Part 3 of the D. Being gay vs m2m..I think there is a huge difference.
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 4:58 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 5:09 am 4468 Views
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First off
Sorry if I'm log jamming the boards a bit with these topics.
Second...I honestly think people need to chill a bit when it comes to labels or the fear of being labeled.
An act doesn't define you..so dont define yourself over an act.
Too many dudes run head first into the woodchipper proclaiming they are now curious or bi because..
Omg..they got their dick sucked..
By a guy..
And ( cue Katie perry) they liked it..
Of course you liked it
Who doesn't like it..your dick is being sucked..
But here's the deal There is a huge difference between a blowjob and falling for a guy.
But honestly I could stick your dick through a glory hole..
And walk a variety of different adults from a 22 yrs college coed to the mailman to the golden girls. .to a pack of nuns..into that room to suck you
And your gonna enjoy it..
But that doesn't suddenly make you
the pope..
Being gay is more than...a sexual act..
Like you could literally fuck a dude...And I still wouldn't consider you bi.
ALOT of people like to define bisexual or gay to mean your attracted to someone of the same gender.
I'd like to clarify that definition by saying it's more than attraction.. It's feelings.
I can be attracted to a bodybuilder and admire his big pecs or huge arms..I can hero worship him. But that doesn't mean I want to date him. I may want to suck his cock.. But that doesn't mean I want him in my life
The same goes for ALOT of straight women..they can think an actress is hott..be crushing on her.. But there is no real feelings for that person..
To me it's like a dude going to a bar to hookup with women..he's there to get laid and doesn't invest any real feelings into them.
I'm not suggesting a guy is using a guy as a " replacement "..Like say in a prison setting.
I'm saying it's okay to have fun with another guy without worring what it makes you..
You there to get laid.
Your barman.
Your there to suck and fuck...
I said the same argument about lifestyle play with another dude..
It's more about bonding than falling in love, have feelings
And if or when your ready to advance down the orientation scale..you might notice that bi sex still is different than even gay sex..
???...say whattttt!!!
But am I not putting my Dookie in his cookie..?
Once again..it's not the act.. listen you can pump your dick into a fleshlite or an ass.. Blindfolded both will feel tight and warm on your dick..
But your not gonna have an emotional attachment/ investment in either..
That is basically what bi is in my opinion...Being comfortable with the guy...to some extent But it still can be very standoffish.. your not invested emotionally
Gay sex on the other hand is completely different. In my experience there are no barriers,guys are warm, affectionate,passionate,do way more than just suck and fuck..
Hell I had dudes that sucked my fingers,licked my arm pit..
And to really hit home the idea that what you might wanna try,curious about or actually do with a guy isnt..
Gay..( you been warned)
Hell I had a top guy literally lick my asshole out...no warning either..
At first there was a...
Hellloooooooooo nurse sensation....he gave me no warning..just stuck his tounge right in..
Why???? Cause for him it was a casual thing to do..like why wouldn't you eat a bottoms ass out..it really is a common practice
But once I realised what he was doing..I was chill..
And just saying
I liked it..
I'm not saying every gay guy is like thid
But certain things are the norm...like obviously kissing, the top prepping the bottom by stretching his hole with his fingers..ass eating, cum eating,sucking your nips
Some things we label as fetish are quite normal/common in boytown like chastity,edging,anal play,fisting,spankings,nipple play, feet,sounds etc
My point isnt to freak anyone out..
I'm using extreme examples to clearly show what you do 2 in the morning after a few shots..With your bud
Is much ado about nothing..
It's basic...so don't read into it..
But I'm also saying Women can be...how do I say it without sounding like a dick..
Let's go with less experimental...
You may have always wanted to fuck an ass,have your own backside played with,maybe you luv getting oral and that wasn't her thing,maybe your into feet and were really afraid to approach a woman about your fetish desires..
I'm not saying all men are laid back...but there is less of a sticker shock in the gay community.
So yeah..hopefully this helps..
You to understand there is a huge difference between sucking a penis and a top rolling me into a ball and fucking me silly ( no cap..true story)..
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How to get the D part 2 etc
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 12:10 pm
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 12:22 pm 3014 Views
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Honestly I'm not expecting any response to my original blog..
Cause I know it's a hard topic to talk about
And more guys are into it or would like to get with other men..
Than they are willing to admit.
But I find it funny how society wants to villianize the male sex drive.
Why is it wrong for men to desire sex,think about sex..be sexual..
Why is the male sex drive contrasted against the female standard ( ours being judged as " too high"). Why not theirs is too low
Without rambling on and pissing someone off..
My point today's wasn't to make men sound like immature sex freaks..
Rather male sexuality..is well..normal..
And if your having issues connecting to/ with women
Maybe you have considered men..
And hopefully realising
That being " sexual" doesn't have to be a bad thing..
It's okay to finally be
Horny
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How hard is it to get the D...as a guy
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 9:22 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 5:09 am 3001 Views
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I'm off..the coffee is flowing..
I read an ad on fet where this 40 yr old guy was begging for help,tips on why he wasn't connecting with women,etc..
Honestly I could have given him some. I doubt if he would have really processed it..
CAUSE at 40..he was still acting like he was 20..
You want younger,younger don't want you..
You want sex..they want chad,that 10 percent of the male population..
Your not chad
Wash,rinse,repeat..
So maybe you've been in a similar boat..And as you turn 40,50,60..hell 70..
Maybe the thought of men has crossed your mind..
Maybe you wondered how hard it is to be with a guy.
If so then pull up a couch and let's talk...
