Tit for tat..an appreciation for communication in the lifestyle
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Posted:Sep 1, 2019 8:04 am
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2019 10:44 am 5019 Views
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Maybe i am old school, but i really hate dealing with anyone either short replies or is too busy to reply.
You know the type...you write them a long note talking about yourself and they send a two sentence reply.
Or you sent them a note...you can clearly see this person read your note and/ or is online..
And you get no reply back..
Sure i get the phrase..." maybe they arent into you"..
Or perhaps they are busy..
I get " life happens".
But as a submissive talking with a potential dominant...it makes ponder. If you dont have or cant make time to write an response, then how the hell are you gonna find time for someone in your life.
I dont expect 5 paged emails from someone. Nor do i expected tons of personal details..
But when a sub ask you the most vanilla softball questions in bdsmland...like...what are you into?
He replied...everything and scat...
's his whole reply..i simply asked because he didnt list any of his lifestyle interest in his profile.
His whole reply to ( including what i mentioned above) was two sentences.
People, people,people...this isnt playing tiddlywinks..its bdsm.
When someone asks you what your into..they want to know what they are getting themselves into..
If your into cbt...cool..
If your into gangbanging ninja clowns or whatever..then as a sub i need to know this for my own health and safety.
i have to know what a dom likes because duh..
is what he likes and wants to do with a sub.
And as a sub is what your gonna be doing..
So please dont treat this as a throw away question..
I get noone wants to fill out a bdsm checklist..
But how hard is to list the basic general things like bondage,disciple, paddles..
And it doesnt take huge balls to mention some fetish you really enjoy such as heavy bondage or boot fetish or pony or whatever..
But a two sentence reply tells your not worth my effort.
Why should i even bother?
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The tv show the wire...when someone gets you to watch a show and
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Posted:Sep 1, 2019 7:19 am
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2019 7:41 am 4919 Views
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I've heard tons of people talk up the tv show " the wire" for years now
Claiming it to literally be the best tv show of all time..
And i hate when people sorta coax you into watching it..
Sooo yeah i watched the first episode and it did nothing to hook me..
To me it was like expecting this awesome feast at thanksgiving, the smells fill the air and your tummys growling..
You plate up expecting a treat and the turkey is overcooked..
The series felt dry..
It's like an ex cop wrote the series..had the correct cop lingo ( did nothing for the audience thst arent police officers),
Had the right cop look and feel to it, had actors look like real life cops and drug dealers..
But this person has no clue on how to write characters.
And this was coming from a guy grew up on cop shows like hill street blues.
Okay okay you may say well it was only the first episode..give it another shot..time to get its proper footing.
Id reply im now 4 episodes in and no matter how much gravey your pour over it..
It is cop work heavy and dry characters.
There is no nostalgia..its set in like 2002..but without the mention of the drug dealers using pagers...it could be set in the 70s,80,90,now.
People keep telling me to keep watching..
But its sorta like sitting next to someone on an airplane and having them tell you their life's story..
I could care less mcnulty is divorced..he is basically han solo of the police dept. I dont need a backstory. I except he is a cop is good at his job, i get he drinks and is a bit of an asshole at times.
He's hawkeye pierece, he's jim from the office, etc..
He's the rebel of the .
I could care less the strong female detective is a lesbian is studying for?...law school?
I could care less about the mind numbing banter and inter politics between the judge,the mayor,the chief of police, etc.
Four episodes in and the only redeemable thing from " the greatest show ever"...are the black actors portraying the drug dealers...to which im told some actually were in real life and are consultants to the show.
I was hoping someone here could convince we to continue on with the wire
Maybe i just dont get it..maybe the show isnt for me..
Or maybe the show was crap for the 1st season?
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The remake...hollywood is officially dead
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Posted:Sep 1, 2019 6:47 am
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2019 8:37 am 4686 Views
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I thought hollywood was dead when they kept remaking movies/ or rebooting franchises from the 80's.
Like omg a remake of the "a-team"😲😤👹
Now it seems like its cool to make a movie..literally cutting and pasting plotlines from your past.
It's called the j.j. Abrahams effect.
And yes i am delibertly looking at star wars.
Someone supposively leaked the plot of the new star wars movie..
To which i wont go into..it could be totally
..it could be balls on accurate?
Either way im not a dick..im not here to spoil anything
But i want
job...hollywood script writter...i can gloss over movies and video games and literally steal pieces from them.
Hell i can gut an old movie and remove its bare bones plot skeleton.
It's easy to watch the original star wars and replace luke with rey..and then repackage it as star wars for a new generation.
Throw in some mcguffen devices and wacky time
and the plot writes itself.
Even better...(and no this next part isnt a bash on women,actresses, nor strong femalecharacters...it really is lazy script writting.)
Simply replace the existing character ( or female superhero,spy,jedi)...
With a girl.
there is no need for actual training,failure, or comedic bumblings...or daily life for
matter. Then simply call her " empowered" in all the press releases.
She simply is billie elish badass.
