Why am I a submissive? What am I really needing from a Dominant
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Posted:Dec 19, 2023 5:41 am
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2023 8:48 pm 3353 Views
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Part 1.
Why am I submissive,
If you knew me in real life you might say?
Your not submissive...if anything your quite the chad. The guy that doesn't give a fuck,walks around with big balls,loud,funny AF,the type of guy that lights up the room and rallies the troops..
I think people tend to stereotype the lifestyle..
They think slaves are either shy,reserved,mousey types or they are some extrovert in their 9 to 5 and a gimp to some Dominatrix at night.
And that's just wrong....ALOT of Dom/mes want strong slaves..
ALOT of Dominant people aren't " Billy badass".
We're just people..
Submission is very natural to me. I've always been the apple polisher in school,the teachers pet. I find I respond wonderfully to someone of authority in the vanilla world like nurses,doctors,the police..
Around these types I find myself going into subspace. I feel compelled to follow,be directed,etc
So you can't imagine how I react to someone truly dominant in the lifestyle.
2. So I ask myself as I look for a Dom ...what do I want out of a Dominant person?
What have I been missing?
And like most subs I find myself looking for the same scenario in different people..
Soooo...I thought I'd put pen to paper and just get it out...you might actually enjoy it..
1. Hierarchy...I'm very "Anne rice" writing sleeping beauty..lol...I need a clear distinction between Dominant and slave. I'm not here to be your bud or your boyfriend. I feel the slave is inferior,beneath the Dominant. Much like a serf compared to royality.
I found way too many Dominant want/ have that sub hub. Ironically the Charlie or Joe or tom we see in the office is the same we see in at group events,play parties. Etc.
And to me that isn't a slave..
And trust me I'm not an old guard bdsm guy...but I drawn to things that outwardly show a slave his place...like boot licking.
To some that may seem wrong,icky,stupid.
But it really triggers something in me and makes sense...I mean I was an apple polisher in school. So I get the same wonderful feeling being naked and on all fours greeting a Dominant in this fashion.
2. Discipline...I think Dominant people enjoy discipline as much as slaves do.
But I feel it can't be just a one off or just a punishment thing.
If anything I feel discipline is like weight lifting. You need that guide to constantly push you,get you over plateaus, work with you to endure more..
If a slave is to really grow..he needs to be disciplined .
And yeahhhh...I think it needs to be harsh.
Discipline should be discipline...I don't see a distinction between say play vs punishment.
Cause the only way to get him seasoned to endure more, is to start being harsh with him now..
3. Being a bottom bottom
To me it's important to not only important to be a slave..but be used sexually as one..
So strap ons,dicks,toys,fingers,fist etc
4. Trinkets....
Unlike a lot of slaves I'm very open minded when it comes to the Dominants particular style of bdsm..
But ideally I love the idea of a strict authorative aunt type for a Domme..
And yeah a gay grandpa type for a Dom....basically commanding yet warm and fuzzy as opposed to a drill sargent type.
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Now for the guys..why are straight dudes interested in m2m
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Posted:Dec 18, 2023 7:35 am
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2023 4:40 am 2741 Views
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Okay i did the ladies portion in the previous blog.
So I thought I'd now take on the dudes..
What is it about m2m,gay porn,literature,art,etc that could attract a straight or curious guy.
Like I said before..just cause you watch/ enjoy it doesn't make you gay..
I watch mtf...and I don't wish to be a woman.
I watch lesbians...and last I looked I'm not a lesbian.
I think the initial thing that attracts straight men to gay porn..
Is ( drum roll)
..being honest...the thing that initially attracted me back in the day.
I was straight,grew up straight..bought the porno mags like hustler back in the day..
Butttt I liked the men in the sex ads in the back..well build body,muscles,big hard dick..
I think straight guys turn" curious "through hero worship..
Saying that "this is the type of body I want,that is what I aspire to be,if I had that big dick imagine the women I could get..
