~Sunday Sway
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Posted:Sep 10, 2023 2:14 am
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2023 11:24 am 9592 Views
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When you find that “thing” that keeps you grounded, that gives you hope, that keeps your world from falling completely apart, put it on a phonograph and play it, repeatedly. The discovery of inner peace is music to the ears, the heart, and the soul. This is a rare thing, a collectible worth more than the trinkets and tatters that modern civilization has to offer. Focus on it to see you through the hard times, for there will always be hard times.
* Waiting Line ~ Zero 7 ~ Simple Things
* One Note Samba ~ Astrud Gilberto, Stan Getz ~ Live At Cafe Au Go Go
* Kiss Off ~ Violent Femmes ~ Violent Femmes
* Come Undone ~ Duran Duran ~ Singles 1985-1995
* Short Skirt/ Long Jacket ~ Cake ~ Comfort Eagle
* Stupid Girl ~ Garbage ~ Garbage
* Here We Go Again ~ Aretha Franklin ~ A Rose Is Still A Rose
* Pusherman~ Curtis Mayfield~ Superfly Deluxe
* I've Been Loving You Too Long ~ Otis Redding ~ The Very Best Of Otis Redding
* Hold You In My Arms ~ Ray LaMontagne ~ Trouble
Short Skirt Long Jacket ~ Cake
I want a girl with a mind like a diamond
I want a girl who knows what's best
I want a girl with shoes that cut
And eyes that burn like cigarettes
I want a girl with the right allocations
Who is fast, and thorough, and sharp as a tack
She's playing with her jewelry
She's putting up her hair
She's touring the facility
And picking up slack
I want a girl with a short skirt and a long jacket
I want a girl who gets up early (gets up early)
I want a girl who stays up late (stays up late)
I want a girl with uninterrupted prosperity (uninterrupted)
Who uses a machete, to cut through red tape
With fingernails (hey), that shine like justice (ho)
And a voice that is dark (hey), like tinted glass (ho)
She is fast (hey), thorough, and sharp as a tack (ho)
She is touring the facility (hey) and picking up slack
I want a girl with a short skirt and a long, long jacket
La-la la-la la-la
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I want a girl with a smooth liquidation (smooth liquidation)
I want a girl with good dividends (good dividends)
At Citibank, we will meet accidentally (meet accidentally)
We'll start to talk when she borrows my pen
She wants a car (hey) with a cup holder armrest (ho)
She wants a car (hey) that will get her there (ho)
She's changing her name (hey)
From Kitty to Karen (ho)
She's trading her MG (hey) for a white Chrysler LeBaron
I want a girl with a short skirt and a long, jacket
La-la la-la la-la
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To Know Someone
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Posted:Sep 9, 2023 8:29 pm
Last Updated:Feb 5, 2024 3:08 am 9234 Views
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The way to know another living being is by direct communion.
Mental analysis and judgment are set aside. Emotionally reactive first impressions are set aside. Open-ended attention is given freely to the other. This provides a space through which unguarded, undefended presence bypasses identity games of self and other.
That is direct relating.
Something in you perceives something in them, something in them perceives something in you, and something of an entirely different order of reality shines through you both.
We may commune in this manner with other people but also with animals, plants, and sometimes even with inanimate objects. Great insight and connection arise with it.
Typically if a person is trying to get to know someone, there are certain questions that need answering. What do you do, where are you from, what interests do you have, what things do you dislike, what makes you laugh, what makes you cry, what motivates you, and so on?
In the common sense of the idea, getting to know someone means using personal history, personal preferences, and personal intentions to form an image of a person. Then you judge that image as good or bad, interesting or boring according to your own preferences.
It is an effective process for modeling the behavior of others so that you can predict if they will be friends or foes; it is a survival-based methodology. But it does not permit actual knowledge of another living being. In fact, it obscures such knowledge. Soon we stop being able to see other beings at all and instead only perceive our images of them.
Actual knowledge of another being means relating, and communing.