Its a technique used back in the day with superheros..it was all action...like thor...noone cared if thor was dating, or what his sexuality was, or if he was bullied in school, there was no real deep backstory .
People just wanted to see him fight.
But it was a comic book and not a movie...
I honestly could care less who reys parents were..
Because the film isnt set up to make
care..about her parents, about her life,about the character herself..
She is thor...a 2 d " tank" throw away character. So yeah im not shocked to see her backflipping over a tie fighter.
Which is a shame considering the disney writting crew is very female now.
Youd think characters..deserve more than just pats on the back for being now female or gay or black.
I guess it is easier to just cut and paste plots together and throw in some diversity...hoping noone comments you stole a scene right out of harry freaking potter..
Nope noone is gonna notice j.j. Abrahams.
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Yaoi...now this is very interesting slant on sexuality via japan
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Posted:Aug 31, 2019 4:02 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2019 8:52 am 4279 Views
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I was watching an illustrator on youtube compairing different styles of japanese comic art..
He mentioned a term i never heard of..yaoi
Yaoi is a genra of comic books done by women for a audience
So i was imagining something very feminist orientated or atleast lesbian maybe..
Er😋 nope..
.even though it is romance orientated
the romance is between guys..
so writers/ artist putting a genra of comic for mostly fans that depict romances between males..
Mic momment
And according wikipedia yaoi differs from comic art produced by gay men..
I wonder how so?
You'd think well maybe yaoi is just about the romance and not about the nsfw stuff..the actual pentration being shown.
Nope..its there... google yaoi images.
Yaoi is very open about its appreciation for a top and bottom character. It is clearly gay men and cant be confused as dudes being confused etc
Its understanding that being gay in japan isnt a biggie.
Seeing that the samauri took lovers..its sorta in their culture
Sure you may not be gay or have someone gay in your family. But it isnt a big cultural shock for someone be gay.
I bring this blog because i found it fascinating..
Sure alot of women will admit liking gay men/ watching gay porn in america..there are plenty of fanfic sites dedicated your favorite tv stars getting it on with other dudes.
But i never saw a whole genra ( literally ranging from pure romances detective stories)..dealing with romances written by women for women...
That are different then what gay artist/ writers produce
Mind blown...well done japan
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If im not offended then why are you..the vocal minority edition
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Posted:Aug 31, 2019 9:01 am
Last Updated:Aug 31, 2019 9:04 am 3888 Views
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So yeah i read about this software company is getting ready to release their newest game.
So just like disney you end up with a disgruntled employee that does small things to get back at the company..
In this case the employee inserted the words ..fagbag..and ohhgay instead of ohhhlay.. like what a bull fighter says.
So ofcourse a small minority of people flood the companies comment section.
They actually demanded the company apologize, donate 10 grand to charity and have sensitivity training..
And the company caved..face palm momment😲
They never asked their actual customer base if they were offended or if this was a big deal.
Why is this a big deal?..well its the pc assumption that it,tech and gaming in general is too white,straight and male..
It therefore broods this toxic environment against women, blacks, gays,transgendered, handicapped, small dogs, clowns,etc.
Well im gay..i play video games..i watch tons of twitch/ youtube..and yeah i buy video games.
Noone asked me if i was offended.. that vocal minority doesnt speak for me. Nor do they speak for the gay gaming community as a whole.
Words like fag or gay dont offend...if your so easily triggered by those words then you definitely dont wanna go online.
Where its normal for players to scream suck my dick to teabag an opponent that is down...to calling each other pussies..etc..
Even then i am not offended. Sure alot of people are ignorant,crude or idiots. But its easier to just report them in game or take them down in the game.
Alot of companies now walk that pc tightrope..they listen to the vocal minority trolls.
The funny thing is this software company said fuck it and instantly reversed course..
He listened to people that actually buys his product.
How?.. well for every organized side of an issue you are now getting groups forming for the other side.
These new groups all have youtube channels, they directly call out these companies on social media etc.
They are making the ceos rethink their decision..
And yep they are calling for boycotts of their own..
Imagine that..people who actually buy/ play games asking the companies to stop being so pc.
Dont get me wrong i wish the gaming community would do a better job at policing itself and tone down a bit of the masculinity..
Its not perfect..
But it shouldnt be held hostage by the pc police either.
If im not offended..then why should you...its almost like the white people that bitch about black using the n word.
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The backlash is a coming
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Posted:Aug 31, 2019 8:00 am
Last Updated:Aug 31, 2019 9:32 am 4261 Views
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I find it funny how companies make billions with a tried and true formula...but then decided to have a " new coke" momment.
Gillette corp owned by p&g decided they need to go after the millennials. Apparently the trend with the younger generation is to stop shaving all together.
Face palm..the lumbersexual look lives on.
So gillete decided this generation is wrapped up heavily into social issues.
They decided to release a series of commericals focused on men and their behavior.
Instead of working with men/ their loyal customer on men's issues, gillete decided to whip out the flamethrower and burn the forrest down.
Basically they used the ads to burn men. The ceo conceeded that its not a big deal. The company didnt need or want that sorta of male customer anyway.