I don't think most men process that as being...gay..
Cause it's not..
2. I think guys like m2m stories,erotics,P orn because
They can have some form of gay experience and then quickly dismiss it.
It's a safe space for them to process this interest...to dabble..and then delete
Sidebar: it doesn't make you gay
3. Straight men,curious may be attracted to the gay stereotyped lifestyle..
Fast,no hassle sex...a different partner every night...no need for a marriage or ,..
It's like that movie..old school..it allows men to get back their bachlorhood,to be that dumb 20 something bar guy again.
Its just that your bringing back a guy instead of a woman every night..
But..your still getting sucked,your still fucking.
So is it really that big of a deal..
It's just fucking..your not marrying the guys.
Your frat guy again
Sidebar...yeah sex can be quite easy without any sorta commitment.
So a gay P orn vid may entice a dude because it mimics his carefree days..
And I think a lot of guys could leave their baggage behind and watch a gay porn..
Cause..they aren't gay..and even if they were..they would top..
4. Your not gay..but he is..
Another good point is the straight guy is watching the vid and seeing himself as the top..he's laying the pipe,he's the man
Unlike straight videos where his attention is focused on the woman and her reaction to his cock.
You/ the top in this case aren't gay..in the film
You don't process your top role in this as gay
But damn that bottom guy is such a lil ( f).. look at him take your dick.
He's such a b
And for some guys it can be exciting to have this seperation meanwhile still enjoying the m2m content..they can enjoy the bottom really getting plowed because..
Well yeah the bottom is sus...a b...it's almost a weird b ullying effect
I
I think some straight guys enjoy the though of some dude wanting to bend over..be a b
And then getting that m2m experience/ getting his dick sucked..and the straight guy still maintaining that " mancard".
I think m2m P orn provided this experience for some men.
4. How easy it is to pull guys..
And sure in dopey straight videos the pizza guy shows up and fucks..
But a straight guy knows that is so fake and what a hassle it is to pull women in real life.
So they may wonder...do gay fuck as fast as they do in a P orn vid..is it really that easy to pull guys..
Can I be with a dude without the annoying tinder,without the numerous emails,without the numerous dates and putting myself out..
Do gay guys just fuck ..like the videos??
I think gay erotica is interesting because it explores that question
Is the grass really greener on the otherside..
And your not gonna really know until you try..
Sidebar: spoiler alert but you had your whole adult life to find out..
But yeah..it is..
I think m2m might attract straight guys because it gives them a relief valve from well straight life..
It lets them see what an " option" may look like..
And yeah without really having to change
It's not like your going to turn into a gay stereotype..
Your still you..
in this alternate life..chances are you see yourself as the top..
And your gonna do pretty much what you did previously with a woman.
I think a gay videos allow men to ponder,to wonder and perhaps dream.
5. Finally you might just enjoy watching,reading m2m for the outright real sex.
Straight P orn is
...boring,fake,some chick with fake boobs getting plowed by a troll w a big dick..then to hear those fake moans,fake orgasms..
Stop the cap..
It's even worse with lesbian porn..
Somehow double the girls is boring cause they are all faking..
And none of them are good at it..
With gay porn...the guys are just better looking...the guys can't fake..they are both aroused
The noises the guys make real..cause try putting something in your backdoor..yeah your gonna make noises too..lol..
And you get double the real orgasms,cum shots..
Maybe you like m2m because your tired of all fake moans in regular P orn.
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What attracts woment/straight guys to m2m..it might suprise you
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Posted:Dec 18, 2023 5:54 am
Last Updated:Dec 18, 2023 6:07 am 2964 Views
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First of all I think there is nothing wrong with any adult watching/ enjoying m2m porn.
It doesn't make you this or that.
I watch lesbian porn..last I looked I'm not a lesbian.
So I thought I'd take a few moments to explain why non lgbtq people enjoy these types of vids,stories, etc..
Let's start off with women..
