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strange qualifications
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Posted:Apr 16, 2017 4:04 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2017 11:28 am 4441 Views
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On an other site, i was contacted by a man....
He did not have anything in his profile, only some photos..... of wich one was the symbol of BDSM... roses, barbed wire...
and a foto of someone with some strange punk hair do and very, very young, wich was in contrast with his age on his profile....?
So, ofcourse, i am curious... hahahaha not, bored more likely......
so chat....
all nice and good, no rude behaviour... that could indicate he wants to play the submissive role....?
so after the smal talk......, he asked THE most boring question online, most wrong
pick-up line EVER.....
BORING.......
I always respond by saying out of boredom i am online... duh!
I ask what is this with your profile age and your foto?
and Why?
He tell me he has a thing for "older women".....but can not put that on that site...Yes, i confess this is a vanilla site....
out of boredom, i am capable of anything!! 
So, the only qualification a woman does need is her age.....? Really?
i always find that a very rude remark.... i dont no why? Am i too sensitive?
It always gives me somehow a very dirty feeling.... in need of a shower! fast!
so she can have a very nasty personality?, bad body hygiëne? bad tooth...? be bold?
Strange....?
All she have to bé is old/older.....? YUK! and rude too.
Her only qualification is her age.....?
I am always totally flabbergasted.
I know there are all kind of people with all kind of fetishes...
but age?? huh?
ageplay i can understand.... the caring, the playfullness... i understand...
but this? I totally dont understand.....
OBJECTIFYING.....? again?
AM i lacking something, missing something here?
or...? is it OBJECTIFYING ALL OVER AGAIN!?
To long on breast feeding? to short on breast feeding? .... jest......
what the heck is his problem!?
rude behaviour in my eyes......
I think i am going to change my profile age... to be on the safe side...  LMAO!
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sensuallity versus sexuality
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Posted:Apr 14, 2017 8:14 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2017 11:29 am 4437 Views
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Lets put this blunt,
The whole society is sexualized! Yes that is a word!
This means; WOMEN are sexualized!
look at all the commercials....?
So, sex is something you can sell or buy something with...
a fleeting feeling of happiness?
a fleeting feeling of belonging?
A fleeting feeling of BEING someone, because YOU bought thát special brand of car? coffee? shoes??
You name it.
This is all happening on a sub awareness level... it does.
Most people are not aware of this.... manipulation of the massesss....
so, females are flesh you can buy something for or with....
Sex is not longer a pure feeling anymore....
it is commercialized.....
You can buy women, you can buy sex....
I believe we all, are born as sensual beings, that means, we are aware of the body we are in, and we enjoy touching and feeling it, as a whole,.. each others and our own skin....
As a , when you grow older, you learn in some families, that there are some area's you do not touch yourself,
so you get a separation, in feeling and wanting to feel... and feeling good about that too.
This is all part of our upbringing... every, almost everybody is brainwashen this way...
Now you are a grownup and your image about sex and sexuality is all focussed on these area's wich you were not allowed to touch....
very narrow minded sexual image...
To me, it is only natural to touch people, when i talk to people i know, or we have a nice conversation were there is much mirrowing, about the topics we discus,
i touch people.
Like the more Southern countrys are custom to do, Italy, Spain, Portugal, Greece, .. it is part of their social code...
That is totally not sexual, not at all.
that is sensual,
To me, there are not much bounderies between sensual touching or sexual touching,
i mean the one can flow into the other, when you both are in balance... and or wanting that....
Here i find only totall fixation on THE PENIS, as a substitute for a more whole sensuality/sexuality...
You miss so much, if you are only fixated on YOUR PENIS....
your whole body is a sex organ...
if you only know how the act on that....
My ex husband did not get this, so every time i caressed him, he thought i wanted SEX....
He just could not grasp his head around it, that i only did that to make him feel good, give him some time to relax..... he just could not do that.
thats all!
it was not mean to be foreplay....
it was just some very sensual touching and caressing....
He was sooo focussed on the sexual act, (his penis) he could not let go of that and enjoy the massages, touching as an act on his own...
I see and hear that here all the time, the moment i tell i am not (that) interested in sex.. they are afraid of me, LOL
as if i deny a very big part of their beingness.... this can not be true! i must be sick....?!