Fast forward..5 months later and the gillete division lost 8 billion dollars.
The ceo then switched the ad campaign away from male bashing to " local" heros.
The same could be said of the movies. I have no problem with strong female characters..women being the lead or being the whole cast..
But for christs sake can we atleast get a good story.
These writers are so engaged in diversity and pc politics that they want to write blogs instead of writing movies.
Sure capt marvel made money...sure the avengers made money..sure star wars made money.
But if a business attacks its core audience and guts the very soul out of its story..
We are gonna get bombs like solo...
Instead of working with the customer base companies continue to force their dogma down our throats.
For example we are getting an all female avengers..
Why?
No really why? Noone asked for it..it seems to push an agenda.
None of the women/ girls characters slotted for this team have a successful selling comic book.
None of the actresses slotted to play these characters have box office cashe or proven success. There is little overseas recognition of these actresses.
So lets just push off anyways?
Im not against strong women or an all female cast.. but it seems like a hodge podge of characters thrown together to make a " team".
I think disney will continue with its fanboy attacks and pushing away a certain audience.
I think disney will learn their new coke lesson..
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An honest question about the dem debate
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Posted:Aug 29, 2019 5:53 pm
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2019 6:43 pm 3856 Views
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honestly not trying to make this blog political.
I get that there are alot of people running for president on the dem side..
I actually applaud its diversity..let everyone be heard.
But then why is the media deciding your candidate by silly rules like individual to make a debate.
Doesnt it really come down to a few big donors giving people to make this quota .
I mean what is so bad about multiple candidates in a debate having their own opinions and values.
I mean why should a party be glued to one message or one person..
I mean..omg the gop got stuck with mitt romey..
We got stuck with trump cause the rest of the field sucked..just being honest.
So what is wrong with giving multiple candidates time..
Why do we have to resort to some sorta hunger games tv bs.
Just being real..why do we need to whittle down the field for tv.
It's pretty obvious your gonna end up with joe biden or a socialist vs. Trump..
And really i'd have any other option...not a trump or liz warren bash.
But isnt there anyone better.. god can you imagine a trump
Vs warren vote off..
At this point im wondering what obama is doing..
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Why do women?..the steal my light edition
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Posted:Aug 29, 2019 5:01 pm
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2019 6:15 pm 4417 Views
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I mentioned before there is a humerious episode of friends where the women bond over a self help called..
Embrace your inner Goddess and kept him from stealing your light.
Which i am actually cool with the concept ..a woman shouldnt need a man.
But women and men are different so i was hoping someone would explain this dynamic to me..
When women steal each others light..
I have two real life example from the internet and radio.
One woman got married...during the reception a bridemaid stood up and announced her engagement.
So fast forwarda few months..during this woman's reception the original bride decides to get even by announcing during the reception that she is now expecting.
Case 2...a woman is graduating from her master's program on saturday and now wants her sister to move her wedding that is scheduled for sunday..
She actually called a radio station for help.
Now as a man you literally cant steal my light..i really dont care...have your shit on saturday and hey we can have my shit on sunday..
Fuck we can literally have a drunken weekend..
But women i find are reaaaaaally picky about this sorta thing. It's like they really want that spotlight.
Im not bashing..just making observation
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Can you read my mind
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Posted:Aug 29, 2019 5:09 am
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2019 11:13 am 3680 Views
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When i was talking with my ex i think i found what went wrong.
She naturally is a Dominant woman..it is a mind set..she knows what she wants and how far she wants to take bdsm.
I think part of the problem is most women are very big picture people.. they have a vision of what marriage,,a big house with a Pickett fence looks like.
But alot of times women naturally assume the male is either on the same page or shares her vision. When in fact he is clueless
They never stop to fully lay it out..explain to the male their plan.
Its like when a woman tell a male to go to the market and pick up some tomato sauce...
She knows exactly what brand and what type she wanted..for a reason ( thickness,quality).
And he brings home some random jar. She never properly communicated her needs
So ladies please explain in detail to your male what you need and want..
Whether that is in a jar of sauce ( brand, type,size, etc) or how far you want to explore the lifestyle.
Men can be rather dumb..lol..but we arent mind readers.
Just cause we are together doesnt mean we share a brain.
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....the search starts...again
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Posted:Aug 28, 2019 5:32 pm
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2019 11:52 am 4133 Views
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Id like to think starting over is a good thing. Perhaps i've grown from my last encounters.
Not exactly crash and burns but hardly charlie sheen "winning" either.
I learned that alot of Dominant women want that deep relation right off the bat..
And unfortunately i couldn't give it to either. Women want what they want and i didnt measure up.
I was not their ideal mr right submissive.
But that's cool too.
I've always been a play guy that developes into a bdsm relationship or more.
Seems like these women wanted the relationship before the play.
And to have the relationship you have to be the....
.ideal?
Anyway it's cool. I feel a relationship is something that grows overtime instead of a preplanned concept.
Lessoned learned...not sure which way my journey may go.
May finally try guytown..ive only ever been with one Dom.
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