1. I think there is always that subtle fear that.....she doesn't know,isn't sure if she is doing it right,should she stick a finger up..
Yeah that general fear that she doesn't know how to turn a guy on.
guys can be confusing because
most have no idea what turns them on..they've never explored their own bodies
I think there is this idea that women are watching gay P orn because they are looking for tips,techniques,they want to see if men really do it better.
Sidebar for the peanut gallery: from my experiences, yes they do.
But I don't think women are watching gay P orn so much for technique as..
Well for the bottom guy..
They know what a top guy can do.
Now they finally get to see what one can do sexually with a guy.
Does a finger go...
Sidebar: yes it does..and honestly it's not the pinky. I'm talking like 2 or 3 fingers in the hole
I'll elaborate later what sexual things do turn men on
2. I think most women luv a good " bottice " ripping romance novel..
A hard headed beefy dude that can't control his lust and " takes her" in the bedroom..
Sidebar: and as a bottom I totally get a man wanting to strip you naked and pound you silly...lol.. that stubborn good looking chad with..yeah he probably even has a big cock to complement that big smile
..and he's now in you deep..😁
Yes the hero of the novel is a prick..but omg can he..
Yeah..
I get animalistic male passion in the bedroom
I think society in general likes the beauty falling for the " sexual" beast..narrative
And if 1 is hottt...a lot of women wonder..???
What would 2 be like..would it be soft or would they pound away like a bunch of animals
3. Women usually get introduced to m2m/ gays through tv shows or something like Japanese romance comics..
Where the dudes aren't burly...but more dandy,petite,pretty..
Yet the one universal thing that crosses their mind
Does this guy top or bottom?
And Despite it being a tv show or comic..
Women really want to know and demand to see the sex for themselves..
So these Japanese romance comic do contain hardcore art..the mostly female audience demands it.
The women not only need confirmation the character they swoon over is actually..
Gay
They need to see the fucking..
They need to know who tops and who bottoms
And your not getting that on American tv..
But you do get to see that in gay porn..
And yes ladies they are different types of m2m porn..
It ranges from rough to very sensual and affectionate.
One can be pure penetration and others can contain various fun things like kissing,grinding,sucking nipples..and more.
Don't assume it's all the same or gay guys are just into fucking.
4. My final point..not every gay man,not every gay film features a stereotypical gay man..either flaming Elton John type or some rough dude that looks like he just got out of prison..
There are some very masculine,hunky bubble butt dudes that straight women can really invest their time and energy into..
And honestly not care that he likes dudes..
If anything he may be a " better" option/ dude because..
Duh.. gay men tend to be affectionate,luv to touch,cuddle,and understand their bodies..
With a gay dude you could actually pull on his nips,kiss his neck,go up that back door,suck on his fingers..
Stuff that would freak the fuck out of a straight bf..lol
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Can you do the mental shift around different groups
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Posted:Dec 17, 2023 4:59 pm
Last Updated:Dec 17, 2023 6:20 pm 2098 Views
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I was curious as to how many people would admit..
They could do the mental shift from working with bros..
To a dude coming up,touching you and kissing your lips..
I think even with bdsm...we still live in a messed up society..
Nobody needs to know your orientation..
But then again why shy away from what may seem natural..
I could be with a woman..
But I fear they are just friends..
And it's better that way..
So I be trucking and shifting gears and trying to find a nice guy.
It's kinda ironic that we have enough trouble shifting gears and admitting...yeah I want to be your ,your slave,your painslut,your dog,your pony,etc..
No imagine wanting to be that for a dude..
Like double shift and grind it out
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Alt is now on a timer
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Posted:Dec 11, 2023 6:57 pm
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2023 7:25 pm 3916 Views
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To those that want to read
They will have 1 hr..
And then delete delete delete ..
Alt will no longer profit from me.
They don't deserve the bloggers..
My blogs will be on from 7 am to 8 am..csm
And then i will hide them
The bloggers need to take a stand..