Make it a priority. Connecting with loved ones will be more rich and intimate. Meeting new people will be more sincere and present. And relating to the phenomena around you will be more immediate and playful.
~ Unknown
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Her Palette
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Posted:Sep 8, 2023 12:05 am
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2024 1:05 am 9337 Views
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She wasn't convinced there was anyone who understood the depth of her appetite. The way she had once starved. The way her tastes evolved when given just a bite. The way she could voraciously devour and be devoured relentlessly. Her palette was particular, not for the weak. She could fast forever waiting for exactly what she craved.
~her-reconciled-heart
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Sunrise, Sunrise.
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Posted:Sep 6, 2023 11:57 am
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2023 2:03 am 10015 Views
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“When the sun came up… I couldn’t tell where heaven stopped and the Earth began.” — Tom Hanks
Photo By : Me
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Patience
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Posted:Sep 3, 2023 6:05 pm
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2024 1:04 am 9970 Views
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He finished tying the last knot, leaving me perched precariously on my toes - my shoulders already feeling the strain every time I wobbled off balance.
“This is about learning patience, little girl. Not your strongest suit, I think you’ve said.”
His tone was mild and slightly mocking - he knew how to push all my buttons. My helplessness made my panties damp as I dangled there for his amusement.
“No Sir, it’s not.” I ground out the words, my breathing constricted by the pose. My muscles already beginning to tremble.
“So pretty on your tiptoes. Well, let’s see how long I can make you wait, shall we? And how long before you’re begging to be let down.”
I swallowed hard knowing that my willfulness was no actual match for his self-possession. We both knew I would lose this game. And we both looked forward to how it would end. So really, my response was never in doubt.
“Yes, Sir.”
~exoticeva
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Sub Apathy
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Posted:Aug 31, 2023 12:37 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2023 1:35 am 9089 Views
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There is a fairly commonly known condition (for lack of a better word) in the lifestyle… a state wherein a submissive is so overwhelmed with her desire and need for a dominant partner that her judgment gets skewed; it becomes almost if not completely, consuming, this search for the yin to her yang (so to speak), often at the expense of good decision-making. I am, of course, referring to sub-frenzy. I am not casting stones, as I remember going through spells of it myself… unfortunately. Mostly when I first found the lifestyle, which is relatively normal, but even now and then in the years after. However, there is an inverse state that, in its own way, can be just as disastrous…
Sub apathy.
I nearly went with ‘sub malaise’, but that would have gone down a WAY bigger rabbit hole, so… apathy, while imperfect, works for now.
There comes a tipping point, at least for some of us, during which a submissive gets so discouraged by either abuse or neglect or simply a lack of success in finding what she needs that she becomes almost unable to access the most basic of her usual feelings and interests. It is, more often than not, a temporary shift, reminiscent of an animal retreating to its cave to lick its wounds… but not always. And it is important to note that it is NOT a conscious choice; some things simply shut down, or become hyper-guarded, through no will or intent of the submissive.
I have seen submissives harshly criticized for being in the clutches of sub-frenzy. I understand helpful advice and concern, but I don’t understand the condescending tongue-lashing that can come instead. It is equally true of sub apathy (though I have never run across anyone using this exact term for it); I see submissives derided for being 'jaded’, or 'overly wary’, etc. Condemned for not being easily and readily vulnerable. By the same people, might I add, that scolded others for trusting too easily, and not being cautious ENOUGH. Oh, the irony…
It is difficult when one loses touch with the yearning one is used to having. Difficult to feel this deep layer of 'blah’, where one used to feel a raging fire. Under it, all is (understandably, I think) a weariness… a pervasive feeling of 'what I want/need must not exist, or at least not be possible for ME’. I’m not being negative or melodramatic, I am simply being real about something that happens. It may not be pleasant, but life isn’t all rainbows and puppies. Damn the luck!
Anyway. This is kind of a public service announcement, in the following sense: Dominants, if you run across someone dealing with this, please know it is not personally/individually directed. While she may be in the throes of sub-apathy, a) it isn’t something she wants, any more than one wants the bubonic plague, and b) she isn’t aiming it at YOU; it is world-encompassing (or at least Dominant-encompassing). If you care, have patience and see if things can bloom. If you don’t, well, that’s totally okay, too, but try and walk away with kindness and understanding. There is no need for judgment and mean words that only make the condition worse.
