What are you looking for?
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Posted:Dec 28, 2023 11:43 am
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2024 2:18 am 15502 Views
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In the group Psychology of a D/s relation, on FET, there was this person, who asked about this..
This is something that many men have asked my, sooo many, many time, before, too.
It always left me flabbergasted. What do you mean? How so, "looking for"? Am i in a kind of a shop? can i pick up a d to my taste and thats it?
What! This person explained, it is not so much a person... as a something....
As in a connection,
Many gave their support to this idea and some gave very good explanations about those who ask this kind of qeustions.
As in, they really have NO CLEU, what so ever, about the amount of ...
About what is asked both from the D perspective as from the s perspective, to build this connection. To be able to give, that much.... That this is about the character of the person. Being compatible, beyond the easy kink sex play act...,
being compatible as human beings, FIRST.
Like each other.
This person, also said, it is not something you can look for, it is something that will happen, organic It can be something he/ she can say, or a certain look, that stops you dead in your tracks.
It is not a play time kink, it is a connection, that ebbs and flows, within a dynamic, it is not easy to come across.
How do you say, that your preferred dynamic is the mental connection?
Whenever i told, explained that, they always looked like they saw water burning. skipped my explanation, totally.
And just started talking about fetishes... As if i did not say a thing..... ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/crazy.gif) Just totally missed it.
Did not have a cleu.
To me, those are not dominant, and for sure, not Masters, no matter what they have written in their profile. Those are kinky sex role players, with a dangerous lack of Knowledge about safety, rights of the s type, hard limits, safe words, to name a few...
And, most of the time a very big inflated ego, based on nothing... Maybe lack of selfesteem?
I always felt insulted, and totally misunderstood, when that was the first and only question they had for me. The only thing they wanted to know.... about me....?
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Talking, talking, talking...
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Posted:Dec 27, 2023 11:07 am
Last Updated:Dec 28, 2023 11:14 am 14607 Views
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That is all, what our government and the EU is doing.
While with all the fireworks that will go up into the air, is really very bad. Not only for those who get themselfs in a hospital and cripple for the rest of their lifes...
BUT, the birds dont have an agenda, dont know what is going on, and fly out of their sleep trees and fly very high and very very long, because those morron, shoot their fireworks everywhere!!
A lot of birds get killed, this way! And those lame folks in the government still searching for their balls and backbone.
Way too afraid to get the firework industrie and the weapon industrie against them.. They are responsible for all the birds that die.
It is in other countrys possible, to have a central firework show, Even here, in a place called Sneek the local government decided we do a anual fire show and stop the private selling of fire works! It is possible!
But Holland? amp; ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/mad.gif)
Money is their only motive, or so it seems. all dogs and cats, and people who came from war zone countries....?? all are in for some real bad, bad days.
I have a rather extreem solution, nobody will follow through, ofcourse....![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/ground_laughing.gif) , it could be as criminal.... ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/crazy.gif)
Just put the fire works in analy, put the match to it, and you solve two problems in one strike! HA! I told you! It is rather extreem! ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/ground_laughing.gif) ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/ground_laughing.gif) ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/laughing.gif)
That is how much i dislike those morrons, full of liquor and throwing fireworks every where! These days, the fire works are also very, very heavy, like real bombs, and grenades.
The folks, here, already started their private war game....![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/sad.gif)
This has to stop!! It is soo terrible primitive!! and stupid braindeath.
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Wet, wet, wet,
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Posted:Dec 25, 2023 12:34 am
Last Updated:Dec 26, 2023 1:40 pm 14876 Views
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My gosh! It was terrible. It is already raining for days now, this saterday, it just started as a very light drizzle..... And from there on, it only got worst!!
I was doing my luxery round of shoppings, as i do sometimes, to those small villages.
I was wearing three! kind of raincoats. A small windcoat, and then a long rain coat, over that. Both were wet, on the inside too.
Then i put on my Army rain poncho, That was really a very good move. But, still, sooo cold.
My gosh!! I was sooo cold, on my way back, soo cold!! The whole freaking day rain. I did not get warm, untill the next day!! Ginger tea, honey, nothing helped, getting warm again..
