Taking The Best and Leaving The Rest
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Posted:Dec 31, 2020 4:58 am
Last Updated:Aug 13, 2022 6:00 pm 7332 Views
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We are the brink of twen,ty twe.nty-one...
Boy, does this year have a lot live u.p t.o!
Everyone is pinning their hopes on a better year..
Wh.o knows if that will be true?
I suppose we are basing i.t on the theory that i.t can't get any worse? IMO i.t can always get worse. New beginnings don't always have the greatest reward, when going through a journey is the harder but has more valuable results. I think of this year as a learning curve, and I have learned a whole lot in this space and time. Rather than list my resolutions, below are some of my lessons:
1. Life's not easy. Do not fall into the trap of being a victim. Get over and get on with it.
2. Unbelievable is the stupidest word in the dictionary. You witnessed it. It just happened. Believe it.
3. Joy vs. Happiness If happiness is what you're after, you're going be let down a lot and be unhappy. Joy is another story. Joy comes from doing what we are fashioned to do
4. Define what success is t.o you - Whatever you do, don't let compromise your soul. We've all got wolves in our soul, good and bad, which one are you going t.o feed?
5. Process of elimination is the first step t.o our identity - The first step is not I know i am, the first step is I know I am not. Process of elimination...
6. Don't leave crumbs. They are what's left after you make your choices and come in the form of regret, guilt, and remorse. You leave crumbs today, they will cause you more stress tomorrow.
7. The easiest way t.o dissect success is through gratitude. Appreciating the things we sometimes take for granted. That doesnt mean being in denial of your failures, it means using them as a way to reveal what we are good at.
8. Choose it because you want it. Do it because you want t.o.
9. Guilt and regret kills many a man. Turn the page and get off the ride.
1.0. Fear is a good thing because increases our need t.o overcome that fear. Don't get paralyzed they exist and abandon your need t.o overcome them. Through courage you will find respect for yourself.
Pandemic New Year's Eve Jam
Dirty Work - Steely Dan
Lochloosa - JJ Grey and Mofro (Live)
Open Your Eyes - Tonic
When My Train Pulls In - Gary Clark Jr.
Don't Back - Boston
Keeping Me Alive - Jonathan Roy
With A Little Help From My Friends - Milk 'n' Blues
That's Life - David Lee Roth
Hold Me - The Teskey Brothers
Bad Guy - Billie Eilish
One - Corey Hart, Kim Richardson, & Jonathan Roy
Happiest of New Year's to you and yours 
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Superior Dickhead vs. Super Sub
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Posted:Dec 29, 2020 5:45 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2023 3:23 am 10464 Views
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"Are you feeling the NEED to SERVE a SUPERIOR Master? Do you fantasize about being put in your rightful place? I am a highly intelligent, educated Superiorman..."
Wait is that like Superior Dickhead? What a fucking twit! Superior my ass.
Most days I open my mail with trepidation. Most days I get a laugh at least.
The range is from dumb t.o dumber and occasionally, I get a respectful, well thought out correspondence.
Thank goodness I have many Dom friends t.o ask their opinion, which I still do, even all these years later. Every submissive should add a couple of Doms she trusts t.o her arsenal of resources. They will come in handy as mentors, and protectors if needed. They also make great sounding boards and friends for life
But...
Those said Doms, should have no interest in pursuing the submissive seeking them as her resource. It took me a long time t.o learn that one, so I pass my wisdom on t.o you.
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Super Sadist - Jack and Jill
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Trading Places
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Posted:Dec 27, 2020 6:28 am
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2020 6:17 pm 11504 Views
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Sasha hurriedly rushed about after her shower, blowing dry her luscious hair, applying her makeup with precision, and dressing purposefully. First her black fishnet thigh high stockings, then her black sheer lace bustier. She stood in the mirror for a second and approved before sliding a conservative mid length black dress over the outfit. She stepped into her high heeled oxford looking shoes, a little bit of a catholic austere looking finish.
The last touch was perfume Sasha spritzed it upon her skin before the ding of her ph.one signaled his arrival. He was named Barry and had messaged her about her advertis.ement earlier in the day. He came with references, as was required. Barry was a slight man and her heels made her his height. Sasha opened the door and let him in once she had peeped through the door.
"Welcome", she smiled and greeted him warmly, "Would you like something to drink?"
'No thank you. This is yours," He handed her an envelope discreetly closed.
Sasha took it and p-laced it in her pocket. She showed Barry into the bedroom, where she had laid out several implements of ass destruction.
"Now take off your clothes, slut" She said it with authority but in a clear even voice.
"Yes, Mistress" he replied and took off his clothes neatly laying them on the bench by the wall.
"Good boy, now listen to me closely. You will have a safe word of RED if you become uncomfortable , or if there is any pain too intense...You will also answer me with Yes, Mistress when I command something, Are we clear?" Sasha walked around behind him and with one motion grasped his ass cheek and squeezed.
