Should things like gender/ orientation/ age( adults im talking about) matter in bdsm
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Posted:Dec 3, 2023 8:40 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 5:01 am 3153 Views
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Im curious as to what different people think.
I'm not here to judge..I'm certainly not woke.
But should gender,sexual orientation,people of any age ( adults),body size,etc
Matter
When it comes to bdsm..
I understand attraction,I understand appeal..
But people see this through a sexual lens
I'm talking about bdsm,control..
And could it really open your eyes and help you find the person you seek?
I ask this because people are quick to plaster themselves with labels..
I'm straight or I'm wrapped up in the rainbow flag..
And I wonder why we automatically dismiss this other person..this whole group of people
Straight dude...have you ever paddled a f*g's ass..???
I can use that term cause..duh
I ask this in all seriousness because
Straight guys do make up a good portion of the members in m2m spanking groups and websites..
Cause it isn't sexual.
I think men turn to men for discipline for a variety of reasons.
1. Lack of resources...the straight guy is probably 40,50,60..married..
Single females want a guy,a master of their own..
So that severely limits his access to playtime..
And if his wife is his slave..
Playing with another female could cause jealousy issues.
Issues he's not gonna have with one of the boys
2. Women probably are better at pain..but I think there is this societal hesitation/ guilt/ hangover when it comes to discipling a female..as men we don't want to hurt her/ see her in pain.
But lucky for us...Men seem more attracted to discipline and being disciplined..
And any hesitation we had disciplining a woman..
Goes out the door when the submissive is male..
Plus I feel there is this societal approval for a male being disciplined..We luv watching a male idiot on YouTube eating hott stuff or getting his balls struck..we luv those americas funniest home vids and seeing dad get that wiffle ball to the testicles.
So people in general feel freer to discipline a male.
3. Guys are just bigger...and we feel like a man could take more or physically dish out more..based solely on size.
Plus his size may prompt a man to spank someone..
4. There is also that bro mentality..your with the guys..without being with the guy.
So yeah you can put sex out of the way and just play..
Once you get past gender,orientation,age ( adults),body types etc..
It actually is very refreshing and does open up alot of avenues..
And sure I get a cross dresser,a gay dude,a 60yr old, a bbw..
May not be your thang..
But I also believe your thang...
Maybe the thing that is keeping you from finding your best lifestyle match.
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Should there be different tier levels for those that search
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Posted:Dec 3, 2023 6:59 am
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2023 9:04 pm 2743 Views
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I was at the gym yesterday ( keep reading this is relevant)..
And this bro comes over and ask if I'm using..
No not steroids..
He is asking if he can use the 45lb plates on the bench rack..
I said yes...
Cause I'm tired of people borrowing them and then not bringing them back..I need them when I shrug.
Same bro comes back like 10 minutes later..and asks
Like wtf is going on
...he is loading up a leg press machine with like 8 45 plates..stealing any plate he can off of every machine...so basically nobody can use the other machines
And I'm thinking...wtf are you at planet pizza if you ego lift like that.
Yes when you can bench,squat,d lift so much...maybe it is time to get another gym..
And it got me wondering about the lifestyle...
Should their be seperate tiers...to seperate people and make your goals more obvious..
For example a lot of guys will flock to a Domme because..She's a Domme...and/ or she list various fetishes guys really want to explore....
Now you may be saying...hold up leo...we don't need seperate spaces..
A Domme can think for herself and list in her profile...what she wants..
But A lot of times these profiles aren't an accurate depiction of what she wants or how men interpretate it..
For example She list herself as a "sadist"....
Right up my alley and gets my attention....but does sadist mean the same thing to her as it does me?
To only find she really isn't a sadist but that something she aspires to
Okay? Well then learn on me??
And then...nothing..
The same could be said of wanting a relationship...
And cool I'd luv to be exclusive with someone..let's get to know one another..play..see how we click.
Men tend to put the casual dating/ play first...and then the relationship developes..
Women tend to want that relationship right off the bat ??? With the getting to know you phase before they even want sex/ play..
