Time Has Taught Me....
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Posted:Jan 7, 2024 2:04 am
Last Updated:Mar 1, 2024 5:46 am 13378 Views
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* You can be a kick-ass submissive and not own a single piece of lingerie * You can kneel in slip-on Converse just as well as you can in heels * Wanting to be wanted can lead to seriously poor decision-making * You can love someone and not be a match * You deserve as much pleasure as they do * Liars and cheaters will always lie and cheat * Not everyone likes the spotlight; it’s ok to live D/s very privately * It’s ok to make things like rope bondage and tickling hard limits; it’s ok to make anything a hard limit * Dominants can use a safeword or otherwise stop an activity * Submissives can walk away; you don’t have to be ‘released’ from shit * Moving quickly rarely leads to longevity * Your gut is never wrong; listen to it * It’s ok to not look like a fetish model; most people don’t * Sex can feel good even without orgasming * Squirting orgasms are a bit of a parlor trick, and they don’t always feel as good as other types of orgasms * If the effort isn’t there, in the beginning, it never will be * You can defer to someone and respect them as a leader even while watching Netflix and eating steak nachos with your fingers * Dominants can get sick and be huge babies and still be worthy of obedience and respect * Not every Dominant is an executive with an expense account * Submissives can make more money than their partner * You don’t have to say ‘Daddy’ to feel it in your bones * Toxicity isn’t gender-specific * You can’t always educate yourself out of raised-with-it bias, but you have to try * It’s ok to demand more for yourself; having standards solidifies self-worth * Strength is a process * Self-esteem requires active management * Submission doesn’t cease to exist when you’re single * Submission doesn’t just end when you hit 30 or 50 or 70 * You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do * You can change your mind * You can use your voice * You have to use your voice
**Author Unknown
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Sunrise, Sunrise.
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Posted:Jan 7, 2024 1:01 am
Last Updated:Jan 12, 2024 7:23 am 13132 Views
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“For a girl with such a dark mind, you're a little too in love with the sunrise.” ― Sherry Namdeo
Photo Taken By: Me
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BDSM 101: Some Common Misconceptions about D/s Relationships that are made by D/s Practitioners
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Posted:Jan 5, 2024 3:22 am
Last Updated:Jan 8, 2024 4:15 am 15568 Views
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People who pursue power dynamics for dysfunctional reasons have evolved many toxic ideas surrounding the BDSM lifestyle, which are often repeated and imitated by new and less experienced kinksters. Here are many such misconceptions:
1. D/s dynamics are created by dominants, to serve dominants. Subs just do as they’re told.
The healthiest D/s dynamics are created in collaboration between partners. While the dominant will ultimately lead the relationship, one partner’s needs within that relationship will not be more important than the other partner’s needs. D/s dynamics should serve the needs of all parties involved.
2. The dominant role is more important than the submissive role.
Both roles within a D/s relationship are dependent on one another, and therefore equally as important. Try being a dominant without a submissive around, and see how it goes.
3. A safeword (or adaptation of the concept) is optional for the submissive within a D/s relationship.
Safewords are the proven guardians of consent. Consent is never optional, and therefore safewords are never optional.
4. A submissive should live in fear of being punished by their dominant.
Punishments should fall within a submissive’s limits, and be delivered without anger. If you are afraid of punishments, it’s a red flag for abuse within your dynamic.
5. A D/s dynamic is an adventure every day. A sub should never know what’s coming.
Dynamics should be created by partners together, so subs should know what the expectations of their own relationship are. Successful D/s relationships are known for their transparency, which is one thing that makes them attractive to submissive trauma survivors.
6. While large age gaps between partners are taboo in vanilla society, there is nothing wrong with pursuing big age gap relationships in D/s dynamics.
The same dynamics that make age gap relationships dangerous in the vanilla world, exist with the BDSM lifestyle. The wisdom of age, more often than not, is weaponized to manipulate and abuse younger and less experienced kinksters. Older men who specifically target and pursue teens and young women, while discounting all “more mature” adults, are predators.
7. If you’re a dominant man, it’s ok to take as many D/s submissive partners as you want, while demanding all of your submissive poly/poly curious partner(s) practice monogamy.
This is something serial cheaters who need toxic levels of control within their relationships to convince their partners. To love someone who is/may be polyamorous is to want them to pursue other relationships when they find them. Don’t date poly people if you can’t allow them to do that, or if allowing them to pursue others proves damaging to you.
