Married men? How do you handle the situation
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 7:22 am
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 8:23 am 2837 Views
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I chose to blog about this topic instead of just replying to another members posting..
I figured I need the room to air out this topic..
Cause it pops up more than you think..
And obviously you can swap out married man for married woman..
But you'll find it's usually the man doing this...
I'm not even talking about cheating...
I mean a married guy ( both straight,bi,gay) will post an ad looking for..
And they will say it's all good..their partner knows,they have permission..or even..
Gay couples ALOT of times play seperate..
You'll find these ads in both the vanilla and kinky lifestyle..
So how do you broach this topic when a married guy contacts you?
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World's best lifestyle hack? Talk to an older person
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 6:42 am
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 7:03 am 2373 Views
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I'm really suprised this generation of slackers,influencers,don't wanna work 9 to 5 generation doesn't pull the greatest life hack...
Lean on the older mother f ucker with the wrinkles,the scars..the people with knowledge and experience..for advice
Cause some things don't change.
I commented on this tiktok vid on YouTube and this young dude was flexing...
Literally boasting about how much he could " straight curl" a barbell with his back against a wall.
And while everyone was stroking his ego..
I laid the smack down..
Not because I'm jealous...of what..his youth or ability to lift a " heavy weight"??
Your boy is a forktruck...
Anyway it's hard for an " old guy" like myself to just sit back and let someone do something incorrectly..
And you know there will come that light bulb moment...down the road
Where everyone says..
I wasted x amount of years lifting incorrectly..I never got " big"..or I hurt my shoulders..
Or now I got bad knees..
I wish I would have listened..
Young buck? Your talking with a guy that has been lifting on and off for like 35 years..
He and I had a back and forth in the comment session..
Finally he wrote..
I see your point...but my way works best for me.
I replied
And your way is wrong..( I dime dropping it right there)
Someday you'll sit back and contemplate life..
You'll ask yourself where has time gone
And you'll say...
I wish I wouldn't have wasted all those years
Lifting incorrectly..
Then after a torn bicep or back back..
You'll finally be ready
To listen..
I'm not a guru..I'm not influencer..I'm not here to sell you supplement..
Or merch..( but hey imagine me on a t shirt or beer cosey)
I'm am scared, I am wrinkled, I am tired...
This is what you look like when the world
Has beaten you down for 54 yrs
This is what
Experience
Looks like.
So hey keep doing what you think is best for you..
Just saying..But this old motherfuck
At 54.. can squat,over head press,bench..( my knees,my back,my hips,my shoulders are fine..never been injured...w/o any pain)..
And hopefully when you reach 54..you can say the same..
For such a slacker generation I'm suprised they don't use this hack..
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Do people really want the experience or just the fantasy
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Posted:Dec 4, 2023 12:41 pm
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2023 6:48 am 2789 Views
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I posted this after reading something on fet..
69 yr old guy is looking for some to tie him up,explore bondage,orgasm control..
Soooooooo if your cynical like me...
Your thinking..good luck..
No way in hell does anyone really reply..
Nope,nada,zilch..not a chance
Then a slightly younger guy replies,explains he's a novice etc..
And then the 69 yr old literally dumps the fantasy barrel on this dude..
Detailing the whole thing ..in ALOT of detail
And I ponder
Bro your 69...you brought up bondage..
Got someone to actually reply
Dumped the equivalent of your literally load on this guy..
You bukatted the fucker
And most likely ghosted him..
But that's my guess..
I ponder
Do people really want to connect
Or are they just living vicariously
Hey no sweat off my brow..
But what if you were that other dude and was sincere
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What is your biggest lifestyle fear
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Posted:Dec 4, 2023 9:54 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2023 1:06 pm 2541 Views
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By now
Maybe you've guessed
That I missed my calling
In life..
And should have become a therapist.
I think part of my strength is
I can hold back judgement,not trying to instantly solve your problem,
Give you a wall to lean on and
Just simply listen..
So I was curious as to what holds you back from your lifestyle dreams and fantasises..
Why arent you that Big daddy Dom or super sissy slave...
What holds you back from being that kick ass Domme..
Why don't you have what you secretly desire...
And in the end
Would you be happy?
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A tinder experiment
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Posted:Dec 3, 2023 8:16 pm
Last Updated:Dec 4, 2023 8:49 am 2386 Views
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Watching this YouTubers vid where he had his female friend
Use his actual pic and sign up for tinder as a dude..
Did she have any luck getting dates???
Fyi this guy in real life is good looking..maybe an 8?.. in good shape and she listed his occupation as a psychologist in the profile...
So you tell me
What's your gut feelings on this one
I'll give the results in the reply..
