Adult conversation 3 why bi..or what to consider if you never thought of that option
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Posted:Oct 9, 2023 5:08 am
Last Updated:Oct 9, 2023 11:04 am 4501 Views
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Hope your enjoying the series so far.
Obviously I'm not gonna be able to go deep with this topic since I have limited time before I have to go to the slave mines ( work).
But I thought I would bang out a quick blogs for those people that never even considered being bi..
And what I feel you may be missing out.
This blog is more so for the straight people that may be on that edge..may have considered or have been fed up with men or women..
Now I'm not a woman..nor a bi/ lesbian..
So I can't talk from their P ov ( perhaps they can chime in)..
Sooo let's get to it...
I get your not attracted to " dudes".. you protest that you like women..
But if you ever entertained the thought..
Men..esp most straight dudes that go bi..
Aren't..omg..gay...yes there is a huge difference
Most bi guys w erent " born" that way..don't have rainbow flags on their houses or cars,most were or are married w ..
I'd say alot come out later in life..but not really " out".
What do you get out by opening your circle to men..
1. You get your mirror image...most likely another 40 yr old dude..that you can watch football with hang out with,do stuff with..
And anything sexual between you doesn't weird up the friendship.
2. With alot of bi dudes there isn't a " relationship".. he isn't looking to break up a marriage or become your wife..
It's mostly likely just sexual...a bj..a quick fuck..sucking your dick
3. He most likely will have the same high sex drive..
Where as your wife may not or may simply not like things like sucking your cock or want..omg anal.
4. You don't have to have " feelings" for the other guy and can just enjoy casual " safe" sex with your new friend.
5. Your wife may be into it....and think..Well at least he isn't sleeping with other women,doesn't have feelings..
It's just a sexual release..
6. You may be 40,50..divorced and back into the dating scene..
And finding your too old for the bar scene or surprise 20 yr old women aren't interested..
Bi guys are in the same situation...
It's just they turn to other guys
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Adult conversations..let's talk about sensual domination..is it real..is it satisfying
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Posted:Oct 8, 2023 8:48 am
Last Updated:Oct 9, 2023 2:26 pm 5124 Views
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I decided to take sometime today to blog about sensual Domination.
I feel like it gets lost in the shuffle,isn't talked about and is pushed in the corner.
Those practicing as sensual Dominants may not even be seen as "Dominant" by others in the community.
I know I was guilty of that.
But I've come full circle on that and see things differently now.
To me the roll of a slave isn't to engage in my desires,do what I want to do kinkwise.
Rather my job is to enable others so they can actively live out their kinky desires.
So yeah there really is no need now for whips,pain,objectification..
Once one realizes this really is about control and a power exchange..
And that comes in alot of wonderful flavors..
Including sensual Domination..
So what is sensual Domination.,?
Some may assume it's "bedroom play.".fuzzy cuffs and cheap toys from an adult book store..
To me a sensual Domme is someone that enjoys various elements of the lifestyle..
But really is turned off by others...such as harsh discipline,humiliation, etc
To them this really isn't about pain...it is about control.
And just because a person labeled themselves as " soft" or sensual Domme doesn't mean they aren't strong,a take charge,empowered Women.
Let's be honest guys..we can be pushy...whether in the vanilla world or even in the lifestyle...we want sex..we want kink...and if we don't get some
Then we look for someonelse..women are faced with the choice to put out or go back to their cats and tiktok
The lifestyle sorta turns that dynamic on its head and puts the Woman in control.
Sensual Domination is so cool because it allows a Woman to dictate the relationship..
Without forcing her to take on his kinks or enter into roles that would make her feel uncomfortable.
She gets to define her role as Dominant instead of letting the lifestyle or even men..
Define it
Sensual Domination let's the Woman mold the male to her particular needs..
For example..show me any other personals site where a Woman desires a man..
But then list she doesn't want,need his penis..penetration..as some older woman dont
Yet? She doesnt hestitate and proudly types she would luv a " pussyboy" to service her orally..
Let that sink in...guys no sex but you get all the pussy you can lick..
Where else can a Woman be so bold as to list exactly what she needs from a man..
And then to get one and keep him just for that..
Without having to put out
Without him whining,demanding or walking away to some other woman..
The lifestyle is the only place that gives women these options and the power to enforce them.
And let's be honest...not every woman is brash and bold..
Domination is about control...
And being in control of a certain male.