~a-dominants-thoughts
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~Art Break
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Posted:Jan 5, 2024 3:07 am
Last Updated:Jan 8, 2024 4:09 am 13287 Views
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~By Japanese Artist Masaaki Sasamoto.
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~BDSM Library ~ Books That Are Worth A Read
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Posted:Jan 3, 2024 1:22 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 3:38 am 16973 Views
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* Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide To Kinky Sex by Gloria G. Brame • BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr. Charley Ferrer • Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera • Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison • Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame, and Jon Jacobs • Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams • Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel • Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel • Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera • Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon • SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman • The Control Book by Peter Masters • The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren • The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy. • The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy. • The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino • This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters • Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker * How to Be a Healthy and Happy Submissive by Kate Kinsey * Domination & Submission by Michael Makai
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~Year End Sway
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Posted:Jan 1, 2024 5:48 am
Last Updated:Jan 2, 2024 4:23 am 14883 Views
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* The Wanton Song ~ Led Zepplin~ Physical Graffiti * Long December~ Counting Crows ~ Recovering The Satellites * In The Midnight Hour ~ Wilson Picket ~ In The Midnight Hour * U2 ~ New Years Day ~ War * Crazy ~ Violent Femmes ~ Crazy * Everybody Knows ~ Leonard Cohen~ Everybody Knows * Sweet ~ Brockhampton ~ Saturation II * You Know I'm No Good ~ Amy Winehouse ~Back To Black * The Great Gig In The Sky ~ Pink Floyd ~ Dark Side Of The Moon * Sexual Revolution ~ Roger Waters ~ Pros And Cons Of Hitch Hiking * This Night Has Opened My Eyes ~ The Smiths ~ Hatful Of Hollow
Everybody Knows ~ Leonard Cohen
Everybody knows that the dice are loaded Everybody rolls with their fingers crossed Everybody knows that the war is over Everybody knows the good guys lost Everybody knows the fight was fixed The poor stay poor, the rich get rich That's how it goes Everybody knows Everybody knows that the boat is leaking Everybody knows that the captain lied Everybody got this broken feeling Like their father or their just died
Everybody talking to their pockets Everybody wants a box of chocolates And a long stem rose Everybody knows
Everybody knows that you love me baby Everybody knows that you really do Everybody knows that you've been faithful Ah give or take a night or two Everybody knows you've been discreet But there were so many people you just had to meet Without your clothes And everybody knows
Everybody knows, everybody knows That's how it goes Everybody knows
Everybody knows, everybody knows That's how it goes Everybody knows
And everybody knows that it's now or never Everybody knows that it's me or you And everybody knows that you live forever Ah when you've done a line or two Everybody knows the deal is rotten Old Black Joe's still pickin' cotton For your ribbons and bows And everybody knows
And everybody knows that the Plague is coming Everybody knows that it's moving fast Everybody knows that the naked man and woman Are just a shining artifact of the past Everybody knows the scene is dead But there's gonna be a meter on your bed That will disclose What everybody knows
And everybody knows that you're in trouble Everybody knows what you've been through From the bloody cross on top of Calvary To the beach of Malibu Everybody knows it's coming apart Take one last look at this Sacred Heart Before it blows And everybody knows
Everybody knows, everybody knows That's how it goes Everybody knows
Oh everybody knows, everybody knows That's how it goes Everybody knows
Everybody knows
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Twenty-Twenty Four
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Posted:Dec 29, 2023 1:35 am
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2024 6:57 am 18051 Views
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This year I will sleep more and cry more. I will learn how to listen to my body, How to feed her when she’s hungry And not when she is bored, or lonely. This year is about putting away apologies— Shaking the dust out of my bones, Getting rid of people and places That has stopped feeling like home.
This year is about the deep kind of soul-searching Reserved for brooding men in classic literature. This year is for falling in love with all the ways I am able to feel. My world is vibrant and alive And to numb myself, would be a waste to this body To waste this breath.
Somewhere, billions of years ago, A star died to put the marrow in my bones And I ought to make good use of that.
I am the result of ten million factors. Working against me ever coming into existence. And I am here anyway.
How could I forget that the same skin that houses all my anxieties also holds the same kind of rain that fills oceans? I have a small lightning storm brewing in the barrel of my ribs, How could I forget that?
This year, I will be kind to my body, Because she has always been kind to me. Because she has entire orchestras beneath her fingernails, And after so many years, She deserves a good audience.
I am too young to feel so old. This is the year I change that.
