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Ms Jay's Blog

A place for me to write about my tease & denial and BDSM adventures with my sub/hub and other friend's. And now also the start of cuckholding and use of a bull to continue my subs long-term denial.

Cams are working again?
Posted:Oct 7, 2019 8:33 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:15 pm
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Wow, it looks like the cams are working again. I was actually able to open someone else's cam and send a message but they didn't back. So I started mine and did a test and it worked. Even was able to reply back to myself. going try again later tonight when we have more time.

Might be good timing as we have hotel fun booked for this weekend.
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Long car ride
Posted:Oct 2, 2019 10:24 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:14 pm
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A few weeks ago, we went on a road trip, on an extended weekend for a vanilla event. However it was a long car ride, about hours each way, and I didn't want be bored, or for sub get too bored while driving. I wore a short dress with crotchless panties. So, even while there was some beautiful scenery to at outside, I decided entertain both of us inside by playing with myself, first with a vibrator, then with my fingers. It was daytime so I was a little worried that people in higher vehicles would be able to see what I was doing My sub had set up a phone on the windshield so it would record what I was doing and we could watch it later, and so he had a better view once he was done driving. I played for about 30 minutes on and off and enjoyed myself.



After lunch and about 30 minutes into the drive my sub pulled over at a scenic viewing area of a volcanic caldera. The scenery was gorgeous and where we were we could see the road for about mile so I decided I needed to add to the view in my own little way and flash the camera. It was a nice rush as once we were done a long of cars came up the hill and we pretended like we were just looking at the scenery. If they knew what was going on just 30 seconds ago. LOL.



We got our destination, and had a wonderful weekend. I dressed reasonably scantily most of the weekend as we were with others , while they weren't prudes, dressed very conservatively or were much older than but I wanted dress sexy for sub. We had some shopping do and of course in short-shorts, had bend the wrong way get things on the bottom shelves and give sub a great view as well as others. Have I said I'm a bit of an exhibitionist lately?

Monday morning, we packed the car and headed home again. I was wearing an easily accessible dress again, but forgot the crotchless panties, so I just took panties off once we started going.

During the ride I played with myself a of times again like I did on the way up, with the camera on the windshield video taping everything. It was daylight again, and I guess nervousness of being spotted was no longer there as we were passing a lot of semi's and I was staring the window, trying see if they could see , lol. I was enjoying myself and since we weren't in any rush get home, stopped more often to around.

We stopped at a restaurant and bought some sandwiches and drinks, then drove some more, till we found this nice vista point that had a little trail and a stream, with some picnic tables. We parked there and ate lunch, then decided to go for a little nature walk and at the stream a little closer.

We walked over an area where there was more tables behind the main buildings and took some nice photos of me on the table in various positions and showing that I didn't have any panties on. With the scenic view behind me I thought they came very nice. An added bonus with walking toward the back we found a foot bridge above the stream. When we walked over the bridge we saw that there was a path next the stream. I immediately thought what a huge turn on of walking and giving the camera a few flashes with others about 50' away! So we both walked down and checked out the area see where I could be and then he headed back up the bridge. I mainly stayed in a small area and flashed the camera by rasing dress up for more pictures.



Once I climbed back up sub told there was a longer path on the other side of the bridge and what did I think if getting completely naked. While I was so excited now with what I had already done I said "let's do it". This side was also more visible the building and parking lots as the path wasn't as low as the other side so I was getting excited about it. This time I walked down the path and once I thought I was far enough flipped dress off and then bra and was completely naked for a few minutes. Keeping an eye the parking lot someone decided walk their and headed over by us, and I had put clothes back on in a hurry. Good thing they were easy access but the bra did not make it back on for the car ride home. LOL.

