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Posted:Jul 10, 2023 10:30 am
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Kisses
I want to kiss you. Hold your hands and pin them above your head. To hear that little gasp if the tug at your wrists leaves you on your toes, or straining when you try to kiss me. Would you close your eyes and melt, or keep eye contact? Would it make you whimper when my lips brush yours and pull away when you try for more? Would you whine when I lean in again and again with kiss after kiss, while refusing to let you kiss in turn? Would your body move of its own will when you feel mine draw near? Would you tug at the hands holding you, with your hips moving to meet me? Would you realize their motion? Or would it be something that happened as though they were possessed of their own volition?
I want to see if your thighs part against my leg when I slide it between them. To discover how you’ll react when I pull away and leave you leaning into the space between us. Would you moan when the tip of my tongue maps your lips? Would you struggle to try to feel it against your own? How would you react to little bites? Would you like it if I sucked upon your lip or tongue? Would you pull away if I grew rough? Or would bruising kisses and the graze of teeth leave your swollen lips all the more eager for more?
I want to kiss you. I want to tease; each pleasure is something you can only return sparingly. I want to watch you melt, need, and writhe until all inhibition flees. I want my hands that hold you, and the leg upon which you grind, to be all that keeps you from sinking to your knees. I want to kiss you until when I let go, it’s like you forget everything but your need.
Just let me kiss you. Let me tease you until you feel free.
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What Does Vetting Look Like?
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Posted:Mar 17, 2023 4:00 am
Last Updated:Mar 17, 2023 4:00 am 1936 Views
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If you do any significant amount of reading about D/s you’re sure to encounter the idea that it is the responsibility of each party to ‘vet’ the other before formalizing a relationship. This advice is normally aimed at submissives, and my writing will be too because it brings me to point number one…
Until the point where a submissive has agreed to enter into the power exchange dynamic, it is the submissive who is in control. I know, that’s an uncomfortable thing. We don’t enjoy taking control, and the idea of being responsible for such a big decision is daunting, but it’s very important.
Giving control over your body, and your well-being, to another person, is to be taken incredibly seriously, and you can’t make someone else responsible. If you decide to give your power to someone you haven’t taken the time to vet, it would be unfair not to take some of the responsibility when things go south. If you invite a snake into your bed, you have to own your responsibility when he bites.
The first step to vetting someone is to get to know them as a person. Just like every other relationship. The vanilla things matter. Let me repeat that in case it didn’t sink in… the vanilla things matter. Your morals, religion, hobbies, and personalities need to align the same way any other couple should.
That doesn’t mean they need to be the same. It’s okay if he loves hiking and you’d rather sit in with a book, but these things must align. There shouldn’t be contention every time you discuss what to do on Saturday, and you shouldn’t feel that you’re compromising yourself to make it work. You’ll want to avoid letting sex and kink be the main topic of conversation at this point.
As you’re getting to know this person you’ll probably start seeing little glimpses of dominance peeking through. You’ll notice the way he checks in often, asks you to call when you’ve arrived home safely, or tells you where you’ll be going for dinner rather than asking.
The next step in your vetting is going to be giving him opportunities to lead. Push small pieces of power over the line and watch to see what he does with them. Watch carefully, and be honest with yourself about how he responds. Does it feel right? Is he putting your well-being above his desires?
Tell him you’ve been feeling tired in the mornings before work and don’t know if you should try showering at night, what does he think? Does he ask questions about when you go to bed? Does he say “whatever you think,” or otherwise let the opportunity to decide for you pass? Does he send you to bed when you have an early day even though he’d rather stay on the phone? These little ‘tests’ are all insignificant in themselves, but they combine to give you a very clear picture of what sort of leader you have.
This is the point where discussion of your future/potential dynamic will start coming into the picture. Let him know how you feel about the decisions he’s made for you. “It was nice not to have to decide… thank you for ordering for me…It made me feel really cared for when you called because I didn’t text when I got home.” Then start asking questions. LOTS OF THEM.