So spoilers
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Should things like gender/ orientation/ age( adults im talking about) matter in bdsm
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Posted:Dec 3, 2023 8:40 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 5:01 am 3059 Views
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Im curious as to what different people think.
I'm not here to judge..I'm certainly not woke.
But should gender,sexual orientation,people of any age ( adults),body size,etc
Matter
When it comes to bdsm..
I understand attraction,I understand appeal..
But people see this through a sexual lens
I'm talking about bdsm,control..
And could it really open your eyes and help you find the person you seek?
I ask this because people are quick to plaster themselves with labels..
I'm straight or I'm wrapped up in the rainbow flag..
And I wonder why we automatically dismiss this other person..this whole group of people
Straight dude...have you ever paddled a f*g's ass..???
I can use that term cause..duh
I ask this in all seriousness because
Straight guys do make up a good portion of the members in m2m spanking groups and websites..
Cause it isn't sexual.
I think men turn to men for discipline for a variety of reasons.
1. Lack of resources...the straight guy is probably 40,50,60..married..
Single females want a guy,a master of their own..
So that severely limits his access to playtime..
And if his wife is his slave..
Playing with another female could cause jealousy issues.
Issues he's not gonna have with one of the boys
2. Women probably are better at pain..but I think there is this societal hesitation/ guilt/ hangover when it comes to discipling a female..as men we don't want to hurt her/ see her in pain.
But lucky for us...Men seem more attracted to discipline and being disciplined..
And any hesitation we had disciplining a woman..
Goes out the door when the submissive is male..
Plus I feel there is this societal approval for a male being disciplined..We luv watching a male idiot on YouTube eating hott stuff or getting his balls struck..we luv those americas funniest home vids and seeing dad get that wiffle ball to the testicles.
So people in general feel freer to discipline a male.
3. Guys are just bigger...and we feel like a man could take more or physically dish out more..based solely on size.
Plus his size may prompt a man to spank someone..
4. There is also that bro mentality..your with the guys..without being with the guy.
So yeah you can put sex out of the way and just play..
Once you get past gender,orientation,age ( adults),body types etc..
It actually is very refreshing and does open up alot of avenues..
And sure I get a cross dresser,a gay dude,a 60yr old, a bbw..
May not be your thang..
But I also believe your thang...
Maybe the thing that is keeping you from finding your best lifestyle match.
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Should there be different tier levels for those that search
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Posted:Dec 3, 2023 6:59 am
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2023 9:04 pm 2675 Views
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I was at the gym yesterday ( keep reading this is relevant)..
And this bro comes over and ask if I'm using..
No not steroids..
He is asking if he can use the 45lb plates on the bench rack..
I said yes...
Cause I'm tired of people borrowing them and then not bringing them back..I need them when I shrug.
Same bro comes back like 10 minutes later..and asks
Like wtf is going on
...he is loading up a leg press machine with like 8 45 plates..stealing any plate he can off of every machine...so basically nobody can use the other machines
And I'm thinking...wtf are you at planet pizza if you ego lift like that.
Yes when you can bench,squat,d lift so much...maybe it is time to get another gym..
And it got me wondering about the lifestyle...
Should their be seperate tiers...to seperate people and make your goals more obvious..
For example a lot of guys will flock to a Domme because..She's a Domme...and/ or she list various fetishes guys really want to explore....
Now you may be saying...hold up leo...we don't need seperate spaces..
A Domme can think for herself and list in her profile...what she wants..
But A lot of times these profiles aren't an accurate depiction of what she wants or how men interpretate it..
For example She list herself as a "sadist"....
Right up my alley and gets my attention....but does sadist mean the same thing to her as it does me?
To only find she really isn't a sadist but that something she aspires to
Okay? Well then learn on me??
And then...nothing..
The same could be said of wanting a relationship...
And cool I'd luv to be exclusive with someone..let's get to know one another..play..see how we click.
Men tend to put the casual dating/ play first...and then the relationship developes..
Women tend to want that relationship right off the bat ??? With the getting to know you phase before they even want sex/ play..
So it can get confusing..
On gay personal sites they really break it down ...are you looking for sex,dating,a long relatiinship,fwb,bj,..
I think something like this could be set up with say colored stars on a profile.
So when I see say a purple star on a women's profile it is obvious that she really is relationship focused..
And if I'm not wanting that...I shouldn't waste anyone's time.
The same could be said about being a sadist..
I've been with 3 seperate women...all said they are Dommes..
Yet none of them were interested in discipline..
And yes a lot of people do use bdsm for sex..there needs to be a tier for them
It would be nice if people were either extremely precise with their profiles or if there was someway to direct traffic.
For example..I know I'm wasting my time even writing to that TPE Domme..
Cause that isn't me..
Even thought I'm most likely the only slave that truly understands that desire..