I figured I had taken enough chances that weekend so the rest of the car ride was pretty calm and vanilla. I also didn't think sub could take much more teasing as he was already so horny from watching all weekend and that's it's been over 5 months since he has been allowed cum. It was a great weekend and next year we're going take an additional day "enjoy" the drive a little longer and take pictures in some abandoned buildings along the way.
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Long car ride fun
Posted:Oct 2, 2019 9:26 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:12 pm
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A few weeks ago, we went on a road trip, on an extended weekend for a vanilla event. However it was a long car ride, about hours each way, and I didn't want be bored, or for sub get too bored while driving. I wore a short dress with crotchless panties. So, even while there was some beautiful scenery to at outside, I decided entertain both of us inside by playing with myself, first with a vibrator, then with my fingers. It was daytime so I was a little worried that people in higher vehicles would be able to see what I was doing My sub had set up a phone on the windshield so it would record what I was doing and we could watch it later, and so he had a better view once he was done driving. 😃. I played for about 30 minutes on and off and enjoyed myself.

After lunch and about 30 minutes into the drive my sub pulled over at a scenic viewing area of a volcanic caldera. The scenery was gorgeous and where we were we could see the road for about mile so I decided I needed to add to the view in my own little way and flash the camera. It was a nice rush as once we were done a long of cars came up the hill and we pretended like we were just looking at the scenery. If they knew what was going on just 30 seconds ago. LOL.

We got our destination, and had a wonderful weekend. I dressed reasonably scantily most of the weekend as we were with others , while they weren't prudes, dressed very conservatively or were much older than but I wanted dress sexy for sub. We had some shopping do and of course in short-shorts, had bend the wrong way get things on the bottom shelves and give sub a great view as well as others. Have I said I'm a bit of an exhibitionist lately?

Monday morning, we packed the car and headed home again. I was wearing an easily accessible dress again, but forgot the crotchless panties, so I just took panties off once we started going.

During the ride I played with myself a of times again like I did on the way up, with the camera on the windshield video taping everything. It was daylight again, and I guess nervousness of being spotted was no longer there as we were passing a lot of semi's and I was staring the window, trying see if they could see , lol. I was enjoying myself and since we weren't in any rush get home, stopped more often to around.

We stopped at a restaurant and bought some sandwiches and drinks, then drove some more, till we found this nice vista point that had a little trail and a stream, with some picnic tables. We parked there and ate lunch, then decided to go for a little nature walk and at the stream a little closer.

We walked over an area where there was more tables behind the main buildings and took some nice photos of me on the table in various positions and showing that I didn't have any panties on. With the scenic view behind me I thought they came very nice. An added bonus with walking toward the back we found a foot bridge above the stream. When we walked over the bridge we saw that there was a path next the stream. I immediately thought what a huge turn on of walking and giving the camera a few flashes with others about 50' away! So we both walked down and checked out the area see where I could be and then he headed back up the bridge. I mainly stayed in a small area and flashed the camera by rasing dress up for more pictures.

Once I climbed back up sub told there was a longer path on the other side of the bridge and what did I think if getting completely naked. While I was so excited now with what I had already done I said "let's do it". This side was also more visible the building and parking lots as the path wasn't as low as the other side so I was getting excited about it. This time I walked down the path and once I thought I was far enough flipped dress off and then bra and was completely naked for a few minutes. Keeping an eye the parking lot someone decided walk their and headed over by us, and I had put clothes back on in a hurry. Good thing they were easy access but the bra did not make it back on for the car ride home. LOL.

I figured I had taken enough chances that weekend so the rest of the car ride was pretty calm and vanilla. I also didn't think sub could take much more teasing as he was already so horny from watching all weekend and that's it's been over 5 months since he has been allowed cum. It was a great weekend and next year we're going take an additional day "enjoy" the drive a little longer and take pictures in some abandoned buildings along the way.
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Gold again for now
Posted:Sep 5, 2019 9:58 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 8:25 pm
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Well, finally broke down and did the ice breaker greeting for the free gold subscription. We'll see how it works as the system will messages for me, supposedly only to new members. But it was a real pain not to be able to view profiles. But the real kicker was having to spend a point to chat and you never knew if it was going go through or not.

