What value does a submissive and Dominant have? (Reply)
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Posted:May 10, 2023 7:54 pm
Last Updated:May 12, 2023 4:51 am 7609 Views
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For some it’s nothing more than financial gain from controlling the submissive’s finances or being paid to dominate them.
You can't measure the impact you have on someone's life. You can't quantify imagination or knowledge or creativity. You can't measure the value of synchronicity or serendipty. You can't measure the depth of a a most cherished memory. It is not possible to measure or put a value on the most important moments or people that impact our lives.
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Punishment, Consent and Value
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Posted:May 7, 2023 5:22 pm
Last Updated:May 9, 2023 11:01 am 7985 Views
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There is a weaker version of the intentionality condition, according to which (valid) consent at least requires that one not intend not to consent. Doesn't one forgo their right to consent when they intentionally perform a wrongful action. A related idea is that punishment would not violate an offender’s rights even if he explicitly refuses to consent.
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Danger Will Robinson (reply)
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Posted:May 4, 2023 3:30 pm
Last Updated:May 6, 2023 6:30 pm 8297 Views
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writing about the dangers we face in the Lifestyle.
Keep in mind that BDSM is not a "lifestyle" it is a sexual behavior.
According to Psychology Today, people involved in BDSM have, on average, lower levels of PTSD than the general population. On the other hand, there are some people who report practicing BDSM as a way of working through their past trauma.
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Do Dominants need Empathy? (reply)
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Posted:Apr 24, 2023 4:24 pm
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2023 7:23 am 10002 Views
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the Dominant of today needs to have empathy in their skill set.
Empathy is not a "skill set" it is a virtue.
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Toys and multiple partners (reply)
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Posted:Apr 23, 2023 2:43 pm
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2023 2:12 pm 9829 Views
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Your blog failed to suggest the most obvious and safest solution. If you're active with groups an different people regularly require everyone provide a negative recent test result.
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A little Honesty and a repost for the day. {reply}
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Posted:Apr 19, 2023 5:07 pm
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2023 6:55 am 10093 Views
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One mistake many people make when first entering the lifestyle, is relying on one person to show them the way or one book or one website.
Knowledge is an illusion . . Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you want to become. Everything else, is secondary.
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The Silent Treatment (reply)
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Posted:Apr 18, 2023 3:04 pm
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2023 9:55 pm 9665 Views
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By using the silent treatment, the Dominant is cutting off all support for the submissive.
Time out is a very effective discipline for and submissives. It is also one of the 16 BDSM punishments. Disciplining a submissive isn't manipulation, it is training their mind and their spirit to follow the way of the dynamic they have chosen. Sometimes the least painful punishment is the most effective. Particularly when dealing with a submissive with a high pain tolerance that thrives on pain. A set amount of time out can be very impactful in teaching a lesson.
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Who makes the rules? (reply)
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Posted:Apr 17, 2023 1:39 pm
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2023 7:08 am 8725 Views
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A Dominant can’t just say, “Do as I say. I make the rules. You obey.”
Actually ron, they can. Your rules end at your front door. We are all adults here. There is a distinction to be made between whether there is a right to do something and whether it is right to do it. Following others "rules" ends at age eighteen and get even wider at age 21. There is no right or wrong . . just consequences. Except, of course for laws.
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