And not to brag...but ladies..if you truly want to strap it on..
Then as a natural bottom boy..
I'm probably the best suited for that desire.
But if she's posting say a red star..I know she's big time into control..
And if I'm posting say green...
Then I should try another tier..or gym..or whatever..
I also think a star might help some people overcome the fear of their own sexuality..
Like say there could be a star for just lgbtq friendly..
Which doesn't mean sex..
I think a lot of times websites,groups are quick to seperate the straights from the gays..
And I wonder why..
But anyway like that swamp donkey piss missile ( phrases the today say)...that
Takes all the plates and inconveniences everyone else..
Maybe it's time certain people went to
Another gym..
Er..their own more defined space,their own lane
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The using of daffney ..a wrestlers story
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Posted:Dec 2, 2023 3:27 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2023 5:22 am 2397 Views
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I freely admit that it's been 20 some years since I really tuned into " wrestling"..
And honestly I always thought...
Fuck who wouldn't want to be a pro wrestler...rich,famous,have your own action figure..hell even a jobber makes more than me
Sign me up...said me and every other 20yr olds
And sure we all knew wrestling was fake
And that yeah people taking that many bumps for a living tend to get injured.
But I always thought it was the nature of the beast..part of the job.
Until a YouTube video revealed the real danger/ beast in wrestling..the creative control,the writers,the bookers.
I'll admit I had no clue who daffney the wrester was..
I say " was" because she is no longer with us.
Most likely someones , who thought this was her ticket out of that small town..
And yeah for some reason this wrestling company tna under Vince Russo decided to have " hardcore" matches..
With the women's division.??? Huh???
Women that weight like 120lbs
If you look closely at any wrestling company you see there is a pecking order..
Certain big stars don't get put through tables..these aren't exposed to the risk.
And the same was true with this company..the majority of women didn't take these dangerous bumps..
But Daffney...well Vince russo..head writer kept blowing smoke up her ass..telling her to do all this dangerous shit..
Like get slammed into a matt filled with thumb tacks or get slammed through a barbed wire covered table..
And this is how scummy pro wrestling really is..
Mick foley..cactus jack..dude love..mankind...a hero to many
The king of doing dangerous unnecessary stupid shit in the ring...
Which cost him the loss of many teeth and his left ear...
Advised Daffney that she should do the bumps..that it would make her famous..
Mick Foley who knew first hand this hardcore style of wrestling doesn't advance your career,
A guy that knew the company wasn't going to advance daffney..she was midcard..replaceable..a punching bag
She was cannon fodder..
Mick Foley told this 120lb girl...to just take the bumps..
And within a 3 to 6 month time period Daffney went from a healthy,vibrant, talented wrestler..
To suffering 3 concussion which landed her in the hospital.
Which lead to hospital bills that tna,Vince Russo refused to help her with..
The irony is originally the courts D eclaired Daffney an " employee" and not an independent contractor..
Which could of had huge ramifications for wrestler when they are injured.
But that got tossed out.
This company,these men used Daffney and then turned a blind eye..
The YouTube video said Daffney had cte from the concussion and got super depressed..
Before one night
Ending it all..
The irony?
Our hero
Mick Foley posted an Instagram or tweet singing the praises of D affney and how she will sadly
Be missed??
And I'm like mother fucker...you knew what bumps like that did to your fat pig body..
Why the fuck would you advise it of a 22 yr old 120lb woman.
And I bring this up because Daffney also did tag matches with male partners..
And one dude threw her out of the ring like a rag doll..
Now I get..she was an adult...
But I also understand those in creative dangling that carrot and promising her she would be a star..
If ..
Well take thethese bumps...do those hardcore matches
And listen to any YouTube wrestling podcast and you'll know Vince Russo was a pos..
But Mick Foley???
Just goes to show you how evil men can be..
Mick Foley sold her out to fatten his own belly...
And this really sickens me...
It's akin to animal farm...with the pig now in charge..
Unfortunately this doesn't stop and they just get new " daffneys"..
And I wonder why we still watch.
I saw a clip of Randy Orton ( a big star) pick up ray mystero's ..dirty Dom and slam him into the announcers table..
Not once..but twice??? Why??
And you know damn well nobody in the company is doing that to randy..he doesnt take those bumps
I thought about Dom's actual pain...slammed twice
And it added nothing to the product..
It was stupid and could have permanently injured the man..
I wondered where is osha in all of this...imagine me body slamming a co worker and they were concussed.
I mean if you look at wrestling I can think of 2 deaths in the ring..Owen Hart and droz.
Yet contractors in their work place are constantly being injured.
And this will continue...them dangling that carrot before a ..
And telling him to take the bumps..
It'll make them a star.
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