So for now able to read emails and profiles. If it gets of hand I'll close it.
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Adding a blindfold
Posted:Sep 2, 2019 10:59 am
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 8:24 pm
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So I wrote about the muzzle mask we've bought a few months ago and I have really enjoyed playing with it. Since I'm still not letting sub/hub do oral on me its perfect for sitting on his face and teasing him. With the slots his mouth he get all the smell when I climb up on top but he can do nothing with his tongue. His nose is always out so he gets a big smell and gets very wet. I love grinding on his face as he's tied spread-eagle.



The past few times I have used the mask I placed the goggle blindfold under so he can't see either. It has a very different look when I don't want him to see. Now if I start to do something to myself while he's all spreadout he has to use his imagination to figure out what I'm doing. He does know I'm having a good time from my breathing, LOL. The other nice part is I will leave him tied in bed when I get up in the morning and he really has no idea of time. I can also come back and grind a little to tease him and then let he try and go back to sleep. LOL. This morning I was up early and left him tied for another 3 hours. He had no idea it was almost 10AM before I let him loose. I did climb up on his face one more time before letting him go to start with his chores because I'm so nice.

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Building up his frustration
Posted:Aug 27, 2019 5:12 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 8:24 pm
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My sub has been in orgasm denial for a long time, more so in the past 3 1/2 plus years. He has had only 2 orgasms in that time frame. I used to have to milk him about every -21 days but in the past year I have even stopped doing that as often. Since his last release 4 months ago he has released by a milking twice. The milkings are prostate massages so his lil cock is limp and he receives no pleasure from it, just the feel of sliding of the semen. He's still as horny as ever.

As for anal orgasms, he had one a few months back because I wanted to show our friends what it was like. But before that I can't remember the last time he had one. When I do give him another anal orgasm I want do a forced, multi-orgasm scene where he is tied and not able stop the action but have to endure as many as I want him to have. I think his current record is 6 so I will have to at least double that, if not quadruple that. I'm just waiting for the right time to do that.

The past year he has not been able to wear his chastity cages very much due to work, but that has changed the past month and I'm able to have him wear them a lot more often. Especially since we are playing with friends again and I love knowing he won't be able do anything with his cock and just get more frustrated. With one of the friends we play with it's it's a full swap and he gets to service her in addition to the torment she gives and not expect anything in return, though he really wishes he could. It funny, he still never complains though. LOL. This last time we met it was on the 4 months anniversary of his latest denial period, and while he was kneeling next to her I gave her the option of letting him of his cage. She thought about it for about 2 seconds before saying "no, he can stay locked up". My sub was very disappointed but did everything he was supposed to do the rest of the time we were together for her like a good lil sub.

Something else I started about two months ago was not letting him touch or go down on my pussy. This was something I knew I would be suffering for as well but I think it was a tremendous mind fuck for him. He does give the best oral and can stay there for hours if I wanted him to without complaining. There have been times I've just about said forget it and have him do something but then remembered it's part of the training. Part of the reason why I have been able go this far is that I have resumed fucking other guys again and that takes a lot of the edge off of me.

For sleeping lately he is in a mask that can be worn overnight that lets him smell me but can't use his tongue. I love sitting on his chest and being so close to his mouth and seeing his eyes though the eye holes begging me to let him use his tongue on me. If I tie him early for sleep and leaving the room, I might finger myself first and then rub my finger just under his nose so he can smell me as he tries go sleep.

Since he's not allowed touch we bought padded gloves so he can't touch me directly. On nights when he has the gloves, mask and chastity cage he really can't do much except get super frustrated. LOL.

This weekend I had him in his cage most of the time, especially in the evenings. One of the evenings I was supposed meet a new guy, but when we got to his place, the house and neighborhood were so sketchy, I texted him to tell him I changed my mind. So we went home, and teased my hubby even more. I played with him through his cage till he had the whole cage completely filled and his erection backed up into his pubic area, I love the way that looks and feels. Then I would stop until he went down again and once he recovered I would do it all over again, till he was on the brink of cumming, then stop again. So much fun! The pictures were when I finally release him from the bed and his cock was still somewhat hard, you can see a bulge in the pubic area and his cock coming through the cage.



