Can bdsm be made accessible to the masses
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Posted:Dec 22, 2023 5:44 am
Last Updated:Dec 22, 2023 8:06 am 5661 Views
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I ponder this question...
Can the lifestyle change to be more " user friendly"?
At first
I thought there was that " 50 shades" moment . People outside the lifestyle actually being interested in it..
But that sort vanished
Now? I don't know what to think..
Hell it hard enough to get people in the lifestyle to listen and understand..
Like that bondage master guy I told you about.
I wrote some deep emails saying I completely understood his desires and spelled out why I would make a good person to play on..
And
( insert cricket sounds)..
If I can't get that guy aroused with his own fetish...
Then how can I get aunt may or jj Jameson
Your thoughts
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The business of being a star
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Posted:Dec 21, 2023 9:34 am
Last Updated:Dec 22, 2023 5:30 am 6245 Views
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I'm not a star..
But like most I dare to dream.
I've actually given it some thought though...of what it would really take to succeed in an industry.
My advice
1. Do something creative first ( like blogging)..
Get an understanding that your nobody,a small fish,replaceable.
Your not a star. Nobody wants to read your shit.
Only after you let go of your ego
Can you truly start to listen
Open your ears,open your eyes,close your mouth
..listen to how the machine really works. Listen to the cogs turning.
Listen to that heart beating.
Before you prepare to dominate, you must first know how to play the game.
How does the industry,the company,the website operate?? What are the rules? The expectations,the parameters that I am allowed to operate in?
How does the industry help or restrict my creativity?
What are the hurdles..the challenges I must face
2. Examine your competition
I feel way too many people cranked out a wizard's novel in the 2000s cause harry potter made billions. They assumed it was the subject matter and not the talent of the author
They assumed it was a trend.
Tell me how many other wizard books did you buy?
I think way too many people get caught up in trends. They want to flip " books" instead of writing them.
Too many just want to copy whatever content is currently getting the most clicks.
I'm saying don't copy..
Open your damn eyes
Realise it's not the book,the video,the game,the art that your need to study
Rather realise who you are competing against. The person,the author,the content creator..The man behind the curtain..
I think the easiest way to present this concept is..
say twitch
You want to start a channel and hope to become a pro gamer
You realise that yeah the industry is rigged..
Literally. Duh?
Women can be the worst players yet make a living by exposing themselves on camera.
You?
Don't have boobs!!!
You are at a disadvantage when it comes to pulling viewers,clicks,subs..making a living.
This is your money I'm talking about
But wait???, you don't have breast..
But neither does the top twitch streamer...fuck he isn't even like 18..
The dude is an old 45yr white dude..
Wtf? Really
Does this mean you need to don a red jumpsuit,a fake mullet and moustache and become a clone of " Dr. Disrespect".
Do you need to copy his act?
No
( Mic drop moment).
I'm saying you need to understand the man behind the mullet.
Note how he operates,note how long he grinds and streams
The actual guy isn't shy. He will tell viewers that your most likely won't make a living doing this,he will tell you that he has to put in a 10 to 12 hr day just to produce content
and he'll tell you straight up that he's not a "gamer"
He is an entertainer.
He tells viewers to try to do what he does..try to be entertaining for hours on end.
Your not competing against a work of art,literature,media
Your competing against the person and what they may create tomorrow.
3. Now your ready to compete.
You've seen the game..you've seen the in your competitors..
Now tell me lil ones..
What makes you special? Why should we give you the ball?
Shout it out,let it out...
Or let it tumble from your lips.
What makes you different
Or else
You might as well flip houses,cars or tables.
And it has to be more than
I'm pretty.
Being pretty isn't a talent. YouTube is littered with pretty girls covering songs poorly.
Just remember most people want to be good enough
To just fit in
Instead have the balls to shake the business to it's core.
And be that change
That others try to copy.
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Lola Loading..the rise and fall of a star
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Posted:Dec 21, 2023 6:52 am
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2023 1:31 pm 4931 Views
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" stars are not born...
They are created ".
- me
Whether you are familiar with a certain type of media or not isn't important.
This could apply to music,art,acting,singing..
Lola isn't a person..
She was a project.
Literally..
The "Lola loading " project
Was to be the next big thing on YouTube.
A virtual nobody turned " star" ..backed by a shady investment group packing 8 million dollars..
So yeah they took a nobody singer ...named yfu baby...off the streets..
Rigged her up as a v tuber with a space pirate gimmick..
Lola loading
Captain of the stars
And made her grind.( demanding she crank out a new original song every week and be inline in character for 10 yrs a day)
This company behind the Lola project literally dropped everything else ( 19 other projects) and focused on her..
She was to be their star..
Lola Loading..
My space queen..
And just as she started to make traction,get noticed..
The character disappeared..???
On the instagram,the face book,the twitter....was an apology to all the fans..
From the company expressing their regrets that the project was shutting down.
They
Broke
Lola loading
Space pirate.