Barry jumped at her touch for a second but responded quickly, "Yes, Mistress"
"Good boy," Sasha purred back. Her hand drew back and she smacked his other ass cheek, which made him jerk slightly and she smoothed away the sting she had been taught by her own scene play as a submissive.
After binding him on the bed, she took the couple of hours reserved t.o taunt, tease, and bring him t.o orgasm without ever touching his cock. It was amazing t.o her how easy it was t.o step into the role of the top. Sasha compartmentalized the arrangement perfectly and, it also struck her with pride at how well she handled the encounter.
Later, as Sasha opened the envelope and cou.nted, she smiled and thought, "I can do this." and in her head ran a thought, "What if it changes me?"
Her other consciousness responded quickly "You'll care less about this at the store"..
The ding of her pho.ne signaled another referral
Audibly, Sasha retorted to herself as she pushed it from her mind, "Tw.o tears in a bucket, mot.her fuck it"
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Killer Queen - Queen
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To You From The Poetess
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Posted:Dec 24, 2020 5:39 am
Last Updated:Jun 1, 2022 5:38 pm 16032 Views
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This time, a year ago, dark days were upon my doorstep. It was my first Christmas without my late husband, and I wanted t.o crawl into bed t.o not wake up until New Year's had passed. I spent that week in a rented Air B'nB house because I couldn't bear the holidays within our old home. Too many memories t.o haunt me, too many laughs that would never occur again, too many promises of tomorrow that would never come t.o be. Yes, it was a dark time in my life...
"Life happens and it goes on the next day"
~Poetess
People always ask me how I am doing now. The reality is that the current -pandemic has given me a grace period t.o grieve and t.o find myself again. It has taken the burden off of me t.o be in social structures that would be uncomfortable. It has allowed time t.o pass and t.o heal my heart. It has given m.e time t.o write and create, t.o feel and emote. Therefore I have found the virus has graced m/e with lots of gifts, even through the challenges
I have learned many lessons and some came with a price, like losing my friend Adam t.o COVID. It has taught m.e that no matter how many tools we have in our arsenal, we are all human and have t.o allow the human processes t.o happen. And lastly, it has taught me great -patience and resolve t,o live each day t.o my fullest.
One of the tools death has given m,e, is the ability t.o stop people from being self absorbed, if only for a second. When someone starts bitching about the shut downs, or the election, or their family member drama...I tell them I will be spending my holiday alone because I am widowed, and for a minute, they forget t.o worry about the small stuff and focus on their gratitude for what they have.
If you are alone this Christmas, know that I se.nd you a big virtual hug and heartfelt sentiment that you are able t,o find the joys and gifts you can in your solitude. In the end, tomorrow will come whether we want it t.o or not, so you may as well enjoy what you can of this day. May you have many more days to be grateful...
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Happy Christmas - John Lennon
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These Boots Are Made For Fucking
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Posted:Dec 23, 2020 5:41 am
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2024 1:05 am 15272 Views
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Every woman should have a pair of badass leather boots. I have several pairs ladies, trust , they are a magnet. For , it isn't just the boots that make feel sexy...
Leather....just the word excites and makes my panties damp.
I love the aroma of it, the feel of it, the stng of it, the look of it, and the idea of it, obviously...
I am a certifiable leather slut.
Seriously, I even have leather perfume made from aged leather.
It smells divine...
Ever since I was young, I have had this fetish. Although before puberty, it was more of a comfort feeling. My fath.er had, and still has, this leather blazer, that I swear will be mine one day.
When I was only in my twenties, I visited Minneapolis as a hairdresser for a national show. There was a gay bar that filled an entire brownstone. Each floor had a different bar. I can remember sneaking into the leather bar, following my nose, into my favorite little fetish room. There, before me, were all these amazing looking bodies sheathed in leather. I happily stayed there, just being a voyeur for a couple hours.
Not only did it mark my first curious venture into BDSM, but it marked a realization that I could go into arousal space just from smelling that deliciously sensuous smell. ..It's primal and fitting.
We have been tanning and wearing leather to warm our bodies, since the beginning of time.
Now, you must excuse me while I go huff my closet 
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Leather on Leather - The Donnas
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Fantastical Reality
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Posted:Dec 21, 2020 10:03 am
Last Updated:Jul 10, 2021 3:47 pm 17362 Views
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Do you feel like you are speaking in tongues if you tell someone ,who is vanilla, why you are not interested in them? Yeah, I know you do...this is why we rarely admit what we are up to in our clandestine little BDSM world. You start to think the world is modern enough to handle it, and then the PC police start harassing you...
I made the mistake of telling a man interested in dating me what I was into. He seemed perplexed and then came the string of comments:
"Call me simple, but that's a little too kinky for me"
"Squirting is just pee isn't it?"
"I would say I'd spank you, but that isn't even a threat with a masochist like you is it?"
Several face palm moments later, I was done with that conversation and wished I had never spoken my truth.