7 am to 8 am..and then
No new content
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Alt has to realise
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Posted:Dec 10, 2023 10:02 am
Last Updated:Dec 15, 2023 7:15 am 4066 Views
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You cant keep denying a blog..
If there is no direct violation of TOS.
Especially after the blogger wrote a long,detailed post.
And then i reedited/ resubmitted it..
to please some power that be..
Only to be denied again
It's not worth the bloggers time
Because someone obviously didn't like me or the topic.
It's easy for you to deny
It's easy for me to delete..
And offer you no future content.
By hey
I'm not the one with various mirror sister sites that need content to fill.
I'm not the once that needs to generate new revenue streams.
And if blogs didn't matter..
Even this outdated site
Would ditch them
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What to expect when your expecting another dude
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Posted:Dec 9, 2023 10:17 am
Last Updated:Dec 9, 2023 11:14 am 4894 Views
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First off I'm gonna say..a lot of you are probably thinking
Okay okay..you got me...
I've always had an interest but didn't know how to really process it,put it into words or even go about it..
Perhaps you wonder if your too old or what this desire really means..
In all reality it could mean nothing.. maybe your lonely,maybe your horny,maybe you'd like that friend...
Which could truly be that friend..
Yet also satisfy other needs..
Which is completely fine.
Like I said before men aren't women..we aren't a substitution cause you can't pull a girl at the bar..
Men are just built different.
I think at times people get the wrong impression of m2m. People assume it means your gotta fall in love,buy a house and get married.
But it could be as simple as.
..being older on the treadmill at the gym.
You enjoy watching the younger guys press the heavy weights,like the look of their tight muscular bodies.
But you never had the nerve to act on the desire.
Until you do. Maybe you walk over to the rack and start to make light conversation with that guy.
Afraid of what he may say..so you keep it about lifting. Ask him for advice
You find he is easy to talk to,super friendly,He's super chill..
Might make a great trainer or work out bud.
You complement his body and gauge his reaction..there is that pregnant pause
Waiting for the freak out that never comes.
Your both giving off some vibes..
So yeah...you get embolden and press your luck..
And ask him if he wants to just hang out at your place..
And your shocked when he says cool.
He's hot and sweaty from the workout and asks if he can use your shower.
You shyly slide in with the offer of fresh towels.
He pulls the shower door open...he's completely naked and hard before you...
Er..hard all over..
He smiles
You look away and offer up the towels..
Only to find his aroused penis now in your hands..
He ask if you wanna join him
And soon your scrubbing his body..the dudes cock in your hand..
You towel off and ask the guy if you should move this into your bedroom..
And yeahhh....fun story..but it's that easy to find yourself balls deep into a guy.
Without it having romantic or emotional overtones..
It can be purely sexually fueled
You wanted sex,you wanted his bod,you filled him up good..
All had fun. So why stress
The next day ? you could fist bump the guy at the gym
And your cool.
You could just leave it at that,you could ask him out..or just have a regular workout buddy
No need for texting,no need to be clingy or ackward..
Unlike women men don't need ALOT of whistles and bells..we don't need to be wined and dined...we don't need to go on multiple dates with you to see if your worthy of physical contact/ sex
We don't need you to be Prince charming..we don't need you to earn x amount of dollars,we don't need you to be a "boss"..
If there is attraction..there is attraction...
And ALOT of attraction really starts..
For me..being honest...starts with a guy just making contact.
Willing to walk up to a guy..especially a public place and feel him out..
Just talking with him is..sexy..it's shows ALOT of confidence
you shoot your shot and see how he reacts.
And no I'm not suggesting the gym is a good place to meet men..
Another attractive thing for me is desire...your being into me is fire...so who care if your not a weight lifter etc..
I'm not saying be creepy..but desire gives off it's own vibes..
Unlike women...guys hanging out means sex...
If a dude is popping over to play videogames,listen to records,watch Netflix and get to know you better..
Your gonna get to know him ALOT better..