Lola loading
Captain of the stars
Yfu baby had a nervous break down from the pressure.
The company not only fired her but outted her real life name..
And most likely ruined her chance at a future career.
Lola loading
Was supposed to be the next big thing..
This is a cautionary tale for those that think there is an easy way to fortune and fame.
That all is needed is a pretty voice and some ability to sing.
Lola loading..
The next big thing
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You don't show the feet pics for free
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Posted:Dec 21, 2023 5:29 am
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2023 8:04 pm 4091 Views
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Yep your boy said that to a scammer yesterday on fet. I'm such a " scuff demon".
A few quick ways to tell if someone is a scammer..
1. One pic in the profile...in this case just a foot pic used as the profile pic.
2. They are from here...but where's here...in this case its some generic location like missouri.
3. Maybe some grammar mistakes/ poor english
4. A short profile with interest that pop..like strapons,pegging,cbt
5. Their onsite activity.. In this person's case they literally liked 50 random pics from guys from missouri
In 1 day
Which is rare
But sus AF..
And I had a brief conversation with this " woman"..
To which she enquired why I was on fet.
I trolled by saying...
I like looking at pics
I figured this scammer might catch on..
She then replied...looking at pics?
(Went over her head apparently).
I then said " do you always show the " grippers" ( feet) for free"?
There was no reply ( sigh)..maybe she had other fish on the line
I typed in ...sheila??
She replied...yes
( WARNING MIC DROP MOMENT..in 3,2,1...
I know you like pics too. You've been looking at 50 of them today and contacting 50 men ( potential ).
One word of advice Sheila, you don't show feet pics for free. You make the customer pay for them..
And I was blocked.
Damn...I wanted to play with her some more
Meanwhile I reported this person to the website
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So lets talk about bondage and control from a slaves pov
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Posted:Dec 20, 2023 2:38 pm
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2023 5:46 am 5043 Views
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Sooo yeah.
I wrote a letter to a Dom today. His profile stated that he was a bondage master,wanted to keep you bonded for hrs,wanted to edge you..
Wash,rinse,repeat,..standard stuff.
The problem with such a profile is..
Well finding that " unicorn" slave.
I reminded him unfortunately with that sorta desire you need two things
1. You have to find someone that comfortable enough to allow you to bind him.
And not only bind him.
.(but let's be honest)..bind him to his comfort level while still tight enough to satisfy your love of bondage..
Him barely tied up will do nothing for you.
Chances are the Master would prefer you tied tighter and unable to move.
And also you gotta remember this isn't a rush job.
So this slave has to be cool being tied up for hours.
2. What the Dom basically wants is sensations play,controlling your body.
He can have fun tieing up a guy spread eagle and butt naked in his bed.
But ..
He's not going to enjoy the power exchange if the slave is a floppy fish..
Remember he isn't a serial ( rhymes with thriller) and isn't getting off on your fear.
Quiet the opposite..ideally wants you " happy,horny and
a very responsive slave.
He needs you relaxed,aroused and in his control
He not only needs the slave to respond to the stimuli
He needs you to let out those desired sounds..the wonderful moans and groans ,begging him to let you cum etc..
That is a turn on for him
He isn't looking to scare,hurt or ideally piss you off...he isn't a sadist.
Rather he is enjoying the power exchange because he is getting a desired response to his stimuli..
He's getting off getting you off.
It honestly is no different than say spanking that cute female subbie at any play party..the one that let's out those wonderful noises when you barely spanked her..
So let's say he does find this unicorn...it could be me???
When your topping and tieing someone down...sure we get it can't be overtly tight due to circulation issues.
And some people may have health issues preventing you tieing them up tight.
But from my experiences ( and some advice to Dominant)..
I'd rather be bound tight..
Cause if I have " wiggle" room my body will instinctively try to put away when a stimuli is applied..
Say I'm spread eagle and you now wish to say flog my front.
My arm will try to pull down every time the flogger makes contact..
Which could Jack up a shoulder.
Spread eagle is a classic..
But honestly behind the back or handcuffs might be better.
Another thing to consider. It's one thing to tie someone up,using a few toys on them and call it" sensations" play..your reacting to someone's hand,a toy,something grounded.
But you also can take the slave out of his comfort zone and let him...well I call " floating"
Where there is no " contact".. nothing else in his world but the stimuli.
Someone once tied me up naked and used a flesh light adult toy on my hard cock.
To me it felt like there was nothing there...until I felt a quick sensation ( the insides) of the sex toy engulf my penis..
For a second...and then was pulled away..
And it confuses the fuck out of me..my mind couldn't process it,couldn't time it..
I even tried to air hump in the slight chance I'd make contact with the toy
Then nothing..
And this overwhelming sensation around my dick..
And then gone..
Easy control for like 30 bucks???