Discuss kinks, sure, but don’t let that be the only thing. Ask him what he imagines the day-to-day looks like. How much free time does he have? Why did it end with his last submissive? Are there any things that are must-haves? Limits? This is when the discussion crosses past the vanilla and becomes about shaping a dynamic. You want to find out what is important to each other, what sort of control will he want? How will he exercise it?
Continue pushing pieces of power over the line and keep watching to see what happens. Don’t rush it. If this is the right Dominant for you, then you’ll know over time. Does he own when he’s made a mistake, or try to cover it with excuses? How does he react when you’ve forgotten to do something he asked. Does he speak poorly about every woman he’s ever been with? If so this is a red flag you should be aware of. Sexual tensions are high at the beginning of a relationship. It’s exciting for both parties, but does every conversation come back to sex?
If you take to vetting this way, with open honest communication about the dynamic, there will be no question that you are looking to be his, and that he is looking to own you. Some traditionalists feel it’s the sub’s responsibility to first approach the Dominant seeking ownership, and you’ll probably want to discuss expectations about this before the time comes so no one is left wondering what they’ve done wrong.
Have fun. Enjoy the journey, and above all don’t rush the process. If it’s the right person you’ll be glad you took the time. If it’s the wrong person, you’ll be even more grateful.
pleasurewhore~
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~Sunday Sway
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Posted:Mar 12, 2023 3:22 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 8:4 pm 2264 Views
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* Stay With Me ~ Margaret Glaspy~ Devotion
* I Know It's Over ~ The Smiths ~ The Queen Is Dead
* Voices In The Sky ~ The Moody Blues ~ In Seach Of The Lost Chord
* Waterloo Sunset ~ The Kinks ~ The Anthology
* Sometimes It Snows In April ~ Prince ~ Parade
* Out On The Weekend ~ Neil Young ~ Harvest
* Love Is A Losing Game ~ Amy Winehouse ~ Back To Black
* Kiss Off ~ Violent Femmes ~ Violent Femmes
* Dream A Little Dream Of Me ~ The Mamas And Papas ~Creque Alley
* Love Minus Zero/ No Limit ~ Bob Dylan ~ 1966 Live At The Odeon, Liverpool
* America ~ Simon & Garfunkel ~ Bookends
~Love Minus Zero/ No Limit ~ Bob Dylan
My love, she speaks like silence
Without ideals or violence
She doesn't have to say she's faithful
Yet she's true, like ice, like fire
People carry roses
And make promises by the hours
My love, she laughs like the flowers
Valentines can't buy her
In the dime stores and bus stations
People talk of situations
Read books, repeat quotations
Draw conclusions on the wall
Some speak of the future
My love she speaks softly
She knows there's no success like failure
And that failure's no success at all
The cloak and dagger dangles
Madams light the candles
In ceremonies of the horsemen
Even the pawn must hold a grudge
Statues made of matchsticks
Crumble into one another
My love winks, she does not bother
She knows too much to argue or to judge
The bridge at midnight trembles
The country doctor rambles
Bankers' nieces seek perfection
Expecting all the gifts that wise men bring
The wind howls like a hammer
The night blows rainy
My love, she's like some raven
At my window with a broken wing
**On Goodbyes
“The reason it hurts so much to separate is that our souls are connected. Maybe they always have been and will be. Maybe we've lived a thousand lives before this one and in each of them we've found each other. And maybe each time, we've been forced apart for the same reasons. That means that this goodbye is both a goodbye for the past ten thousand years and a prelude to what will come.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
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Tales of Love, Lust & Loss
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Posted:Mar 30, 2022 3:11 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 8:4 pm 2742 Views
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“Sex without connection gets old quickly. Affection without lust won’t work in the long run. Love without vulnerability is just temporary infatuation. What you have to do, what you should demand of yourself, is to find that person who you can’t wait to talk to about your day, who you can’t wait to make smile on gloomy nights, who you can’t wait to hear moan your name during a completely uninhibited release of desire. A lust-filled love. That’s what it’s all about.”