So it can get confusing..
On gay personal sites they really break it down ...are you looking for sex,dating,a long relatiinship,fwb,bj,..
I think something like this could be set up with say colored stars on a profile.
So when I see say a purple star on a women's profile it is obvious that she really is relationship focused..
And if I'm not wanting that...I shouldn't waste anyone's time.
The same could be said about being a sadist..
I've been with 3 seperate women...all said they are Dommes..
Yet none of them were interested in discipline..
And yes a lot of people do use bdsm for sex..there needs to be a tier for them
It would be nice if people were either extremely precise with their profiles or if there was someway to direct traffic.
For example..I know I'm wasting my time even writing to that TPE Domme..
Cause that isn't me..
Even thought I'm most likely the only slave that truly understands that desire..
And not to brag...but ladies..if you truly want to strap it on..
Then as a natural bottom boy..
I'm probably the best suited for that desire.
But if she's posting say a red star..I know she's big time into control..
And if I'm posting say green...
Then I should try another tier..or gym..or whatever..
I also think a star might help some people overcome the fear of their own sexuality..
Like say there could be a star for just lgbtq friendly..
Which doesn't mean sex..
I think a lot of times websites,groups are quick to seperate the straights from the gays..
And I wonder why..
But anyway like that swamp donkey piss missile ( phrases the today say)...that
Takes all the plates and inconveniences everyone else..
Maybe it's time certain people went to
Another gym..
Er..their own more defined space,their own lane
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The using of daffney ..a wrestlers story
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Posted:Dec 2, 2023 3:27 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2023 5:22 am 2457 Views
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I freely admit that it's been 20 some years since I really tuned into " wrestling"..
And honestly I always thought...
Fuck who wouldn't want to be a pro wrestler...rich,famous,have your own action figure..hell even a jobber makes more than me
Sign me up...said me and every other 20yr olds
And sure we all knew wrestling was fake
And that yeah people taking that many bumps for a living tend to get injured.
But I always thought it was the nature of the beast..part of the job.
Until a YouTube video revealed the real danger/ beast in wrestling..the creative control,the writers,the bookers.
I'll admit I had no clue who daffney the wrester was..
I say " was" because she is no longer with us.
Most likely someones , who thought this was her ticket out of that small town..
And yeah for some reason this wrestling company tna under Vince Russo decided to have " hardcore" matches..
With the women's division.??? Huh???
Women that weight like 120lbs
If you look closely at any wrestling company you see there is a pecking order..
Certain big stars don't get put through tables..these aren't exposed to the risk.
And the same was true with this company..the majority of women didn't take these dangerous bumps..
But Daffney...well Vince russo..head writer kept blowing smoke up her ass..telling her to do all this dangerous shit..
Like get slammed into a matt filled with thumb tacks or get slammed through a barbed wire covered table..
And this is how scummy pro wrestling really is..
Mick foley..cactus jack..dude love..mankind...a hero to many
The king of doing dangerous unnecessary stupid shit in the ring...
Which cost him the loss of many teeth and his left ear...
Advised Daffney that she should do the bumps..that it would make her famous..
Mick Foley who knew first hand this hardcore style of wrestling doesn't advance your career,
A guy that knew the company wasn't going to advance daffney..she was midcard..replaceable..a punching bag
She was cannon fodder..
Mick Foley told this 120lb girl...to just take the bumps..
And within a 3 to 6 month time period Daffney went from a healthy,vibrant, talented wrestler..
To suffering 3 concussion which landed her in the hospital.
Which lead to hospital bills that tna,Vince Russo refused to help her with..
The irony is originally the courts D eclaired Daffney an " employee" and not an independent contractor..
Which could of had huge ramifications for wrestler when they are injured.
But that got tossed out.
This company,these men used Daffney and then turned a blind eye..
The YouTube video said Daffney had cte from the concussion and got super depressed..
Before one night
Ending it all..
The irony?
Our hero
Mick Foley posted an Instagram or tweet singing the praises of D affney and how she will sadly
Be missed??
And I'm like mother fucker...you knew what bumps like that did to your fat pig body..