( when i was still drinking, i just drank, untill i got warm again...) ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/sad.gif) ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/crazy.gif) not really very healthy.
I soo much, do not like this climate, this weather.
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Storm!
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Posted:Dec 21, 2023 12:01 pm
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2023 10:44 am 16700 Views
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This one, was our first winter storm. I loved it. Ofcourse i went outside, on my bike! it was real fun!
Dont be afraid, just do it!! Hahahah. And, when it is not possible to ride anymore, i go walking, no big deal! ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/smile.gif) it was a great adventure, at times i thought, the wind is going to win this from me!
Not so much!! though.... Our "storms" are much different then the storms in the US.
Stay safe.
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Dentists,
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Posted:Dec 20, 2023 1:54 am
Last Updated:Dec 22, 2023 10:00 am 15107 Views
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I had to go to my dentist. Just the usual routine controle.
Talking with my daugther about their dentist, and their dentist says, you need to clean the space between your teeths, with dental floss.... I really struggle with that floss, cant get them in to my last teeths.. always almost chooking, trying to.
Now, my dentist says; you dont need to use that floss. it is actually too thin, to get to all the right places...![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/crazy.gif) Just toothpicks are fine!
There seems to be this new thing, wanting you to give up your perfectly good wishdom tooth... WHY?
"just in case" is not an agument i want to go for.
Because in that line of thinking, you could also remove my uterus, bowel, Just "because youll never know"? Just in case.....?![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/crazy.gif)
Such a crap argument, reason...
This dentists centre is real great, they have a lot of patients, with fear for the dentist, and they are very kind to me.
Still, no fun going there, it still gives me stress....
Everything was alright!! sooo happy!!!
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I thought so.....
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Posted:Dec 17, 2023 4:42 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2023 1:40 am 15738 Views
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This workplace is organised by The Salvation Army. They serve lunch, every day. Just a very simple hot meal.
The two men, who cook for everyone, just make very simple, mostly pre fab food...
As i thought, for almost all the people working there, it is their ONLY real meal, of the day.
Things like fruit or, real fresh cut vegies? Or, herbs....?
I asked this R person, those strange things, 😉, called: fruits? Do you take them? Or fresh vegies? His answer; after first, thinking about it; Nah, not so.....
Aah, well......
I take my own hot meals with me. I cant eat their "food"...
Almost every day, they eat patatos, those are nightshades, i dont eat those... Or cook pasta, wheat, i dont eat, that either.... And, always meat!! The cheap kind of meat... sausages and the likes.... always almost pork...
It is great, that people, working there, can get this one hot meal!
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Being sick?
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Posted:Dec 16, 2023 1:01 am
Last Updated:Dec 17, 2023 9:09 pm 12212 Views
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Friends, familymembers, they, "who took the needle"....,
Are all, sort of, constantly sick, or on their way, to an other bug, that jumps at them...
My and her partner, are, again sick. My sister, too. A friend, too. At this community centre, there are also alot, "who took the needle," who are, sort of, constantly sick....
Better one week, or two....maybe three... or longer...
And, BHAM! sick again... and, it looks like, they cant fight that bug anymore, as fast as before..... Really struggle to get their health back..
this is even noticed by a good quality newspaper.
I worry about the health of my and partner, they are young, should not be struggling with their health this way...
They both, "took the needle"- more then once...
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Bash your door in?
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Posted:Dec 15, 2023 11:55 am
Last Updated:Dec 16, 2023 12:48 am 12836 Views
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Today at the workshop, during the tea break, we talked about if it was oke, if i came in, on other days, then are sceduled now. W. told me, you have to let us know, beforehand, because otherwise we worry about you and will come to your house and may bash your door in.
I was totallly suprised; Bash my door in?? Huh? i wanne see that! LOL We both laughed. They wont! for sure not!
I am not as most people there, who have some (many?) mental indication, some mentor who keeps track of theirs whereabouts, and if they take their meds or not and all that kind of stuff. I dont have a social / medical/ mental indication, for that kind of support.
