember to be thorough. The cleaner most things are, the more a dirty spot is going to show by contrast. If you’ve done your work well, you will have pleased Her. If you’ve done it poorly, you will have to do it over, possible using nothing but the toothbrush. I’ve experienced the toothbrush only method while in the Army. It doesn’t really clean any better, but it will teach you to pay attention to your work.
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Lists of Punishments, Teases, Humiliations, etc.
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Posted:Dec 26, 2018 6:21 am
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2018 11:51 am 2811 Views
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Lists of Punishments, Teases, Humiliations, etc.
Below is a *LONG* list of Punishments,Teases and Humiliation ideas.
This list was provided to us by MrStefen and was so good I just had to share. Take a Look - and have a good time!!
List of teases:
- Make him strip naked and stand with he legs apart while you sit in a chair in front of him with your clothes on. Make him masturbate in front of you till he is hard and then with his hands on top of his head, order him to swing his cock and balls around with vigor.
- Have him kneel before You and worship your feet. Make him clean between your toes and spend some time doing this.
- Have him address you as 'Mistress'
- Have him kiss Your ass...make him beg to kiss Your ass. Have him tell you that he wants to be your "ass slut" and tease him about this. Don't let him have you right away, waiting till he pleads with some seriousness in his voice.
- Tie his hands behind him and have him remove your panties with his teeth.
- Don't let him masturbate or touch his cock for 4 or 5 days. Make him go and get a small saucer from the kitchen and kneel in front of you and masturbate , his cum to be shot in the small saucer.
- Tie his hands behind his back. Have him kneel with knees spread naked in front of You while you read or watch TV. Be wearing high heels and tell him to keep his eyes lowered. Occasionally, nudge and tease his balls and penis with Your shoes.
- Use some thick yarn and tie a slip noose in the end of his hard penis...tighten it around the head of the penis, tug on it, pull it shake it, lead him with it, whatever you please.
- Show Your slave your panty crotch, make him smell it, but no touching.
- Tie your slave spread eagled to the bed and tease him for hours. Use ice cubes on his balls, warm massage oil to masturbate him slowly, etc....Make sure he has a big hard on, but once he does only touch it, when he needs just a little more encouragement, don't let him cum.
Put on his favorite lingerie or domina costume on and tease him with it.
Scratch him with your finger nails, Tickle him, run a feather up and down the inside of his thighs, pinch his nipples, generally torment him, and keep him aroused, but no cumming till you are ready to allow it.
Sit on his chest and find out what he would do to be allowed to kiss your nipple..let him almost kiss it but pull away, make him beg.
Take a break, put some worn panties over his face and leave the room for a while and let him think about what else you might do.
Squat above his face, make him reach with his tongue to taste you.or your panties...get more promises
Blindfold him and make him lick you to several orgasms. Take a break,cum back and do it all again.
- Rub his face against your pussy or sit on his face, but gag him with your panties or a gag so that he can't lick you.
- Tie his balls off to something behind him so he has to tug on them to smell Your panties or kiss your ass...stay just out of reach.
-tie his balls with some thick yarn and attach the end of that to an object with a little weight, like a hammer, or a weight from a weight lifting set, make him drag this across the floor behind him while you walk beside him and switch his bottom.
- Masturbate in front of him. Use a dildo or a vibrator.
- Put the base of the dildo in his mouth and make him satisfy You with it.
Do it so his nose presses between Your ass cheeks. He'll be Your little brown noser and love it.
- Make him lick the dildo clean.
- Tie him down to the bed and tie his hands to his penis but do not give him permission to cum with harsh punishments for disobedience.
- Put Your worn panties over his head so he can smell your odor.
- Make him wear a cock ring (a cat collar works well), get him hard, and then snap the end of a plastic fly swatter down gently across just the tip of his penis.
List of Humiliations:
Once he'll "do Anything to please You" here's some ideas that will keep Your slave attentive and in his proper place, and will hopefully be entertaining for You.