Why the fuck would you advise it of a 22 yr old 120lb woman.
And I bring this up because Daffney also did tag matches with male partners..
And one dude threw her out of the ring like a rag doll..
Now I get..she was an adult...
But I also understand those in creative dangling that carrot and promising her she would be a star..
If ..
Well take thethese bumps...do those hardcore matches
And listen to any YouTube wrestling podcast and you'll know Vince Russo was a pos..
But Mick Foley???
Just goes to show you how evil men can be..
Mick Foley sold her out to fatten his own belly...
And this really sickens me...
It's akin to animal farm...with the pig now in charge..
Unfortunately this doesn't stop and they just get new " daffneys"..
And I wonder why we still watch.
I saw a clip of Randy Orton ( a big star) pick up ray mystero's ..dirty Dom and slam him into the announcers table..
Not once..but twice??? Why??
And you know damn well nobody in the company is doing that to randy..he doesnt take those bumps
I thought about Dom's actual pain...slammed twice
And it added nothing to the product..
It was stupid and could have permanently injured the man..
I wondered where is osha in all of this...imagine me body slamming a co worker and they were concussed.
I mean if you look at wrestling I can think of 2 deaths in the ring..Owen Hart and droz.
Yet contractors in their work place are constantly being injured.
And this will continue...them dangling that carrot before a ..
And telling him to take the bumps..
It'll make them a star.
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When you finally get it...your karate moment
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Posted:Dec 2, 2023 1:04 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2023 5:37 am 2650 Views
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I've been blogging alot lately about films,writing etc..
But honestly all of this.. writing,movies,bdsm,weight lifting..
Fuck karate..it doesn't matter..
All life ebbs and flows together
When you ready to quit and say your going home..
An old Japanese man tells you to
show me
Sand the floor..
You begrudgingly oblige him
Then it clicks
And you finally understand.
He has been trying to teach you this whole time
And finally
you are ready to
Listen
Simple
Powerful
Enlighting
Some day
You too will understand..
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Who do you really want in your mailbox
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Posted:Dec 2, 2023 8:56 am
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2023 8:53 am 2742 Views
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I ask this question because
I'm so fascinated with that
Eternal clock buried deep inside
The one called
Desire..
I pondered as I looked at personal ads today..
This one Domme told men to be patient cause her mailbox overflows.
And I thought..
No duh...you wrote your very into cbt,anal play,strapons etc
But I wondered if she was truly happy..
No doubt 99.9999999 percent of those emails are from slaves looking to get their fetishes serviced..the so called.. " do me" blys
Instead of understanding
This isn't about you..
That's not what control is about..
I honestly considered just writing her an email.
I'm curious what makes a person tick..
It's like I need to understand.
Yet knowing full well I'm not really what she seeks..
I'd be just another email in the box.
She like a lot of women could just be talking a good game..
But I fear she might not really want control
When she meets someone that
Understands
Her desire.
So I have to ask..
Do you really know what you want in your mailbox
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Where is the payoff? And does the audience deserve better
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Posted:Dec 1, 2023 10:07 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2023 7:25 am 2236 Views
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I use to think a story must have a beginning,a middle and an end..
And I ponder...as I watch..and process
See your boy
Is
Different.
I can't sit and just enjoy a movie or tv show.
My mind shifts into overdrive and begins to mentally rewrite the script. My mind wants to recast or do scenes differently.
Like I finally got to watch that Paterson from twilight in " the batman" movie..
And I wasn't a fan
I won't bore you with a movie review or my changes..
I used to think stories needed a beginning, middle and end
But I evolved pass such petty issues
Now my major concern is the
Payoff...did the writer fullfill the promise made to the audience..
In the batman's case?
I'll argue no..
Now when I write a story I'm looking specifically for that moment,that connection,those emotions..it's that payoff..
Cause the audience deserves this defining moment..its their moment
And now?
I See that moment as the starting point for a story and work backwards ..
Like in avengers endgame where Tony stark proclaims..
I am ironman..