He asked me when he will be able to orgasm again, and I really don't have an answer for that. Will it be Christmas? New year's Eve? His birthday in March? That might be a good time, as we will be getting together with the other coupletwo we swap with that weekend, and between the two of us I'm sure we can plan some pretty devious things for how we can do it if I decide to let him cum. But on the other hand, I think it's a lot more fun just keep it as a surprise. Don't you?
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New Portable Cage
Posted:Aug 16, 2019 1:24 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 8:23 pm
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We really like playing with cages. We've had a portable cage for as long as I can remember and about 4 years ago we built a small "permanent" cage in the bedroom. The portable cage we keep in a traveling bag and take with us to hotel meets.

I love keeping a sub in the cage and tormenting them with various toys and attaching clips to their nipples and tying them off to the cage as well, be it their cuffs or hair. I especially like tyiing off long hair to the top of the cage to keep their attention. Our femdom friend also seems to like putting my sub inside it and tormenting him while he's locked in.

When the portable cage was first purchased my sub was able to stay in it for a few hours and on occasion spent the night in it. He wasn't that comfortable but he was able to go through the night.

Over the years we've found he isn't as spry as he once was and the time he was able to spend in the portable cage reduced tremendously. At the time we bought the cage is was a good fit but now it makes moving around very limited. With age of course moving around in it is very difficult.

With the addition of wooden poles I really didn't want to stop playing with the cage but minute sessions were not fun either. So we started looking pet stores for a new portable cage and that's when we found the existing cage was a medium. It looked like a large sized cage would work fine and we ordered it to be delivered, which was a trick in itself, as the model we wanted wasn't available in the store or had the option to be delivered to the store. Our hope was that the packaging wasn't like the last cage box that had the cartoon picture of a resting in the cage. Luckily it came in a somewhat plain brown box with very little description of what it was and it was quickly taken to the garage.

This past weekend we finally had an empty house and were able to bring it in to try it . My sub took it to the bedroom to unbox it and figure how to put it together. I figured it would take a while as the old cage could take about 5- minutes to put together, and that was with years of using it, as everything had to be put together so I left the room. My sub called into the bedroom after about 2 minutes so I thought he needed help but he said "check this out" and set up the cage in 30 seconds. My how cage technology has improved! LOL. Everything was pre-attached and you fold it certain ways to set it up. Oh, how nice this one is.

Of course once it was set up I had to have him get inside to see how he fit. The first time he got in it was on the bed so it was a little tricky but he fit so well inside it. The bars on the bottom were an issue as they pushed up off the mattress so he had to adjust for his knees. I kept him in it for a few minutes and had him move around. After he got I even gave it a try to see how much room there was, not that I'll be in there at all. LOL.



We moved it to the floor and he got in once again and the bottom bars were much better with the solid floor. He tried a of positions in the cage and I kept him in it for about minutes as we were limited on time to get it back to the garage.



He also brought the wooden dowels in and they also fit through the openings so they will still be able to be used. I really like forcing subs into various positions while they are inside. Hopefully we can get to the hardware store before we use it again and more.

Looking back, I really like it! I think he will be able to stay inside for much longer periods. Also, the bottom pan will be needed when the cage is used on a bed so the sub inside can stay in longer. While I like them to not be comfortable, I don't want them injured and having to stop play.
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Fun with Friends
Posted:Aug 6, 2019 8:43 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 8:22 pm
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The past few months we have finally been able to get together again on a regular basis with a femdom couple that we have know for quite a few years. It's been really nice as even after the first time we played together in a couple of years, the dynamic makes it seem like we had just played the previous night.