Sensual Domination allows a Woman to take a step back from the lifestyle and just breathe..go at a slower pace
Maybe she likes a guy from work or some guy online or even enjoys reading his blog..
For some it's a huge leap from contacting him,talking with him,even meeting up..
To..yeah..lol..
Him now undressing as she stands before him with cuffs in her hands..
With a simply click of the bracelets he is now nude and helpless before her
To some something so simple as the male now naked and in her charge is...
Empowering and life changing...a game changer..perhaps even a life saver ( maybe there is more to life than cats,complaining on tiktok).
Maybe there is a " different" type of male out there..one she can use,control and get what she needs...
So yeah maybe she thought the idea of finding a bf was impossible..
But now? Maybe she can consider a slave instead...and have a relationship where she is in charge,defining what she needs from him
Quick real life example..writing Domme is shy,sensual..
She wrote a chapter in her book about the Domme tieing up the slave in the shower..
And I'm pretty bold..why not I said..
And for someone shy to now have a fantasy become a reality was jaw dropping...
A naked guy now actually in her shower..his hands bound as the water cascades down his back.
She holds a sponge and has access to his whole body.
And yeah going into every area..
that was quite the power exchange..
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Crazy drunk uncle joe wants a 1 time gift of 100 billion dollars to Ukraine
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Posted:Oct 8, 2023 7:07 am
Last Updated:Oct 9, 2023 4:24 am 4160 Views
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And no
I didn't embellish that ridiculous amount of money to further my point..
Joe thinks if he asks for a huge sum then he won't have to ask again till after the election..
And no I'm not making that up..
Meanwhile the story said the US already gave Ukraine like 37 billion already...
My point today: we are trillion dollars in debt,Ukraine has the world's most corrupt politicians..where is the accountability for the money we already gave
Ukraine not only lacks the literal " man power" to fight a war with russia..they may have to bring outside forces in...so this is an unwinable war and a money pit,
Ukraine forces lack the knowledge and experience to use the tanks and firepower Biden gave them..such tech no doubt will end up in the hands of the Russian forces..billions of dollars worth just like Afghanistan
And yeah..pick your poison..
America needs that money for America...
Whether for fighting the homeless crisis
Building a border wall,
Eliminating student debt
My fav. Pet peeve...I was against universal healthcare because we were in such debt to China...I asked where would the money come from..
Now? Apparently money doesn't matter,debt doesn't matter...Joe wants a 100 billion for Ukraine..
Fuck I now want universal healthcare for america..
And what's worse...Joe actually believes..in this economy..with rising gas and grocery prices...that all he has to do is give a speech...
To convince your dumb broke American ass living paycheck to paycheck...
Why Ukraine needs our tax dollars..
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Adult conversations: why did you choose Dominant,switch or sub
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Posted:Oct 7, 2023 6:51 am
Last Updated:Oct 8, 2023 7:28 am 5615 Views
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A story has to have a good beginning..
Or it was written by some Disney hack..
So what's my bdsm beginning? Why did I choose to be one role over the other.
I will briefly share my story and hopefully others chime in.
First off I believe alot of what we think of as " the lifestyle"..
Has been badly stereotyped and gives off the wrong impression.
Some may ponder...bro you list yourself as a male slave..
You'd even consider yourself a " pig" ( that explanation will come in a future blog).
A term that I don't find find offensive..if anything it's oddly accurate.
But you seem like a normal dude..you lift,you watch football, you work on cars,your blue collar,..and yeah I also play videogames..
I'm pretty much your standard white dude
You hardly seem??? What's a nice way to put it...
A doormat,a simp,a gimp...an onlyfans jerk off boy..a wimp
Sure I come off a bit of an asshat/prick at times...
But I'm not outwardly the stereotyped slave you see in movies and on tv.
And I'm not saying their aren't say the CEO that is a dick to his employees during the day and a complete sissymaid to a Mistress at night.
I'm just saying there is more to a role than a stereotype
To me the lifestyle is like my sexual orientation...I didn't choose it. But it is a part of me. I was born that way
So I consider my slavehood to be natural...it's not an act I put on.
..it's just I need the proper setting in order to openly share and embrace it.
By this I mean I can be the Leo you know from the blogs..opinionated,not letting people walk over me, being in charge even if I'm not..
And then get me around someone in a position of authority? And my submission just pours out..it really is funny to see
And I'm not even talking about a table of Dommes..