Yeah, sub apathy… It’s a thing. Been there, done that, got the funnel hat.
~thegirlinthewoman
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Open Book.....
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Posted:Aug 29, 2023 8:34 pm
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 3:21 am 8898 Views
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“There's nothing more romantic than someone choosing to learn you. Flipping the pages in your soul delicately and digesting your chapters with an open mind no matter how difficult or uncomfortable some of your moments read, treating each bookmark with no judgment, but pure love.”
— iambrillyant
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SCC & RACK- What Are They?
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Posted:Aug 29, 2023 2:52 am
Last Updated:Aug 30, 2023 1:41 am 9449 Views
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SSC is an initialism for Safe Sane Consensual.
RACK is an acronym for Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
Both of these terms are about practicing BDSM safely. They are terms used widely in the community to promote education and awareness. If you’re vetting a playmate asking them about these terms, and how they implement them, is an important part of the vetting process.
Both of these terms emphasize consent. Consent means that every party involved in a scene, and every party exposed to a scene are offering uncoerced consent to be part of the scene.
So they sound alike, what’s the difference?
In a colloquial sense, there isn’t much difference. You’ll probably hear them used interchangeably. However, the main difference between the two is that RACK is thought the better recognize the inherent danger in certain activities and supports engaging in such activities when the risks are understood and precautions are taken to minimize the risks.
Take breath play for example. There is no way to engage in breath play with 100% safety because even if you are perfectly educated about proper technique there is always the very low risk that someone has a pre-existing condition they don’t know about that is triggered by the breath play, creating a medical emergency. RACK recognizes the inherent risk in certain behaviors. RACK is about minimizing that risk, and taking precautions where applicable (for example: having a knife/shears nearby when you are restraining with rope/tape in the case of emergency) but not steering clear of the activities altogether.
You can compare this to driving. There is no way to drive with 100% safety. You can take precautions to minimize risk, such as obeying stop signs, abiding by the speed limit, and wearing a seat belt, but there will always be factors out of your control.
Does that mean SSC is wrong? NO!
First off, SSC is open to interpretation. There is no saying that ’Safe’ means 100% safe. Perhaps there really is no such thing, to begin with anyway. SSC, on the other hand, DOES promote the practice of ’Sane’ kink. That implies things RACK doesn’t. Sane kink means that both parties are capable of making rational decisions and offering consent. It recognizes that someone so far into subspace that they cannot recall simple facts like their name, cannot offer consent. It recognizes the very real existence of abusers and sociopaths, who though able to offer consent are not sane and therefore unsafe to engage with.
Both of these terms are important, and they both have a place in our community. Know that they are, and what they mean. Learn how to implement them, and then make sure your partners and playmates do the same! Play safe everyone!
pleasurewhore~
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It’s A Beautiful Morning
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Posted:Aug 27, 2023 4:51 am
Last Updated:Jan 26, 2024 6:50 am 9376 Views
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~ Walking along the beach this morning I realized some thing, I am very grateful. I need to begin my day with an attitude of gratitude.
Things can only get better from there on. I hope you all have a lovely Sunday. As it’s the last one of August. The summer seemed to fly by this year.☀️👙😎
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Being Submissive
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Posted:Aug 25, 2023 4:28 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2023 8:15 pm 9494 Views
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Being submissive, to me, isn’t a choice. I didn’t choose for my earliest sexual fantasies to include being restrained, punished, or controlled. You’re submissive whether or not you have a Dom/me or Sir or Master. You’re submissive even if you have a long-distance D/s relationship. You’re submissive even if your D/s isn’t 24-7. You’re submissive even if you’re alone with your thoughts. You’re submissive whether or not you fight it, feel good about it, or bad about it. I’ve done all those things. If you are submissive, you just are. And just own it.
~Unknown
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