- Make him wear Your panties or lingerie, dress him up as a little girl or a French maid, have him serve you dinner or bring you a drink while you read or watch TV. When you have no need for him he can stand in the corner with his noise pressed against the wall.
- Make him do housework naked or dressed in women's clothes.
- Make him hand wash your panties and lingerie.
- Make him wear a collar and lead him around with a leash like a dog, he can even eat dinner from a dish on on his knees at your side when you are at the table..
- Ride him around as your pony boy...spurs? a riding crop?
- Attach a leash to his balls or cock ring, and lead him around with that,
- Tie it off in front of the sink while he does the dishes.
- Dress him up like the slut that he is, wear a strap-on dildo and make him beg to suck it. fuck him.
- Make him wear Your panties or lingerie under his regular clothes when he goes out or goes to work so that he will think of his Mistress constantly.
- If he is horny and You are not, make him strip and kneel silently in front of You and order him to stay erect.
- Make him masturbate for You, make him beg for permission to cum, don't let him, punish him if he does.
- Make him earn his rewards; for example:
Allow him to kiss your ass after the dishes are done.
1 minute of pleasure for him for 10 minutes of yours.
5 minutes of pleasure for him after he makes you cum 3 times.
Spank him 10 times for each minute it takes him to jack off.
- If You think he's earned an orgasm, make him cum on your feet or on your heels or in a dish or on your ass and then make him lick You clean.
- Order him to bring himself to the edge of orgasm and stay there until you give him permission. When you give the command he must cum within 30 seconds or he will be punished or not allowed to cum at all that day.
- If he's really horny and bothering you, you may want to curb his interest by ordering him to jerk off 2 or 3 times in a day, or you can do this for him....there are a variety of things that can be used to create different sensations.....gloves, cremes, creme with coffee grounds on the hand....nylon sleeves, etc.....
- Make him lick you clean after sex.
- When You go out, order him to tie himself up, be naked or dressed up as a girl and be kneeling at the door for when You arrive.
- Make him think of a new way for You to humiliate him.
Punish him if you don't think it's good enough.
List of Punishments:
If he's not performing to Your satisfaction, or you just feel the need to assert Your right to punish Your slave.
- Spank or whip him. (wooden spoon, hairbrush, belt, ruler, ping pong paddle...)
- Tie him in an uncomfortable position.
- Tie his ankles together and attach his balls to them.
- Hog tied. (wrists and ankles tied together)
- Hanging from the ceiling by his wrists.
- In a chair with his knees pulled up to his shoulders - good for spanking and everything is exposed and vulnerable. Use a small plastic swizzle stick to probe his ass. Or buy rubber gloves and make a big production of putting them on when he is tied with his knees to his chest.....Give him a slow prolonged anal exam.
- Tie up his balls and cock with a long leather thong, clothes line, or boot lace. Use a long piece, and wrap the base and balls repeatedly.
Do each ball separately. Take each ball in a separate hand and rest them on your open palm. tell him that these use to be his but they belong to you know. to use, or play with as you want. Jiggle them in your palms....cup each hand around them and squeeze very slowly and somewhat gently, but until you see him grimace...ask him who owns these things now.
Tie tight loops around his shaft from base to tip then tie the end off back between his legs and up to a belt or to his handcuffs. Use a needle to scrap along his shaft lightly, and poke his bottom a few times....
- Make him wear a male cock cage.
- Attach clothes pins or nipple clips to his nipples, balls, cock or wherever.
- Put a butt plug in his ass. Or get out the strap-on.
- Enema.
- Don't give him permission to cum. Deny him orgasms for a long period of time.
- Put Ben-gay or icy-hot on his penis and nipples. (not on his balls, and doesn't wash off with water....)
- Drip candle wax on him.
- Make him do exercises (jumping jacks, leg spreads, squats,aerobics...) while naked.