The hotel we have been using lately is new to us and it works out well. It's a two bedroom suite, so it gives us a lot of privacy and most of the time, once we start playing, we don't see each until we take a mutual dinner break or by chance. LOL.

We get to the hotel early to start setting up and maybe play a little as our friends arrive about 8. Once they have settled in we start to play and usually play until 11:30 or midnight before the dinner break. We rest for about an hour before starting to play again. The conversation is usually kink related and what we have done since we last got together.

We used to tag team on the guys in the past, but lately we've been swapping subs as soon as we are together. My sub is already sore when she takes over from us playing before they get there. As a result, I get to domme both subs the same night and I use my sub as a warm up. 😁

I enjoy playing with her sub as he has a very high pain threshold and I can hit harder than what I do with my sub. He also likes playing with needles so that's a plus. Most times I have him lying face down tied on the bed so I can use my paddles, crops and canes. He marks very well so it's nice that all my hard work doesn't go to waste. Though this past time I wasn't very happy with him as first thing he said when they walked in was that he had a doctor's appointment on Monday and I couldn't leave marks. That was not what I wanted to hear. I still managed to do quite a lot of impact play, including zippers, canes, floggers, and my new favorite toy, the flicker. I just wasn't able to leave the zippers on as long as usual, or hit as long or as hard as normal. I had also bought new needles to use on him but he wasn't going to be able to use those either. You can see why I wasn't very happy. I actually did a few zippers, on different parts of his body and played a lot with his nipples and different types of clamps. Of course I love leaving the zippers and clips on him as long as I can so when they do come off they are just that much more painful. I think it was the previous time we played was when I pulled the standing zipper off of him that it really took a bite out of him as he would have doubled over if he wasn't tied to the stand. LOL.



I also used our nipple tree on him for the first time since I was limited on what we could do. It was after dinner and I had him spread out on the bed. Since it was new for him I used a blindfold so he couldn't see me as I kept adjusting the tree to a higher level and eventually I had it stretched really, really tight. While it was on, I added clips all around the nipple area, just to add to the pain. I really liked the moans he gave when I started taking off the tree and the clips came off as he didn't expect me to torment his nipples so soon after. Now where would the fun be if I didn't do that?!?!?

Once I finished with the tree, I put clips on his nipples, and had eight all around, and started using the flicker and then the cane to knock them off. He was not a fan of that. So, as they were different colors, I would put my hand on one and tell him to guess the color. If he was right, I removed it. If he was wrong, it stayed on. He was wrong A LOT, so it took quite a while for them to come off. 😂

Afterward, he said his nipples had never been so sore or swollen before. Made me feel like I accomplished something given that I was limited to what I could do, lol. But I told him that the next time we meet, I will be three times as strict to make up for it. 😂🤣😈. I hope he worries about it all month until we meet again.

One of the bonuses of the new suite is that one couple can play in the main area while the other plays in one of the bedrooms. This gives privacy and the dommes the ability to do things without being watched or second-guessed. We keep the swing stand and bench in the big room, while the cage may stay in large room or gets moved to a bedroom. Usually the room where my sub is as the other sub is too tall for it. Of course the under-the-bed restraints are on both beds! Our friends also have the newer stronger versions like ours.



When I have to go into a room they are playing in I like to do something to my sub; pull the nipple clamps, hit him with the crop, etc. It's funny how he knows I'm there! LOL. But lately he says it's been tougher to know as our friend has been a lot tougher on him. However, I try not to interrupt their scene too much though as I don't want to take anything away from her. She has seems to like using the rubberbands as she keeps them on him for a few positions.



The past couple of times we experimented with swapping partners for the whole night. Both her sub and I are very cold blooded it seems, and both of them are very warm blooded. So it made sense to try this as it also allowed us expand the play we were doing and not get a new partner after dinner in case we didn't get to do everything we wanted.

Since it's late, once we head back to the rooms most of the impact play is done for the night so we don't annoy the neighbors. For us it's usually strapon play, sounds or needles, then off the sleep.