Most there are heavy on meds.
And most have some sort of drugs/ booze use in the past or still... Have some sort of criminal record... been inside... jail....
So, i don fit their 'normal' indication, about a persons past and behaviour, and how they have to behave around me.
Most of the days, now that it is really cold, also in this very big shed, i start working with my coat on, and gloves too. Until the temps are a bit more comfortable, i work that way.
I finished an other bike. Had some problems with the back wheel. Thanks for the help from Ronald, he is a great teacher.
We worked as a real team, today. Both working on the same bike, trying this and that and the other thing. Putting the back wheel on the bike again, and then, get the wheel off it, again because there were other elements that did not work the way we wanted it. And do that some more times!
Back wheels can be a pain in the youknowwhat.![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/tongue.gif) ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/thinking.gif)
We fixed it!! )
Now i am starting on a very old bike, the brand name is; Mustang, ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/heart.gif) i told them, i want to fix this bike and have it, as my own, pay for it.
I have to demolish it from bottom to the top. I am looking forward to go ahead with this project.
The energy today, was really very crazy, i dont know, what was going on, but what a randomity.... very restless..... It is not a full moon..... so that could not be a reason, for all that randomity... restless energy.... This one guy, one of the staff, mentioned it too....
I just keep myself to myself, doing what i like best. And when i cant fix it, i just walk out of the shed, breath in and out, in the outside... and go in again, and get on it, again.
Or talk about it, with Ronald, he has always some good ideas, to try it this way or that way...
Sometimes it is just about muscle power! I hate it, when that happens! sighs.....
incompetence....
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My Etsy adventures,
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Posted:Dec 14, 2023 9:37 am
Last Updated:Dec 15, 2023 12:07 pm 12341 Views
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![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/ground_laughing.gif)
Since i try to cook by that sour-base book. I found one great recipe, it are Rosti, made of sweet patatoes and parsnip, onion, eggs, some buckwheat flour, and some cheese + some herbs...what ever i like to use.
I love it!! BUT, it is a lot to grate! With just a small manual grate....
So, i went looking for some oldfashion Moulinex hand mill... One, i used to have, long time ago, I knew what i was looking for, it is very the 60 ish, in orange! I love it!!
Could not find it, in any of the thrift shops around here.....
So, Etsy was the next place to look. I found more then one Moulinex grate mill.....![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/heart.gif)
I bought it by one person, but got in contact with an other seller, of the same Moulinex grate mill.... At first i did not noticed i talked to the one and had bought it by the other person!
Then some hick-up came on, about the payment. I go contact the customers service. I had a great contact there, the man was very helpful, and told me, the payment went through and you will have this thing within 24 hours, if everything went well.....
So, i tell this to this one sales woman and she told me, i did not get any notification, So, i check payment again, and then, i see i bought it by a totall other person!
I was totally surprised! How did i do that!?!![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/crazy.gif)
So, i go back to this one woman, we had a very nice conversation going on. and tell her, the fault is by me, I ordered it by an other shop. I found that very hilarious!!!
I made my excuses, about this terrible stupid mess up.
So, that was all settled, then i came into the workshop again, went to the thrifshop, and there i see the same grate handmill! Very cheap!!
So, now i have two of those vegie grate hand mills
I find that very hilarious!!
Using that handmill makes the workload a lot less. I dont have to stand in the kitchen for 3 hours, anymore but now, only for 2 hours! Há!
Me and Etsy... It is a real adventure! ![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/ground_laughing.gif)
I am not sure if i want to order there again....?!
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ExNameForUse?
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Posted:Dec 10, 2023 12:01 pm
Last Updated:Apr 20, 2024 12:17 am 13281 Views
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Anyone heard anything from her? Is everything alright with her?
I did not read a blog from her, for some time now, and i just wonder....?!
I hope everything is alright and she is just busy in her new job, getting used to the new work situation.![](https://secureimage.securedataimages.com/images/common/chat/smilies/bdsm/heart.gif) Making home decorations for this Christmas thing, coming up?
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