It could be a cop,a teacher,an aunt,a librarian, a doctor..and yeah esp nurses😉..
A nurse could literally tell me to get naked and bottoms up..
Being honest..I wouldn't even question her command.
Hell I wouldn't even process it..I would simply do it..
That authority figure type really triggers me cause deep down I'm an apple polisher type...the that didn't want to get into trouble and just wants to make the teacher happy.
Another question on your mind may be...but doesn't being a slave make you " less of a man", a bitch..
And I don't see this as an ignorant question or pov...
Because of the stereotype that some male slaves use their submission as a gateway to explore being more feminine,pegging,getting with dudes and more.
To a newbie/ an outsider..yeah you appear to be a " bitch"..by a vanilla standard.
While this may be the case for some...there are plenty of strong male slaves that never go down that path or are never used by their owner in that fashion.
He may be used as a stud. He may be fucking more people than you...hell he may be fucking your ass..you never know
I mentioned all of this being " natural" to me because the lifestyle was the missing piece of the puzzle.
Of my story
I grew up liking girls..had no interest in dudes...and then found out I'm not a top sexually. Topping to me seemed odd,funny...even weird.
It was like trying to write with your left hand.
Try to process this for a moment.. even today I still like women,I like to kiss,lick ..fuck I'm the oral champ when it comes to servicing a woman..eating out a pussy or ass
And fyi the equipment works well..I'm easily aroused..
I can / have been ridden before..
But topping doesn't do anything for me..it doesn't mentally compute..and yes I'm great in turning a Woman on,giving her oral orgasms..
Put pissed them off to no end when I couldnt plow the back 40.
So I crashed and burned until I was afraid to fly
Around college I started to process the concept of what a bottom guy was and my interest in men grew..
Back in the day the only easily means of porn was magazines..
And sure the ladies were fine. But the phone ads in back really caught my attention.
Not only naked gay studs...but also D ommes with big strapons
The lifestyle provided me a means to be with women...
Without having to top women..
So I fell into the lifestyle ass backwards..and embraced this role as bottom,sub,slave
And instead of feeling like a freak...cause I didn't fit into vanilla land.
I found I was greatly desired,wanted and appreciated by both the gay community and Dommes in general..
The concept of a guy being a bottom,submissive was old hat to them. Not a big issue.
If anything I was greatly desired.
But my story is not yours..I didn't make a choice..but maybe you can..
Just don't read into stereotypes..
And please see the tree through the forrest..
Meaning alot of bdsm can be boiled down to a power exchange..you don't have to see it in sexual terms
If you chose to be a slave, it doesn't mean your less of a man..
If anything it is defining the top role as the TOP.
Whether that ever applies to the sexual component is up to you all..
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Blog post 1..let's be adults and talk about
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Posted:Oct 6, 2023 7:01 pm
Last Updated:Oct 7, 2023 4:42 am 5222 Views
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First off my intention with this series is not to be a guide book. I'm not your mom/dad or even wikipedia..
I'm not here to hold your hand..
I will just explain a bunch of lifestyle things and talk about what people get out of them.
I will start off basic and explain " myself"..
And then later explain certain lifestyle topics..or even personal stories
Like omg..you actually did that?
Yes I did
Yes..it was like Dec 13th...there was presents under the tree..
She was a dancer...had dancer thighs
She claimed only her bf could ride it..
Until she met me..
I'm talking about a big strap on
She was so turned on that..no boast..she let me service her orally.
Dancer thighs...
BUT the point of the series isn't to get you hard..
It is to try to explain a fetish or style of play and what it feels like.
Give you some intell of what you could experience and why you might enjoy it
Like I said I am not like a gimp...there are gaps in my knowledge of the lifestyle.
I'm hoping other bloggers will jump on and share their experiences.
But tomorrow I'll start off with the basics
And hope it helps someone
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Gonna start a new series of blogs about explaining lifestyle shit
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Posted:Oct 6, 2023 4:59 am
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2023 5:57 am 5576 Views
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One of the main problems of the lifestyle is how closed off it is.
NOBODY SHOWS YOU SHIT
Nobody wants to take someone under their wing ( unless being honest..she..is like 20 yrs old).
If your a dude,old,black ( just bring honest based on my experience locally) you will be ignored at munches,groups,hell play parties..
So I thought I'd do my little part and craft a series of blogs explaining things,why I enjoy them,what people get out of them .
This idea came to me as I was on fet and looking at this Dommes set of pics.