They usually continue the massaging that happens before the break. She's on her feet all week at work so she has my sub do a foot and leg massage on her while he's tied which he says is pretty interesting as he can't go anywhere. After dinner she has him do another full body massage on her which lasts over an hour, after which he pleasures her with his tongue and that can last anywhere from half-hour to well over an hour. My sub doesn't complain about it, I wonder why? LOL. One of the things I'm very envious of her is her ability to have multiple orgasms while having him go down on her. While I can do multiple ones while being fucked, multiple oral ones are difficult for me as they are intense.

In the morning for me it can be more impact play, strapon play or him going down on me before we go out and meet in the morning and start packing things up. I like to get a few more good hits on him before we finish so there more impact play.

A funny story that was told to me by my sub the first night we swapped. He woke up earlier and didn't think we were up yet so he started to give her a massage to wake her up. After a couple of minutes she needed to use the restroom. She left the room and quickly opened the door back up and told him "they're up" without a smile. She didn't know that I was getting the strapon (I had the same reaction when I saw her up as well) and so as she came out of the restroom, I told her we were going to play for a while more. My sub she came back with such a cute smile on her face as she told him we were going be playing. This gave him the opportunity to pleasure her again. They finished after us and when they came out, I went to kiss my sub and he backed away, so I told him "get over here" and I gave him a deep kiss. He told me later she was grinning behind me as I pulled him in to kiss me as he had yet to wash up and that was why he had backed up! Oops, my bad! LOL.

The subs are both pretty sore in the morning from all the beatings they have taken but they aren't complaining. Once everything is packed up and put in the car we go a great restaurant close to the hotel and go and grab lunch before we head our separate ways for another month. I'm so glad we have started getting together and playing with our friends again as we have so much fun.
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Fun with someone new
Posted:Jul 28, 2019 5:39 pm
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2021 8:19 pm
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After months of health issues and vanilla life getting in the way, false starts and such, I was finally able get together with someone new..

Met with him on Wednesday evening, and had a wonderful of hours of non-stop sex. Of course my sub was with me but, as usual, he was tied to a chair in the corner of the room and blindfolded so he could hear but not see. My new friend and I wasted no time getting naked. There was a lot of foreplay with him, which I'm not used to with a bull. Usually the guy is inside me within minutes of being there, but he took his time, and I think I probably had orgasms before he ever put his cock in me. His fingers were very nice!!

He stayed hard the whole time I was there, so we were able try a lot of different positions. We started off with me on my back on the bed, legs over the side of the bed and him standing over me. As it's been a while since being fucked and he had a very different cock (as he described himself "it's like a bullet vibrator is inserted in the head area") the rush of an orgasm me almost immediately of him going inside me. After a few orgasms we switched a doggie position on the bed. Then after a more orgasms we rolled over and I rode him for awhile, which was nice, but then switched my favorite position, table sex. I came soooo hard in that position!! As always, lol! He found he liked it as well and thurst even harder.



We took a minute break for water, then started back up again. We did missionary position for awhile, then a sideways scissors position, then finally another favorite position of mine; lying down doggie position with my legs together, so it was nice and tight. Once again the shape of his cock feeling good and giving me a load of orgasms!!!

I don't know how many times I came that evening, I know it was at least twenty, but sure it was probably more. I asked my sub later how many times he thought I came and he just said "a lot". With the AC turning on and off and other noises where he was left it was difficult for him hear everything.

It had been such a long time since I had a cock inside me, and the last time I was fucked was with subs lil cock so this felt soooo much better, since this guy's cock was longer, and so much thicker, and felt so great. There will definitely be repeat performances.
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Possible cam show tonight
Posted:Jul 27, 2019 9:43 am
Last Updated:Jul 29, 2019 9:42 pm
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We will be meeting with our femdom couple friends but hopefully will be able to cam before they get there. Possibly around 5:30-7 Pacific time. And if we can get the cam to work on here.
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