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T'was the night before a sadist’s Christmas...
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Posted:Dec 25, 2023 5:31 am
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2023 2:21 am 20409 Views
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T'was the night before Christmas the good Master’s house
All her urges were stirring like a good little mouse;
Her stockings were lace, and the rest of her bare.
In hopes of the pleasure of tonight’s dark affair;
Her wrists were bound tightly and tied to the bed,
While visions of decadence danced in her head;
And she in her blindfold only heard the whip crack
As she pictured the pain when it met with her back,
When of her mouth there arose such a moan,
The kind sends shivers right down the bone.
Under her stockings, she felt on her flesh,
With a razor-sharp blade, he cut through the mesh.
His hands playing music on skin white as snow,
Gave waves of deep longing to the fires down below,
Then what to her wondering eyes should appear,
The blindfold was gone and her Master was there,
He stood right above her, all swollen and thick,
She writhed in her bindings as her lips she did lick.
His hand barely brushed her and yet she still came,
And pulsated, and shouted and called out his name;
“Oh MASTER, MASTER, please take, king!
RULER, LOVER, I will do ANYTHING!
From the top of her head! to the tip of her toes!
She barely could think in the heat of their throes!
As she thought she “I can’t take it” and she must die,
He withdrew from her body but his smile was wry,
So off the toy chest, the good master flew,
To the trunk full of fun things for naughty girls too.
And then in a twinkling, the master was there,
Dripping hot melted wax on her skin to cool and bare.
He drew back his hand and with a slap to her face,
She writhed, and she soaked what was left of her lace.
He wrapped his strong hand around her small neck,
Her vision all dimmed sparkles and flecks;
He parted her then, sliding deep, deep within her,
As the blood rushed through her brain she began to quiver.
His eyes-how they twinkled with sadistic light!
She was helpless beneath him her great delight!
The waves of her pleasure were beginning to ramp;
And that’s when the master, pulled the clamps.
He took her nipple tight his teeth,
Still stroking and pounding her hot flesh beneath;
The clamps, right after the bite was applied,
And through all the pain, tears of pleasure she cried.
He was wicked and harsh, a right proper sadist,
And he laughed when he saw her pain was the greatest,
With a wink of his eye and wicked delight,
He continued ravishing her deep into the night.
He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
And defiled her completely and then last, with a jerk,
He shuddered and filled her with a hot load of
To her surprise, he wasn’t quite done.
He gathered the things tend her welts
This was not the time for floggers or belts
And she drifted asleep under his caring sight
He whispered Merry Christmas love and kissed her goodnight.
~1-sadistic-lover
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Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
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Posted:Dec 21, 2023 2:26 am
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2024 7:33 am 20068 Views
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Kink can be practiced while being involved in different ‘relationships’. These may include playing together with a friend (or even acquittance), as a service (paying a Mistress for her services, for example), with a stranger (at a party or club), or with your loving partner. At Bedroom Bondage, we are all about exploring kink as a couple, so that is what I’ll be writing about.
Trust & safety There’s a good reason that I start with this one. Nothing is more important than being able to put your full trust in your partner, and it is such a beautiful thing when you can. You know each other well, and should not have to worry about your play time turning into a bad experience because, for example, your partner does not respect your boundaries. A lot of people seem to think that it is all about being beaten up and tortured, but the ones who know better are very aware that there is a fine line between pleasure and pain. Domination and submission is always a matter of consent. Being able to completely give yourself to your lover is an incredibly sexy, freeing feeling! When your man has all the control over your body, you will be very aware of every little bit of it, enhancing all sensations.
Feeling comfortable Believe me, the more comfortable you feel with your partner, the sexier you’ll feel, and the hotter it’ll get! You’ll be way more relaxed about revealing your deepest, darkest desires… Who knows what kind of dirty wishes the two of you share without even realizing it?
Aftercare Something that should never be missing. When the submissive is exhausted, loving care from her Master is the cherry on an already delicious cake. It simply makes the whole experience even better, when he drapes a soft blanket over you, brings you something to drink (I always seem to be up for a big glass of juice or water myself after such intense hours), gives you a nice massage… I honestly couldn’t say what would be better than to be softly kissed, ‘I love you’ being whispered in my ear, and sweetly fall asleep after this kinky, sexy intimate moment together.
When you take good care of your submissive, she’ll take good care of you, too. That’s exactly what it’s all about. Not just for the submissive to take care of her Master, but to take care of each other.
~dominantlife
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