Take something even simplier...one of those whortenburt? Wheels and gently run it over the cock and balls...slowly.. with the lightest of pressure you can give him an out of body experience
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Why does everything female(adult) morph into $$$
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Posted:Dec 20, 2023 10:35 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2023 5:07 pm 3629 Views
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Just a quick rant...and an rhetorical question..
But why does anything female ( adults I'm talking about)in nature suddenly shifts to sex for..views,clicks,revenue..
Like twitch..it's a gaming platform..it was fun to see women getting into the field,playing the games...
And then twitch..
Well allowed them to dress in short skirts,show breast
Or costumes..
Or just wear..yeah just body paint while playing..
Which morphed into hot tub streaming..
The less they wore the more income they made
The more sexual their content..the more Money they made
Huh??? Now they are gonna allow out right nudity
But hey that's just twitch try to be only f..
Why am I complaining..
Cause I now see this same stuff happening on YouTube.
I mentioned before about v tubers..virtual reality host..
At first I praised the idea and thought it was an awesome for someone shy to express themselves (without having to put their body/ their face online..).
You talk through an anime character..you move in real life..the figure moves on screen
And yeah it was mostly Asian women hosting these channels..voicing these characters
It was cool,entertaining...and a few got a little risque..
But a lot of adults watched them..
So within 3 yr v tubbing exploded and grew by leaps and bounds
And everyone now wants to be one..
So yeah how do you now to you go from small potatoes to a big fish..
Well you not only get leud,you talk about body function, you talk about fantasies, you talk about sex
The women ( who are mostly straight) then start crushing on one another..
And a lot of them did face reveals..so now they will literally post real life fetish stuff like..
No cap..the one woman( tricky) is photographed talking the other woman ( numi) on a leash on the street, the other day tricky made numi wear this super short revealing skirt ( in real life)..
And yeah their popularity is growing..
So they took something that basically was female driven,female created,the on air talent was female,for basically a female audience..
Where these women goofed around,played games etc..
And yeah it's quickly sliding into only f terrority..
And I'm not a prude..and I understand sex sells..
But holy f people..your not gay..the women I just mentioned admitted so..gaybaiting is just so bad..
But so is lifestyle baiting...the pseudo Dommy mommy stuff is cringe
Do we really need to hear you just took a pic of your v and sent it to the other v tubber
So it's frustrating to see something so positive,so female driven,so creative .
Suddenly slide into an only f swamp..
And yeah it pissed me off
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Ideally how would you dress a bdsm couple
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Posted:Dec 20, 2023 5:55 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2023 9:59 am 2682 Views
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I wanted to have some fun
And let's get surreal for a moment..
Say you could take your favorite couple and play " dress up"..
And have them go out in public..
With no one batting an eye
Ideally what combo of attire are they wearing?
Say are they in leather,naked,a suit..etc
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Recon for men and what I found there
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Posted:Dec 20, 2023 5:10 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2023 5:05 pm 2550 Views
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Well I will say I was pleasantly suprised..
If dudes are you thing,then there were a good number on there.
Unlike ALOT of sites I was amazed at the amount of profiles I could view as a standard member..I think it was 10 a day..
But more orgasmic...they let me email multiple users
For free..
Sooo yeah that business model had me coming back..
Their big restriction are things like you can do multiple detailed searches or you can be featured...petty stuff..unless you become a prem member..
But I can understand someone paying for a membership.
Just wished something like this existed for the vanilla folk.
I'll continue in the comments
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The " got junk" trash pick up co. Are fucking you over
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Posted:Dec 19, 2023 3:30 pm
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2023 5:00 am 2525 Views
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So yeah that happened.
Put out all my stuff on the curb for the city to come by and pick up in bulk..
I found a note saying...nope...you dared to put a few items in a trah bag.
So now I have like a ton of c in my front and the city can't do another scheduled pick up till
Feb 21st. My tax dollars hard at work..
And before anyone complains...I'd gladly drive a trash truck for the city.
So like everyone else now a days you call...1800...junk guy or whomever..
And they will literally charge you like 75 bucks to dispose of a matress..
My load?? Might have been 500 to 600 bucks.
Got a rental uhaul..40 bucks plus mileage...the garbage dump..charged 90
Only 90 bucks to dump 1 ton of garbage..
Let's go..
The irony..
The 1800 junk guy dumps your load at the same place..
He was parked right next to me..
So like for 140 bucks...my problem solved..
I guesstimate those 1800 guys must be clearing 200 a load easily.
Anyway it's basically a rip off
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How bdsm is like glove shopping
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Posted:Dec 19, 2023 8:23 am
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2023 8:37 am 2507 Views
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Simply put..
Found a bdsm site with some local possibilities.
But for now? I'm just out shopping around.
I know it's cold out and I want some gloves..
But I'm finding there are ALOT of different styles..
I know it doesn't have to be an ideal fit..
I just want it to have 4 fingers and a thumb
Hole.
Lol..
No really...that is the odd thing about gay men...they can be paired up/ married and you'll always see ads for them looking..
So I don't even know if I need a 1 v 1 situation..
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