Put on some opera length gloves and tell him he has earned a face spanking. Make him kneel and hold head high and slap him repeatedly, {note from Domina, PLEASE check out our faceslapping FAQ before you do this!} not too hard, but over and over till he gets a little dizzy. grab him by his ears and pull his head down between your legs and make him service you. before you cum, put him back in position and slap his face a few more times....repeat as often as you like. While you are positioning him for a slap, jiggle his balls with the tip of your high heel and tell him what a nasty little boy he is...
Make him order a blow up doll from the back of some sex mag, and have him bring it into the living room. Make him blow it up and set it on the coffee table. Don't say anything about it for an hour or so, then have him strip and fondle him till he is hard. Make him mount the doll and screw it while you watch, or while you paddle him....or tickle his ass cheeks with a long feather.....make him talk to her, give her a name and say sexy things to her while he is humping her.....have him do it till he cums and tease him about what a little stud he is.....and how you may let your girlfriend xxx watch this one time, or how the guys at work would love to see this....
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One of the forms I like to use as a reference before play
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Posted:Dec 24, 2018 6:42 am
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This is just one example.I use a couple different ones. I dont expect them to be filled out right away but its something people should think about ahead of time.
Code Guide Y = Yes
N = No
M = Maybe
IDK = I don't know
F = Fantasy
N/A = not applicable
Body Boundaries
___ A partner touching me affectionately without asking first
___ Touching a partner affectionately without asking first
___ A partner touching me sexually without asking first
___ Touching a partner sexually without asking first
___ A partner touching me affectionately in public
___ Touching a partner affectionately in public
___ A partner touching me sexually in public
___ Touching a partner sexually in public
___ Having my shirt/top off with a partner
___ Having a partner's shirt/top off
___ Having my pants/bottoms off with a partner
___ Having a partner's pants/bottoms off
___ Being completely naked with a partner with the lights off or low
___ A partner being completely naked with the lights off or low
___ Being completely naked with a partner with the lights on
___ A partner being completely naked with the lights on
__ Direct eye contact
__ Being looked at directly, overall, when I am naked
___ Grooming or toileting in front of a partner
___ A partner grooming/using the toilet in front of me
___ A partner looking directly at my genitals
___ A partner talking about my body
___ Talking about a partner's body
___ Some or all of a disability, identity or difference I have being specifically made part of sex, sexualized or objectified
___ Some or all of a disability, identity or difference a partner has being specifically made part of sex, sexualized or objectified
___ Some or all kinds of sex during a menstrual period
___ Seeing or being exposed to other kinds of body fluids (like semen, sweat or urine)
___ Shaving/trimming/removing my own pubic hair
___ Shaving/trimming/removing a partner's pubic hair
___ Other: Shaving because partner asks me to. I have an oath not to shave except my face and chest. I am both genders spiritually.