I dont see sex as a deed, on his own, i see it as a deed within so much more...
sex is boring, sex is easy, sex is totally not interesting at all,
getting naked and perform the act is booring...
to me, that is.
I am talking vanilla sex, kinky sm play sex.... boring.....
But that is because i am a masochist, i like the thud over the sting....
The sensual touching of each other, just as a sign that you appreciate that other person...
That you acknowledge that other being, as an important being for you...
That gives me a boost.
they should and could flow into each other, the sensual beings we are, with the need for the deed..... lol.... but that is not written in concreet.
It is strange that on a site like this, there are soo many sexual occupied people, who are only able to think and act on one thing....
so very much occluded.
So narrow minded.... strange......
Oh, and if you want to go for a quicky, that is a whole other categorie! 
Just my rambling about sexuality and human behaviour.....
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no (vanilla) romance, please!
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Posted:Apr 9, 2017 12:23 pm
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2020 6:05 am 4832 Views
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As i see it, trying to find that one man, that one relation, is all about being COMPATIBLE, on more then 1 level.
negotiation is key.
Wanting the same out of such a Authority Transfer Relation.. meaning he is the one with the decision force in the relation, AFTER, we negotiated that, in depth.
No soft vanilla "romance" please,
but being able to open up to each other.
Ask, listen, ask some more, get back to what was spoken about before, getting all parts of the relation very crystal clear...
What he needs and wants from me, and what i need from him, on the relation level, ánd on the SM level.
The masochist in me has needs too, longing for your sadistic self....
And ofcourse our Loving SM style....
Being a stable force and strength is ONE VERY BIG WANT.
Being in control of himself is a necessity.
Having some sense of humor is also very wanted.
Being firm, trustwarthy....
Saying what he means and meaning what he says... Doing what he says too.
Being somewhat rough and strong and loving too.
Challenge, incite me, mentally..... to give my best... always....
Bé.
There should be a continue flow of communication, maybe even negotiation too...
changing, ever growing..... in depth......
Master-slave Masochistic-Submissive, -Sadistic as the base of the sm sexual part of the relation.
The whole authority Exchange/Transfer part of the ever growing relation as the foundation of the whole.....
easy-peasy....
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Weather in Holland...
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Posted:Apr 8, 2017 5:04 am
Last Updated:Apr 8, 2017 10:52 am 4587 Views
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The weather here is almost always dull, not much action, no big storms, no big anything... just clouds, some rain, sometimes sunny, always cloudy, mostly all day windy, windy, windy... cold.....
So, when the temperature all of the sudden rises some degree everybody panicks!
Totall madness!
Last night it was still freezing, just 1 or 3 degree.... and today they want to have a real hot day! like 20 degrees! Celsius...Right! Sure!
(. i dont not the Fahrenheit on that...)
They must be starving mad!
The ground is still too cold! The air is still cold.
Everytime again, this is happening; all code orange or red!
panic! everybody is taking their BBQ out, totall madness!
There is not even sun, at all, till this hour! It is really totally overcast.... what the F...K !!??
How in the heavens, do they think it will get 20 degree?
I always wonder what is going on in their heads?
Do they not look outside? Think on their own? Put one arm outside the window.. to actually FEEL?
Just total focussed on the weather broadcast.....?
Really!?
So, an other overcast day, cold, like 9 degree.... it always takes some time, to really get into spring, here...
In may it might be more stable... above 12 degree.... or 15....
In South Portugal the weather is really nice, in february the temperature is steady on rising, around 18 degree.. and going steady UP!
The ground warms up, the air warms up, all and everything warms up!
This only happens in Holland around june, maybe.... till august maybe.... and after that it drops again....
This happens also when there is a big fog going on, or some storm, all and everybody panics.
Code red!
It looks like nobody is capable anymore to adjust to what is happening out side their homes?
Cant handle the weather anymore.... no common sense present.
Totall madness.
I always wonder what the heck is going on?
why the panic? The craziness?
Look outside your window! look at the sky!
Look at how or if trees move!
How people behave outside!
Nót that difficult, dont you think?
The weather... is the one hot topic in Holland to lament about....
So, so boring... the one and only topic... (safe topic ofcourse...)
there is a war going on in the rest of the world, the whole world is in turmoil.....
famine in Africa..... sighs...
I always say; there is no weather in holland, hahaha!
it is always too cold, too much rain, too much of anything.... bore....