And while the actions depicted seemed very natural to me..
To others? They probably wouldn't understand.
Without someone giving them some insight, I doubt this person would even try it..
Whereas I am quite open and kinky..there are things that I've never done or an expert at.
So I appreciate when readers chime in and help further the discussion
And honestly there is so many topics to cover..I'm even open to readers suggestions or questions..
Topics could range from something simple like..
Dom or slave..how did you choose
How do you meet lifestyle people
To what does it feel like to be naked in front of women,a group and then be demoed on..
What does a cane feel like..how does it differ from a paddle or flogger..
Why do you like pain..
To specific fetishes...why do you like to be pegged..what about feet interest you...what is cbt etc..
To even sexual interest...like how do men differ from women as tops...what's it like to suck a dick..
What's it like to be a pussy/ oral slave to a Domme..
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Masters vs. Mistresses and finding my needs are different..how about you,
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Posted:Oct 5, 2023 5:03 am
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2023 2:10 pm 5627 Views
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Now this may seem like an odd blog.
And no doubt the majority of you ONLY want a Master or Mistress..
But no doubt there are some that desire both..if not even a Dominant couple.
So I thought I'd ask...and if so how do Masters and Mistresses differ to you..
Are they interchangeable...or is there a huge difference..
My opinion:
With a Domme...
I believe I want it to be less sexual..I had my fair share of older Domnes of late and the desire for a " relationship" was still heavy in the air..
I feel what I really need instead is a " strict aunt " type..
Someone who enjoys exerting control,treating a slave as a slave and yeah..would enjoy heavily disciplining a male..
I feel like I need to get away from the dude oriented Femdom kinks like strapons,chastity,male milking..things that are heavily sexual.
And instead focus on more traditional lifestyle things like service,pain,etc..
With a Master?
By the very nature..I think it would be more sexual...more sexually focused..
But with a Master I wouldn't want a drill instructor type..
I wouldn't want that strict authority.
I'd want more of a father knows best type,someone into say objectification,pain..using a slave
But is warm and fuzzy throughout the process.
I would be cool with an actual relationship outside of play..
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When your small workplace turns into the " office"
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Posted:Oct 4, 2023 5:04 am
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2023 4:27 am 6086 Views
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Still sick..gonna take a few mins to blog about work..
Kinda funny to go from a 5 person mom and pop shop to being bought out and 8 months in...
We are now a 5 person corporate mom and pop shop with nothing changed...despite the companies claim to have 12 stores in st. Louis etc..and have $$$$
You'll still see my ass locking up the same gate..as I've done for the past 17yrs.
But that's not today's point..
They now want us to do the corporate team bonding bullshit one might see on an episode of the " office"..
Complete with bring your baby pic in,wear your fav hat day to wearing an actual Halloween costume to work..
And I don't have time for this bs...
I'm basically jim helpford...maybe I'll go as the " hole punch".
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Been sick
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Posted:Oct 3, 2023 5:06 am
Last Updated:Oct 4, 2023 4:31 am 6776 Views
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My lack of posting is due to being under the weather of late...
Not 1000 percent if it is the flu or the hazy 90 degree humid filled Oct. Days..
Oh well power through this and you'll be hearing me talk about my 23 paid days off I have to spend...
And the projects I wish to accomplish
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Fat camp
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Posted:Sep 30, 2023 8:24 am
Last Updated:Oct 1, 2023 4:37 am 8377 Views
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I watched this y outube vid about overweight *ids and this camp they attended.
I won't go into alot of detail because those non adults are not supposed to be blogged about on alt.
I will say...I always thought I was husky growing up..
Even now as a 5'11 210lb grown man..
I feel I need to drop a few pounds..
But the show featured..." people" tons younger and my weight or easily more..
And I had to somehow process this..
A 300lb man is a big dude..
A 300lbs " person"
???
And I do have sympathy..I do understand people have problems,issues..school sucks,home life sucks
I'm not blaming or shaming..
But my brother was literally 6'3 250 plus pounds..
And now your telling me my brain needs to now squish that into a smaller frame..
And process it..
It's like combining the rock with Kevin hart..
And even though i...like most watching the video..
Want to see these people lose the weight.
I wonder if it will make them happy..
Kinda funny how non parents ( teachers,etc) tend to get involved when it comes to say a person's orientation or gender..
But where is this same push when it comes to weight.
I know I'm not " healthy" at my current weight..
There is no way they are..
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