Copyright © Dirty Romantic - Tales of Love, Lust & Loss
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~Devotion
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Posted:Dec 15, 2021 10:15 pm
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2022 6:31 am 2700 Views
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I often wondered and philosophized about why relationships are successful and happy, specifically BDSM relationships.
We can all list our kinks, all of our physical checkboxes ticked properly, and can even enjoy the company of the other. But I come believe that often successful relationships transcend the rational mind and float off some Neverland of emotional and spiritual tranquility that all of us wish for and are get jealous of.
The more I thought about , the question is what turns me on in terms of mind, body, and spirit? Is it ; my collected kinks being scratched? Someone, pick up the groceries? Someone, the bills? Someone that wants spend time with me? I don’t think it is anyone of those, singularly. I think is some driving force above all of that, at least for me, that exists that binds all the rest together. Face , if you are in prison, are plenty of inmates that would like spend time with you, and that probably isn’t a good thing at all.
What is the glue? What is the chemical binder that keeps us smiling in the toughest times when that special someone is in your life? What holds all the loose ends together to make something as complicated as two people working? For me, it might be devotion.
Submissives, generally, had an innate need to show devotion to a Dominant. Their genes tell them to find a receptor of their desire and sometimes that can lead to “sub frenzy” (the need to submit is so strong the submissive makes illogical and often dangerous choices in partner selection).
The Dominant has the opposite need. They need to feel the rewards of accepting such vivid and intense devotion and in return, they need to show their devotion for their caring, support, and protection of this most valuable gift of submission.
The more intense the devotion of both partners towards each other, the stronger the emotional bonds may be. The longer the devotion continues, the deeper the roots of genuine love go. When one partner no longer strives or feels that devotion, the relationship becomes unbalanced and may ultimately end the relationship unless it is patched by the participants in a sincere manner.
Devotion is the lubricant for the relationship. ? I am more aroused when someone is deeply devoted me. I will return the gesture and go the ends of the Earth for someone that has that sort of devotion. Rewarded devotion will allow her submission go unchecked and seek deeper places, where her heart and mind may not previously traversed. My devotion her will allow my Dominance scale new heights in finding ways make her devotion and gift of submission more rewarding.
In BDSM relationships, the sub gives submission and the Dom gives dominance. But they both equally share a secondary gift, that of devotion.
And devotion might just be the most valuable and powerful gift in the universe.
~DominantLife
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Those Hands...
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Posted:Nov 10, 2020 4:58 am
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2021 12:35 am 4219 Views
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Some times it is closure you need and want, a closing kiss, an imprinting possession, a moan of defeat, an earthshaking giving-in, a swooning, tumbling, yelling ‘yes’ on top of her lungs, kissing, battling, dancing with these wild and primal urges older than you, older than her, darkness and light, beyond words and thoughts, the manly hunger within, to taste and own her from top to bottom, within and without, her magical beauty finally brought to justice by your own treasuring, loving strong hands.
~manlymusings.
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That Girl....
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Posted:Oct 17, 2020 4:16 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 8:4 pm 3960 Views
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She’s honestly the girl you don’t see coming at first. She’s the only girl you find yourself wanting try for.
You’ll find yourself remaining soft for her no matter how hard life gets. Even when you’ve built your strong exterior she’ll be the one who can see right through it. She knows exactly how crumble every wall you build.
You’ll still find yourself craving her. Even when she’s a chaotic storm herself. You find yourself storm chasing into the unknown because she’s the one who makes you feel safe when your mind is raging and confused. She’ll be your calm. In her eyes, you’ll find beyond them lies a familiar soul.
And that’s why she’s different than every other girl.
I want nothing more than to be able to take her hand and guide her through showing her how to love again. Just like she taught remain open and soft. Good things do come good people. And I believe she’s one of them.