So, now i took my part in the lamenting too.  
Hope you enjoy your weather today! 
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My good deed for today
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Posted:Apr 7, 2017 10:19 am
Last Updated:Apr 11, 2017 2:34 am 4648 Views
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Today was finally a day that i could leave the backdoor open...yes, that is safe in this neighborhood/ town....
so, all nice and sunny, me outside and inside, doing all kind of errands...
Just a quiet afternoon.... reading, doing some laundery, giving my next door neighbor his gift, because that man is always willing to help me, with DIY.
I have the idea, he has the body strength.... and that is all. no hassle, thank you!
So, i made some tea, just sipping my first cup, i see a wasp trying to get out... by hitting into the glas......window...
Thats no good! so i safed a wasp!! my good deed for today! hurray, hurray!!!!
it was a very big wasp! brrrr....
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escapism
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Posted:Apr 6, 2017 4:11 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2017 11:14 am 5073 Views
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For most people on here, ALT is just a way to escape the hassle of the day, with the boss or the wife, or what not....
Just a way to live for a very short time in a fantasy, in wich they RULE, not matter what...
All fantasialand, that is why so many men put you on their hotlist, without even looking if there is a match..... or if it is even logical what they are doing....
because the only norm they use, is do you, somehow, fit their fantasy? Do you or your writings stimulate, trigger their fantasy in some way?
Because their whole and only purpose here, is ESCAPISM from their pathetic little boring lifes...
They are in no way, shape or form ever capable of BEING something even close to dominance...or submission, ...... only in their fantasy.....
they fantasise about it and that is free...
You can fantasise about all and everything.... just dont forget that its just THÁT.
A FANTASY..
There is were they miss big time.... time and time again.... They all get very, very upset if you dont want to play along in their little fantasy game...
Start cursing you; trying to humiliate you, by doing so, showing how they lack, on soo many levels...
" you are not a sub!? you are fake!?" Sure....
And they are right, i am fake, to their fantasy, that is....
Oh, and always, always, want to have to last word... no matter what..... giggles....
I feel sorry for them... i do.....
i get the most bizar mail from men, who really have no clue whatsoever, and especially not about who i am...
Not interested too.... as long as they, in their little fantasy,
can 'dominate'(?) me... = fuck me to dead.... yawn.....
boooringgggg! so, so, terrible boring... yawn.....
My life is very, very real and how i chose it to be... no need for escapism.
My life is whole, as it is.
The man who understands & captures my submissive and masochistic heart is really, really wanted, loved and honored.
it has not always been easy but who told life would be easy? You learn, you struggle, you grow... you are proud of your own achievement, you like what you see, everyday in the mirrow. Thát is what counts.
No need for escapism here.
Stay safe and sane,
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Spring! Spring is in the air!
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Posted:Apr 3, 2017 11:29 am
Last Updated:Apr 4, 2017 10:26 pm 5046 Views
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it is gradually getting warmer, over here... I love it!
I can sleep without pyjama's again! finally.... ánd.....ánd..... without bedsocks!
Yes! i do wear bedsocks! very sexy, i know!
I dont have to put the cv ( central heating ) on in the morning, just put some candles on, that is enough,
to warm the kitchen and livingroom...
ánd, on top of that, i have been washing/cleaning my windows!
my god, was that necessary!
Só much more light in my house now! it is almost hurting my eyes! , hahaha
It is spring! almost... sometimes it still freezes in the night... brrrr..
i cant stand the cold.
The garden is my next project.... i am happy.
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i feel a blog post is coming up....
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Posted:Apr 3, 2017 7:43 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 9:5 pm 4802 Views
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This is something that bugs me a lot... for a while now....
I think i might be just tóó simple... to work this out on my own....
So, now i am lost.... hahaha later.... maybe
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I feel.... I feel.....
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Posted:Apr 2, 2017 9:14 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 9:5 pm 4998 Views
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I feel like a ship without a Captain...
I am my own first class seaman.... i know what to do, how to keep the vessel on course....
It is going steady, i see beautiful sunsets, Dolphins, turtle.... eat all the good food,
life the good life.... and still......
I manage.....
But, by Golly, it would sail with much more flair and grandeur... if there was an Captain on deck.....
I feel...... i feel..... a bit lost without my Captain,
wich harbour is safe...? were to rest safely....?
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