And ironically
It doesn't have to be this big heroic superhero moment
And you don't even have to like the character..
It can be as simple as Rick Sanchez( rick and morty) at a bar phoning the intergalactic police..
To come arrest him..
Rick is shown surrendering so his ,grandkids and yes..Jerry will be safe..
Rick is a self absorbed azz,he fucked over his family multiple times and have put their lives in danger...
And through all that alcohol and haze
In the end
He still cares.
..even if he doesn't care about himself..
Rick is shown locked up in this cage on a wall with thousands of other cages...very matrix like prison scene
That is his new life..
Surrounded by thousands
Yet still alone...
But without that moment
You've failed as a writer.
Sorry but I need to feel,I need to care,I need to be invested
And I need that moment..
Or else He's just another flavor of the week dressed as " batman"..
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The winter of leo..and what I learned so far
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Posted:Dec 1, 2023 9:37 am
Last Updated:Dec 1, 2023 10:49 pm 2580 Views
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I mentioned numerous times my current employer promised me my paid time off..180hrs
I blogged..
.like that Seinfeld episode where George gets time off and it will be the " summer of george..
That I wanted the month of December off...I wanted the winter of Leo.
And it looks like I'm getting most of it...
So I already had a week off and learned some life lessons.
Lesson 1.
Even though I literally hit up the gym 5 times this week...just being away from work caused me to eat like a ..I can't repeat that mistake
One will never balance out the other.
Lesson 2.
I'm a middle card man. Meaning I watched current podcast from former wrestlers..
In this case it was Shane douglas..
And everything he went through with Vince and the wwf...
From low pay..to a 13 yr old vet having to prove himself to the wwf..to the company promising you shit and telling you to just..hold on..soon we will get this together..we will be bigger etc. This is a great oppertunity for you..
Is the exact same crap my workplace told me like 10 days ago
I'm middle card..a place holder..I'm never going to rise in this company
I'm not special
Lesson 3
What ever is old..is new again..
You can tell the younger generation 1+1=2..
You can preach 1 and 1 has always been 2..
And some 20 yr old tiktok chad clown comes along..
And says...nah bro...it's 3..
And any cred the older generation had...
Flies out the window ..
Old school bodybuilding..modern bodybuilding is
Gone..
Replaced by 20 yrs old telling ..you don't need this or that..
Just look at me...superjacked...on every steroid he can handle
Hail the new " liverking".
Look at me,follow me brah..
And the younger generation clicks,subs and blindly follows
1+1=3
Lesson 4
You can h word me
You can love me...
But you read because your intrigued...
I have a ride or d!e personality...you may not like me but you know I'm the guy that is gonna " get you to the boarder".
The same for writing characters...
You don't have to love them
You don't have to h word them..
But you continue to read...
Cause your invested in them..
Lesson 5...with time off I watched that dumpster fire movie with Andrew Garfield as spiderman..
And Leo being Leo started to mentally compare and contrast this movie to the superior spiderverse one..
Today's lesson...you can spend millions on cgi, you can put tom cruise in yiur movie, you can be
Diverse as you want..
And in the end...
You simply need to
Let people feel Spiderman pain...let him fall in love..let him lose before he wins
And if you truly believe snow white isn't a love story and those elements need to be removed..
Then why are you writing..
You are empty.
Lesson 5
Don't care how many times you reboot a character or a franchise..
We know who spiderman,batman,superman is...
We don't have to through another rehash orgin story..
If anything the best characters are the strong silent types..those without an orgin story..
And those details slowly come out through the story.
Lesson six..diversity
You can put in tons of diversity...
But if your not giving the audience what they really want...
Then what's the point.
I watched the 2023 Dr who episode..fans were freaking out because they dared play the pronoun game,had a trans actor in this episode..
But who literally cares...
They gave homage to the fans..
We got our doctor/ doctor Donna moment..
And I couldn't have asked for more.
Lesson 7...life outside of work..welcome to pto mornings
I literally didn't know there would be this many people on the roads,in the gym,in the supermarkets...
Like do that many people work nights..