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Posted:Jul 29, 2020 4:54 am
Last Updated:Jul 29, 2020 2:09 pm 3906 Views
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Oh Bob !~
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Posted:May 19, 2020 4:40 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 8:4 pm 3423 Views
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Nobody feels any pain
Tonight as I stand inside the rain
Everybody knows
That Baby’s got new clothes
But lately, I see her ribbons and her bows
Have fallen from her curls
She takes just like a woman, yes, she does
She makes love just like a woman, yes, she does
And she aches just like a woman
But she breaks just like a little girl
Queen Mary, she’s my friend
Yes, I believe I’ll go see her again
Nobody has to guess
That Baby can’t be blessed
Till she sees finally that she’s like all the rest
With her fog, her amphetamine, and her pearls
She takes just like a woman, yes, she does
She makes love just like a woman, yes, she does
And she aches just like a woman
But she breaks just like a little girl
It was raining from the first
And I was dying there of thirst
So I came in here
And your long-time curse hurts
But what’s worse
Is this pain in here
I can’t stay in here
Ain’t it clear that—
I just can’t fit
Yes, I believe it’s time for us to quit
[B]When we meet again
Introduced as friends
Please don’t let on that you knew me when
I was hungry and it was your world[/B]
Ah, you fake just like a woman, yes, you do
You make love just like a woman, yes, you do
Then you ache just like a woman
But you break just like a little girl
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Predicaments - A Personal Favorite
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Posted:Mar 10, 2020 3:23 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 8:4 pm 3473 Views
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Dom’s love to challenge their subs and predicaments are a personal favorite of mine. There can be a win/win, lose/lose, or simply a challenge that must be accomplished successfully depending on my emotional state and the mood of the moment. Regardless of the particulars of the predicament, one of my favorites involves manipulation and control of her orgasm.
Using the picture above as an example, the simplest challenge is the timed orgasm, instructing her to make me come within a certain period of time, or conversely to pleasure me without making me cum for a prolonged minimum period. But what really gets me going is simultaneously manipulating her pleasure and orgasm while she pleasures me, not permitting her to cum before she makes me cum, and so forth.
The real dastardly one is when I instruct her to pleasure me with her mouth while I take control of her arousal and consequent orgasm with the following conditions:
1) If she comes first, she will be spanked roundly
2) If I cum first, she doesn’t get to cum at all
3) If we come together, everyone goes home a winner
Oh the fun that I have teasing and pleasing her to the edge of orgasm, increasing the intensity of my efforts, threatening to push her over the edge as she moans and audibly pleads while sucking me hungrily, desperately trying to match my pace of orgasm to her needs for immediate release. Anything to avoid the threatened spanking. Or conversely, I love to watch her grind desperately against my hand while I moan and writhe indicating the nearness of my own release as she tries to achieve her orgasm and not be left out in the cold. Naturally, of course, I am relentless in manipulating this to my advantage. She would expect nothing less. Sometimes I want her to win, sometimes I want her to lose, and at others, I simply want the joy of coming together in a mind-shattering mutual orgasm.
Oh, the games we play and the fun we have. Predicaments are intended to have desired outcomes and yet often yield interesting and enjoyable surprises. The times when she comes first resulting in the dreaded spanking only to find that the spanking itself yields still more intense and repeated orgasms in her intensely aroused state. This may seem counter to my desires to punish as a Dom but rest assured that I still get mine, taking her from behind and spanking her ass as she simultaneously pleads for mercy and more.
Ah, the games, the rules, the predicaments, the punishments, the rewards. Such a confusing game where winners can lose and losers can end up the ultimate victor. So difficult to tell one from the other at times. Ultimately though everyone wins in a game where we play our assigned and desired roles of Dom and sub to the hilt.
Predicaments; the challenged and the challenger. You may think you are destined to lose in a game that is clearly rigged, but I promise you, the spoils of victory are shared equally and with enthusiasm. No one goes home disappointed.
Let the games begin!
Caption © For The Love of a Sub
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