What those people don't get is that their sex bores the fuck out of me to such an extent that I think of having a relationship with one of them as slow torture. Don't get me wrong, every once in a blue moon, missionary position is good with someone you care about...But I do mean once in a blue moon. Because every moon besides that blue one, I expect my ass red, my hair pulled, and me screaming your pet name. Otherwise it is a Meh at best.
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- In This Moment
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Naughty Elf On A Masochistic Shelf
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Posted:Dec 19, 2020 4:44 am
Last Updated:Jul 15, 2023 12:09 am 19721 Views
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I'm the naughty little elf a masochistic shelf today.
Drop a comment below and tell me why I should sneak a gift to you from Santa if you've been naughty too....
Make it good or else my bottom cheeks will match my top cheeks.
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I Saw Mommy Blowing Santa Claus - Matt Rogers
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Conundrum of the Nympho
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Posted:Dec 17, 2020 5:20 am
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2024 1:05 am 20826 Views
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"That's the great thing about a sense of humor and a sex drive, you can't wait t.o share it with everybody else."
Dolly Parton
It has always seemed hypocritical t.o me that a man's sex drive is nurtured while a woman's is diminished in the framework of society's acceptance. Hypocrisy irritates the fuck out of me in most issues, but this one especially, as we are all sexual creatures by nature. I've often said that if I was born a couple generations early, I would have likely had a lobotomy given t.o me for my libido needs. They used t.o do that t.o women they deemed evil and promiscuous.
And as likely as it is, that a man reading this post will cry out in celebration of a "Hell Yeah" thinking he wants t.o find a nymphomaniac - It is equally likely, that he is just answering out of his egotistical need t.o assert he has an equal drive and without the full reality of what it takes t.o maintain that energy. In other words, we always think something sounds good until we get it and reality is different.
But, did you think the names cu.mslut and fu.ckd.oll were just metaphorical? Or did you think finding a repressed gi.rl and turning her into one, was far more fun than appeasing a woman who was awakened already?
Biologically, the likelihood he can keep up just isn't physically possible, when a female can have multiple orgasms in a short period of time. Therefore, logically a man should know from the gate, that he is likely going t.o tire out first, and yet he still has the delusion that t.o have a woman who can't get enough, is the ultimate.
Let me just step in here as a pleasure slut and say, it has been my experience that we scare the pants of most men, which should be a good thing in this case. And, telling her no or being irritated at a woman for declaring what she needs is irrational and undermines the fantasy you had t.o begin with. She will close up on you, and ultimately, find gratification for her needs somewhere. It is just simple human behaviour psychology.
This all begs the questions:
I. If you have found a woman with a sex drive higher than yours, how do you keep her satisfied?
II. Tell us why you bail or stay when faced with the demands of a sexually needy sub?
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Control - Puddle of Mudd
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What's In A Name
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Posted:Dec 16, 2020 4:14 am
Last Updated:Nov 11, 2023 5:13 am 18455 Views
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So you've been a boyfriend, a lover, friend and mate, now you want another name, one you think is great
You want t.o be a Master, you want a Submissive slave but do you realise the responsibilities of this thing you crave.
It's not just a sexual thing, it's not some sort of power trip, it takes time, trust and commitment, it's not a thing in which you dip
You must have respect for them, give love, support and trust, be mindful of their feelings, caring is a must
Be fair with a punishment whether it's for real or just for play, followed by some aftercare, every single day
Be there t.o protect them, help them on their path, make them feel protected, make sure they often laugh
You see it's not all 50 shades, a Butt plug, ropes and chains, its caring and nurturing, making sure that love remains
So if you still want that title, find people in the know, ask a million questions, and then a million more,
They will often guide you, it will help your path go faster, but for a while you'll be the student and they will be your Master
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Constantly Dissatisfied - Niia
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Recharging My Battery
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Posted:Dec 13, 2020 6:41 pm
Last Updated:Jul 10, 2021 3:48 pm 19994 Views
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A study of people with physical disabilities rendered results that determined they were affected in a less negative way, with the pandemic than their fellow humans, who have no disability. The participants contributed this t.o the fact that they live at a social distance most of the time from other humans. In their lives, nothing has changed...
Every once in a while, self care for me is self-isolation. Maybe this is why the pandemic restrictions bother me less than others. I think grief did me a favor during this time in making me seek the shelter of solitude in lieu of the exhausting exercise of interacting with people.
At work, I have be an extrovert, personable, amicable, etc.
So when I get home, I retreat my quiet place, t.o write, create, get absorbed in something that gives me satisfaction. It is battery recharge time. Most of the time, it includes my music. I can become completely immersed in my own little world...
Recharge Batteries in Solitude Playlist
YYZ - RUSH
Surrender - Cheap Trick
of the Sun - Billy Thorpe
Open Up Your Eyes - Tonic
Twilight Zone - Golden Earring
Time - Pink Floyd
Roundabout - YES
Do Ya - ELO
Bittersweet Symphony - The Verve
Forepley/ Long Time - Boston
Do You Feel Like We Do - Peter Frampton[LIVE]
Wishing You Were Here - Chicago
Shine On You Crazy Diamond - Pink Floyd
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