Especially if your confidence, perhaps suggestive or forward..
Grabbing a knee,touching my body goes along way to getting us into the bedroom.
My point of this blog....don't obsess over your desire..
It's not wrong and your not broken..
There is nothing wrong with wanted to get laid
The best way to get with a guy..is to get with a guy..get on that Harley and ride
Maybe you are that lonely guy on the treadmill...
Maybe he is that lonely guy you watch on the bench...
The easiest way to break the barrier is to take that first step..
Say that first word...
And if that scares you..well this is 2023 and there is thing al Gore invented called the internet..
Where guys gather and list...literally every sexual thing they are into..will gladly list their role, if they are into kink,their hobbies...their pics
So it's easy to find a guy that gets your dick hard..
Ironically you'll find you spent more time setting up a profile,writing an intro,taking a great pic and searching..worrying you need to be your best to pull a man
Than the time it took to have a guy come over,hang out and now your having sex.
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The difference between a male and female " bottoms" in my opinion
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Posted:Dec 9, 2023 7:35 am
Last Updated:Dec 9, 2023 1:35 pm 4612 Views
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By now you've seen me throw around the term " bottom"..
ALOT..
But that usually applied to men..
So you might ask...how about female bottoms?
That is a te
To be honest I thought that was something primarily found in the lesbian community..
It's funny how we base our theories on male behavior and then simply think it applies to women..
In this case ..yeah in m2m...physically you need a top and a bottom...it's pretty clear cut..not saying a guy can't do both...but He's usually one or the other
With lesbians...??? Think about it...it doesn't have to be..
Both can be tops or bottoms.
It's not based on a sexual organ.
I'm not suggesting there can't be female " bottoms" in lesian/ lesbian lifestyle relationships..
But I think it's more mental,emotional,physical..
Then being purely sexual like men.
So why the difference?
Traditionally the bottom guy have been stereotypically portrayed as being smaller,slight of build,perhaps even a bit effeminate or nerdy
But in reality a male bottom doesn't have to be a fanboy..
He could have tons of swag,could be a chad. He can be big or buff
Be masculine AF and just enjoys it in the ass.
Female bottoms operate more like the lil sister, the tag along.
Why? Because women interact as a collective and operate best as a group.
Usually everyone is equal...so nobody is assertive or Dominant..your all " friends"
But within each group there will be that girl that is just more popular,prettier,more assertive,more overtly sexual..A leader
And she will be the standards for the rest.
Sooo yeah you might have other girls..fan girling over her..may develope feelings for her
If your not as bold..just one of the group..you might see yourself as a bottom..
And that girl boss as..
A Dommy mommy..
She might be that girl bold enough to kiss other girls..
And you wish you could
I honestly think that is why a lot of women are attracted to the girl boss character..say a rhea Ripley (wwe)..
I think it allows women to safely test sexual boundaries ..but they are also attracted to this woman's boldness/ her confidence/ her swag.
Probably the reason most women want a chad..
He is the male version of the girl boss,that leader of your group.
So I think female " bottoms" do exist. But we don't openly label women like men.
See as a man I list myself as a bottom to clearly attract a male top. Two bottom guys really don't mesh..so I'm quick to advertise my sexual position...
Or else I could meet a wonderful guy,waste a bunch of time and find He's a bottom too
And like I wrote previously I can't get this from a woman..
Kinda hard to find even in the lifestyle.
But female bottoms can be concealed in plain sight...hell maybe in your own bed
Cause a woman can be passive to a man..
And also passive with a woman/ girlboss.
.I'll post a few pics of rhea Ripley..
Show them to your wife,gf...
And most likely..
She'll " like" the pics...will say something along the lines like she'd sleep with rhea..
Yes in that context she would bottom to her..
Cause..(and yes the wwe uses this promo with rhea..)
You call her..mommy or more receintly papi..
And fyi Rhea Ripley in real life isn't gay..