I don't like to stereotype or generalize people..
But the 40 yr old man " looking" is a common occurrence.
And the 40,50,60,70 etc yr old man " looking" for a man is becoming more common.
I think the biggest difference in my opinion is ALOT of women from say 30 up are very relationship focused..
Maybe she's never been married or just got divorced or has etc.
The 30 something man on the other hand most likely is either bored or is divorced himself and suddenly wants to be that movie " old school"/ wants to go back to his former 20 something.
He wants to fuck..anything adult..not nailed down..
And some guys never want to get back on the relationship train cause..
Available women of a certain age come " prepackaged"...they come with ,they come past issues,baggage.. And I'm not bashing women here...a lot of guys/ divorced guys have issues too.
It's like asking for the big mac...but finding you have to get the combo...
Men? There are single men out there sans ..
So what's it like being with a guy??
No I'm not getting into that sexually...unless you really are curious..
But I'll say what guys are like in my next reply
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Married men? How do you handle the situation
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 7:22 am
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 8:23 am 3318 Views
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I chose to blog about this topic instead of just replying to another members posting..
I figured I need the room to air out this topic..
Cause it pops up more than you think..
And obviously you can swap out married man for married woman..
But you'll find it's usually the man doing this...
I'm not even talking about cheating... I mean a married guy ( both straight,bi,gay) will post an ad looking for..
And they will say it's all good..their partner knows,they have permission..or even..
Gay couples ALOT of times play seperate..
You'll find these ads in both the vanilla and kinky lifestyle..
So how do you broach this topic when a married guy contacts you?
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World's best lifestyle hack? Talk to an older person
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 6:42 am
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 7:03 am 2789 Views
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I'm really suprised this generation of slackers,influencers,don't wanna work 9 to 5 generation doesn't pull the greatest life hack...
Lean on the older mother f ucker with the wrinkles,the scars..the people with knowledge and experience..for advice
Cause some things don't change.
I commented on this tiktok vid on YouTube and this young dude was flexing... Literally boasting about how much he could " straight curl" a barbell with his back against a wall.
And while everyone was stroking his ego..
I laid the smack down..
Not because I'm jealous...of what..his youth or ability to lift a " heavy weight"??
Your boy is a forktruck...
Anyway it's hard for an " old guy" like myself to just sit back and let someone do something incorrectly..
And you know there will come that light bulb moment...down the road
Where everyone says..
I wasted x amount of years lifting incorrectly..I never got " big"..or I hurt my shoulders.. Or now I got bad knees..
I wish I would have listened..
Young buck? Your talking with a guy that has been lifting on and off for like 35 years..
He and I had a back and forth in the comment session..
Finally he wrote..
I see your point...but my way works best for me.
I replied
And your way is wrong..( I dime dropping it right there)
Someday you'll sit back and contemplate life.. You'll ask yourself where has time gone And you'll say... I wish I wouldn't have wasted all those years Lifting incorrectly..
Then after a torn bicep or back back..
You'll finally be ready
To listen..
I'm not a guru..I'm not influencer..I'm not here to sell you supplement..
Or merch..( but hey imagine me on a t shirt or beer cosey)
I'm am scared, I am wrinkled, I am tired...
This is what you look like when the world
Has beaten you down for 54 yrs
This is what
Experience
Looks like.
So hey keep doing what you think is best for you..
Just saying..But this old motherfuck
At 54.. can squat,over head press,bench..( my knees,my back,my hips,my shoulders are fine..never been injured...w/o any pain)..
And hopefully when you reach 54..you can say the same..
For such a slacker generation I'm suprised they don't use this hack..
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Do people really want the experience or just the fantasy
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Posted:Dec 4, 2023 12:41 pm
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2023 6:48 am 3263 Views
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I posted this after reading something on fet..
69 yr old guy is looking for some to tie him up,explore bondage,orgasm control..
Soooooooo if your cynical like me...
Your thinking..good luck.. No way in hell does anyone really reply..
Nope,nada,zilch..not a chance
Then a slightly younger guy replies,explains he's a novice etc..
And then the 69 yr old literally dumps the fantasy barrel on this dude..
Detailing the whole thing ..in ALOT of detail
And I ponder
Bro your 69...you brought up bondage..
Got someone to actually reply
Dumped the equivalent of your literally load on this guy..
You bukatted the fucker
And most likely ghosted him..
But that's my guess..
I ponder
Do people really want to connect
Or are they just living vicariously
Hey no sweat off my brow..
But what if you were that other dude and was sincere
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What is your biggest lifestyle fear
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Posted:Dec 4, 2023 9:54 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2023 1:06 pm 2979 Views
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By now Maybe you've guessed That I missed my calling In life..
And should have become a therapist.
I think part of my strength is I can hold back judgement,not trying to instantly solve your problem, Give you a wall to lean on and
Just simply listen..
So I was curious as to what holds you back from your lifestyle dreams and fantasises..
Why arent you that Big daddy Dom or super sissy slave... What holds you back from being that kick ass Domme..
Why don't you have what you secretly desire...
And in the end
Would you be happy?
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A tinder experiment
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Posted:Dec 3, 2023 8:16 pm
Last Updated:Dec 4, 2023 8:49 am 2782 Views
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Watching this YouTubers vid where he had his female friend
Use his actual pic and sign up for tinder as a dude..
Did she have any luck getting dates???
Fyi this guy in real life is good looking..maybe an 8?.. in good shape and she listed his occupation as a psychologist in the profile...
So you tell me
What's your gut feelings on this one
I'll give the results in the reply..
So spoilers
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