Cause I was a bit suprised
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Honest question..when did the fat ass look become the thing
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Posted:Nov 30, 2023 5:34 am
Last Updated:Nov 30, 2023 4:35 pm 2697 Views
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I'm curious as to when the Kim Kardashian back side became a thing..
And it seems to me more of a female obsession than a male desire..
And I'm not talking about a big ass on a normal sized woman..
I'm not bashing bbw.
I'm talking about nothing on top and a dump truck for an ass look..the ass that can hold a wine glass look
The look that LSU gymnast makes bank off of..that look that every woman at planet pizza gym desires..
And I wonder why???
And why is a small or flat ass not desireable??
This is like saying why do guys wish to be freakishly muscular when the ideal artistically should be say Michelangelo's david..
And I think most women would agree that overly muscular men are off putting.
Well hello....Kim Kardashian is off putting..
But I want your opinion...
Is that gym butt..that yoga butt off putting..
And of course every dude is gonna say nahhh..
But guys would luv any sorta female butt..if it's exposed..if it is wrapped in a tight gym attire etc
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Why do we fear " control"..is it not mearily " change"
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Posted:Nov 29, 2023 5:31 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2023 9:10 am 2661 Views
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I process these sorta things as I study how businesses are run..
And let's be honest
Isn't control..
Simply change
Whether that is something new like..Hey everyone now has standing desk...to new " uniforms" to wacky corporate hat day or wnatever..
If we can put up with that sorta bullshit..
Then why are we suprised when say a spouse suddenly desires control.
I'm suprised at societies sticker shock over bdsm..
I mean if I'm wearing a goofy asses corporate uniform..
Why would you be shocked that I'm now..
Say naked and collared at home..
Both are a form of submission
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Wish I had that " sorta" life
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Posted:Nov 25, 2023 8:51 pm
Last Updated:Nov 25, 2023 8:52 pm 2672 Views
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Maybe you read about a real life Forrest gump..
Where the guy literally fumbles his way to success despite the odds.
I use to think that title belonged to author roald dahl..
But I caught a YouTube vid on the life of William myer....aka George the animal steel..
And omg..
Large,shy,bullied as a with dyslexia..his mom told him to fight back at the neighborhood bullies..took on 15 of them.
Went to high school and became an all world athlete..became a big man on campus.
Knocked up his hs gf but still went to college..got a full ride scholarship. A freshman literally allowed to practice with the senior team...
That is how big William was
Had to enrol in an rotc program??? and punched this rotc geek in the face..
Lost a year of college eligibility???
Was in a wrestling class and tanked a match so his slacker friend could earn a passing grade...the dick teacher quickly caught on and gave the slacker an A
And William an " f"..lost another year of egilibility..
Guy offered him a job helping to teach disadvantaged ..
He took the job,finished his degree...
And you'd think that would be the end of the story..
Well by then the young couple had 5 and the teacher salary didn't pay the bills.
So William tried to get a job as a bouncer ...but couldn't get hired.
His friend was a big wrestling fan and told young William to go see this booker..
And the b ooker hired him on...
Can you imagine teaching,being the wrestling coach,the drivers ed coach..
And wrestling part time..
And he did this for like 20 yrs...
Only to have the state revoke his ability to teach drivers education due to the massive amounts of speeding tickets he had...
After school he'd speed to towns like 150 miles away to wrestle that night..
So William now needing money for his family..joined the Pittsburgh pa wrestling territory and was officially renamed...George steel..
And a legend was born...
Can you imagine doing a bs side hussle for 20 yrs..
And then people like hulk Hogan emerged and the industry caught fire..
Where most dudes were 20..he was already 40 something..
Which usually means he should have missed out on the big paydays..
But ended up wealthy, newly turned to religion and retired due to a disease.
He is now passed...
But omg what a life..I'd be scared shitless to get a girl pregnant,be married at 17..
I'd be shitless to see that college oppertunity go down drain.
I'd be scared someone would out me as a wrestler and I'd lose my teaching job..
William wore a mask.
And in the end...William became a millionaire
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