Some parts of my body are just off-limits. Those are:
I am not comfortable looking at, touching or feeling some parts of another person's body. Those are:
I am triggered by (have a post-traumatic response to) something(s) about body boundaries. Those are/that is:
Words & Terms
I prefer the following gender/sexual identity or role words (like man, woman, boi, femme, butch, top, etc.) to be used for me:
I prefer my chest or breasts be referred to as:
I prefer my genitals to be referred to as:
I prefer my sexual orientation and/or identity to be referred to as:
Some words I am not okay with to refer to me, my identity, my body or, or which I am uncomfortable using or hearing about, with or during any kind of sex are:
I am triggered by certain words or language. Those are/that is:
Relationship Models & Choices
___ A partner talking to close friends about our sex life
___ Talking to close friends about my sex life
___ A partner talking to acquaintances, family or co-workers about our sex life
___ Talking to acquaintances, family or co-workers about my sex life
___ An exclusive romantic relationship
___ An exclusive sexual relationship
___ Some kind of casual or occasional open/non-exclusive romantic relationship
___ Some kind of casual or occasional open/non-exclusive sexual relationship
___ Some kind of serious or ongoing open/non-exclusive romantic relationship
___ Some kind of serious or ongoing open/non-exclusive sexual relationship
___ Sex of some kind(s) with one partner at a time, only
___ Sex of some kind(s) with two partners at a time
___ Sex of some kind(s) with three partners at a time
___ Sex of some kind(s) with more than three partners at a time
___ A partner directing/deciding for me in some way with sex
___ Directing or deciding for a partner in some way with sex
___ Other:
___ Other:
Safer Sex and Overall Safety Items and Behaviors
___ Sharing my sexual history with a partner
___ A partner sharing their sexual history with me
___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose high risks of certain or all sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose moderate risks of certain or all sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose low risks of certain or all sexually transmitted infections (STIs)
___ Using a condom with a partner, always
___ Using a condom with a partner, not always
___ Putting on a condom myself
___ Putting on a condom for someone else
___ Someone else putting on a condom for me
___ Using a dental dam, with a partner, always
___ Using a dental dam, with a partner, not always
___ Putting on a dental dam for myself
___ Putting a dental dam on someone else
___ Someone else putting a dental dam on me
___ Using a latex glove with a partner, always
___ Using a latex glove with a partner, not always
___ Putting on a latex glove for myself
___ Putting on a latex glove for someone else
___ Someone else putting a latex glove on me
___ Using lubricant with a partner
___ Applying lubricant to myself
___ Applying lubricant on a partner
___ Someone else putting lubricant on me
___ Getting tested for STIs before sex with a partner
___ Getting regularly tested for STIs by myself
___ Getting tested for STIs with a partner
___ A partner getting regularly tested for STIs
___ Sharing STI test results with a partner
___ Doing things which might cause me momentary or minor discomfort or pain
___ Doing things which might cause a partner momentary or minor discomfort or pain
___ Doing things which might cause me sustained or major discomfort or pain
___ Doing things which might cause a partner sustained or major discomfort or pain
___ Being unable to communicate clearly during sex
___ Having a partner be unable to communicate clearly
___ Initiating or having sex while or after I have been using alcohol or other recreational drugs
___ A partner initiating or having sex while or after using alcohol or other recreational drugs
___ Other:
___ Other:
I am triggered by something(s) around sexual safety, or need additional safety precautions because of triggers. Those are/that is:
Sexual Responses
___ Experiencing or expressing unexpected or challenging emotions before, during or after sex
___ A partner experiencing or expressing or challenging emotions before, during or after sex
___ Not experiencing or expressing expected emotions before, during or after sex
___ A partner not experiencing or expressing expected emotions before, during or after sex
___ Feeling and being aroused (sexually excited), alone
___ Feeling and being aroused, with or in front of a partner
___ Having genital sexual response, like erection or lubrication, alone
___ Having genital sexual response, like erection or lubrication, seen or felt by a partner
___ Not having or "losing" erection or lubrication, alone
___ Not having or "losing" erection or lubrication, with or in front of a partner
___ Being unable to reach orgasm, alone
___ Being unable to reach orgasm, with a partner
___ Having one orgasm, alone
___ Having one orgasm, with or in front of a partner
___ Having more than one orgasm, alone
___ Having more than one orgasm, with or in front of a partner
___ Ejaculating, alone
___ Ejaculating, with or in front of a partner
___ Having a partner ejaculate with me/while I'm present
___ Having an orgasm before or after you feel like you "should" with a partner
___ Having a partner have an orgasm before or after you feel like they "should"
___ Making noise during sex or orgasm, alone
___ Making noise during sex or orgasm, with a partner
___ Having sex interrupted by something or someone external or your own body or feelings
___ Other:
___ Other:
I am triggered by certain sexual responses of my own or those of a partner. Those are:
I like or don't like having or giving certain kinds of sexual aftercare (like snuggling or reaffirming emotional feelings). Those are:
"Receptive" means the person in a given activity who is taking someone else into their body in some way, and "insertive" means the partner who is putting themselves into another person. "Giving" means a person doing something to someone else, and "receiving" is the person having something done to them. Language for these things is imperfect, though, since any time we're actively having sex with someone else, everyone is the "doer" not just one person.
