BDSM MEANING
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Posted:Apr 14, 2023 12:19 am
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2023 3:05 pm 3316 Views
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Most people reading this likely understand that BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism, and how everyone feels comfortable in the lifestyle depends on which words they pick for their definition. Even with the official words, some other ideas are floating around out there. Here are four fun ones:
The creepy ‘internet Dom’ will often want the S to stand for sex because they want to get their kinky bow-chicka-wow-wow on.
Another cleaver version is often paired with “I Love” - Bananas, Dragon fruit, Strawberries, and Mangos.
If you are a fan of Italian food then this might work for you – Best Damn Spaghetti & Meatballs.
There is the snarky variant out there for those who are frustrated with the lifestyle - B for bullsh*t, D for drama, S for sh*tty behavior, and M for mature people are sadly lacking.
While you may have chucked at a couple of the meanings and I am sure if you have been around the lifestyle long enough, the snarky variant has been in your mind probably more than a few times but here is an alternative that fits nicely with the originally mean(s) of the acronym.
B – Believe in yourself. Believing is important, no matter your role in the lifestyle because the decision to explore the lifestyle as well as to join/grow within it requires each individual who does this to have confidence they are making the right choice for themselves. While everyone struggles with self-confidence, people who are truly at home in the lifestyle find their confidence grows as they mature into the role that fits their soul.
D – Doing the right thing. While there are bad actors within the lifestyle, see number four above, most people who are involved in the lifestyle are here for the correct reasons while endeavoring to do their best at making choices that are proper for themselves and those they care about. Plus this fits with believing in yourself because, at points in your lifestyle journey, there will be times when you have to have faith in yourself and make hard decisions to do what is best for you, even if these choices mean making others unhappy.
S – The S better represents how wonderful it is to show your lifestyle partner, or partners if you are poly, love. I believe that for those of us who are involved in the lifestyle being loved and showing those you love just much you care is truly amazing. When we find our home in this lifestyle, we love at a higher level than we ever dreamed possible, and the S here represents the joy in expressing it.
M – Making the world a better, brighter place. While there is not any scientific evidence to back up this claim, many of the people in the lifestyle put in the effort to improve the cosmos. Often it starts with working to be a better version of themselves and grows outward from there. Sometimes it can be as simple as working to make their in-person or online group better or making the time to get involved in their vanilla communities to lend a helping hand.
With so many truly amazing people involved in the lifestyle, it is great to see the acronym take on a greater meaning other than just the four letters that describe the lifestyle we choose to enjoy. Also, if you are new to the lifestyle, please keep your head held high because while at times it might feel like you are trapped in a kinky version of The Walking Dead, surrounded by hoards of flesh-eating zombie-like internet trolls, know there are amazing people out there to connect with, become friends with and maybe, just maybe, fall in love with that special someone.
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kneeling
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Posted:Apr 14, 2023 12:14 am
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2023 3:04 pm 2604 Views
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you know full well that when you kneel submissively you are indeed exercising a form of power over me. Without your submission, my Dominance is nothing but a desire unfulfilled. I know this. You know this. It is the role we play over and over again. Master and Muse. But who is really in charge? I am. Today. Because you empower me. Usually, the veil of submission is worn heavily and you play your part to perfection. But every once in a while the vanilla in you peeks out from behind that curtain. For a moment the actors step out of character and the magic is briefly revealed. Sometimes that look in your eyes, no longer cast down, says, “We both know what this is all about, we both know we want this. And God, I do love this play we perform together
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