Neither is her character..but I think women get this sexual pass..they can like,be attracted to,sleep with another woman..
And as men...yeah..that's cool.
Flip the script..have cm punk suddenly demand everyone call him daddy..
Have you hubby look at a cm punk pic..
And say..yeah I'd bottom for him..
And you might have some explaining to do
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The myth of " bob".. bent over boyfriend..can we stop the cap
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Posted:Dec 8, 2023 8:53 pm
Last Updated:Dec 9, 2023 5:10 am 4355 Views
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I thought it's friday..why not slip this in.
But honestly a myth is a myth..
And you can saddle up and go on this unicorn hunt..
But brah..
No straight lady I ever known is gonna peg your straight ass..
Unless it involves the lifestyle.
The closest your ever coming to seeing a real life unicorn..
Duh? Is your host blogger..so breath it all in
I luv women to death...but I don't top..I'm a bottom bottom bottom
Probably making me the ultimate giga chad.
I've never met that tom boy straight girl that just wants to top
And yeah I even tried playing the lifestyle games..
And lost
Your barking up that wrong tree if you think your gonna find that in vanilla town.
So if you wanna bottom..you gotta move to boytown..
And I'm not saying that to be mean..
I've been with straight,bi,curious,gay,lesbian,trans..
Not a boast
And never ever found my match.
I've given up hope of a female unicorn..
Cause I feel she doesn't exist
It's a myth..
Bros your wasting your time even with Dommes..
The best woman to ever strap me on was a black lesbian dyke..
And even then she freaked..
Cause your boy is sensual.
I'm a real unique unicorn..
And if I didn't find it.
I doubt you will find it either.
Bob doesn't exist unless it is lifestyle driven..
And I've probably been the closest male example I ever came across
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A Domme vs a male top..how do they compare
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Posted:Dec 8, 2023 10:46 am
Last Updated:Dec 9, 2023 5:02 am 4721 Views
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if you've been reading this week's blogs,you might have wondered..
Why doesn't a guy just get himself a Domme.
.what's the real difference between a Domme and a top dude
From my experiences..
I'd say for most guys there are few settings when it comes to women..
It's either Dominatrix or mommy blogger?
We can't process the thought of a strong powerful woman without sexualizing her.
If a woman is assertive...well she is either labeled bossy or a girlboss..
Neither label really helps..
Instead guys need to look to groups like the FLR ( female lead relationship) ones
Guys will join and immediately think it's femdom or female supremistry..
But if you stick around awhile you'll realise ALOT of women in the group don't want that..
Instead they want various levels of control of a guy in a relationship..
Levels they want to define..
Cause men cant/ wont..
So in essence it's like that old sexist saying
Men want a chef in the kitchen,a lady in public and a ...in the sheets..
Well you can add dominatrix to that list..
For some men there's just kinky and vanilla..
But if you think about it there are usually only 2 types of women..
Those you bang...and those you dont..it's like if you have a female friend,your not gonna sleep with her..
And if you wants sex with her...you sorta slide her out of the friendship slot..
You most likely never gonna have a female FWB situation.
With a m2m top..?
I feel there are ALOT of slots he could easily slide into..
Starting from
A dude you met for a hookup
Friends to FWB
Your regular Lover to calling him your bf
Your daddy to your Dom
Various setting for a m2m top ..
From just hanging out to
Him collaring you/ owning you.
With a woman I feel a man expects that whole package...
Which truly is unfair..
With a m2m top? I think the changing of the slots will happen naturally
And most likely won't suprise either one of you.
Unlike the Domme where the male has slotted her into that spot..
Yours is flexible..he could see you in ALOT of roles
Not saying you will Dom anyone..
But then again you might suprise yourself
And want that bottom guy as a slave.
With m2m I don't see it as forced
Like I said..
The real issue is men ..
With a strong woman we expect a girlboss..a Domme..an ass kicker..
With a dude? We just expect a strong man,someone confident, someone to lead/ guide.
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