Physical and/or Sexual Activities
___ Masturbation
___ Holding hands
___ Hugging
___ Kissing, cheek or face
___ Kissing, closed-mouth
___ Kissing, open-mouth
___ Being kissed or touched on the neck
___ Kissing or touching a partner's neck
___ Giving hickeys
___ Getting hickeys
___ Tickling, doing the tickling
___ Tickling, being tickled
___ Wrestling or "play-fighting"
___ General massage, giving
___ General massage, receiving
___ Having my chest, breasts and/or nipples touched or rubbed
___ Touching or rubbing a partner's the breasts, chest and/or nipples
___ Frottage (dry humping/clothed body-to-body rubbing)
___ Tribadism (scissoring, rubbing naked genitals together with a partner)
___ A partner putting their mouth or tongue on my breasts or chest
___ Putting my mouth or tongue on a partner's breasts or chest
___ Masturbating in front of/with a partner
___ A partner masturbating in front of/with me
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers on penis or strap-on), receiving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers to penis or strap-on), giving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers on testes), receiving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers on testes), giving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers on vulva), receiving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers on vulva), giving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers inside vagina), receiving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers inside vagina), giving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers on or around anus), receiving
__ Manual sex (hands or fingers on or around anus), giving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers inside rectum), receiving
___ Manual sex (hands or fingers inside rectum), giving
___ Ejaculating (coming) on or in a partner's body
___ A partner ejaculating (coming) on or in my body
___ Using sex toys (like vibrators, dildos or masturbation sleeves), alone
___ Using sex toys (like vibrators, dildos or masturbation sleeves), with a partner
___ Oral sex (to vulva), receptive partner
___ Oral sex (to vulva), doing to someone else
__ Oral sex (to penis or strap-on), receptive partner
___ Oral sex (to penis or strap-on), doing to someone else
___ Oral sex (to testes), receptive partner
___ Oral sex (to testes), doing to someone else
___ Oral sex (to anus), receptive partner
___ Oral sex (to anus), doing to someone else
___ Vaginal intercourse, receptive partner
___ Vaginal intercourse, insertive partner
___ Anal intercourse, receptive partner
___ Anal intercourse, insertive partner
___ Using food items as a part of sex
___ Cross-dressing during sex
___ Having a partner cross-dress during sex
___ Biting a partner
___ Being bitten by a partner
___ Scratching a partner
___ Being scratched by a partner
___ Wearing something that covers my eyes
___ A partner wearing something that covers their eyes
___ Having my movement restricted
___ Restricting the movement of a partner
___ Being slapped or spanked by a partner in the context of sexual pleasure
___ Slapping or spanking a partner in the context of sexual pleasure
___ Pinching or having any kind of clamp used on my body during sex
___ Pinching a partner or using any kind of clamp on them during sex
___ Other:
___ Other:
I am triggered by certain sexual activities. Those are:
Non-Physical (or not necessarily physical) Sexual Activities
___ Communicating my sexual fantasies to/with a partner
___ Receiving information about a partner's sexual fantasies
___ Role-play
___ Phone sex
___ Cybersex, in IM
___ Cybersex, in chat room
___ Cybersex, on cell phone
___ Getting sexual images of a partner in my email or on my phone
___ Giving sexual images to a partner in their email or on their phone
___ Reading pornography or erotica, alone
___ Reading pornography or erotica, with a partner
___ Viewing pornography, alone
___ Viewing pornography, with a partner
___ A partner reading or viewing pornography
___ Giving pornography/erotica to a partner
___ Getting pornography/erotica from a partner
___ Other:
___ Other:
I am triggered by certain non-physical sexual activities. Those are
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